Chapter 1074 (One Thousand and Seventy-Four) Invasion
The reason why Wu Xunsheng is worried is because the Tiecang tribe has a custom - after getting married, if the parents of the other party are not officially recognized as " Two people who are married must not live in the other's parents' home and live with the other's parents.
Among the Tiecang tribe, if after getting married, if you do not recognize the other parent as "Jie father" or "Jie mother" but live in the other parent's home with the other parent, it will be regarded as a serious intrusion into the other parent's private space. Being seen as an intrusion into the normal life of the other parent will be seen as extremely disrespectful or even insulting to the other parent.
In the Tiecang tribe, most of the parents whose children are married cannot accept their children's spouses living with them. Most of them cannot stand having a stranger invade their own children just because their children are married. space.
Among the Tiecang tribe, if one of the married parties returns to live in his parents' small home for a period of time, then the married child will need to temporarily separate from his spouse during the period of living in his parents' small home. .
Of course, there are a very small number of parents who don’t mind their children’s spouse living with them in their own small home. If at this time, their child’s spouse happens to like to live with them in their own home, that is to say, everyone is willing , then the spouse of his or her child must first hold a ceremony to recognize him or herself as the "father" or "mother". After acknowledgment, even if your child's spouse lives with you in your own home, it will not be regarded as an intrusion into your own small home.
Hearing Wu Xunsheng's question at this time, Tie Hongyan asked with a smile: "Are you very resistant to calling my father your 'father'?"
Wu Xunsheng nodded immediately without even having time to think about it. However, after nodding his head a few times, he didn't want Tie Hongyan to think that he was dissatisfied with Tie Wandao, so he quickly said to Tie Hongyan: "Let me use an analogy. Let's not talk about becoming a father." The matter of marriage. If you are an ordinary person and in the tribe you live in, as long as you get married to someone, according to the customs of that tribe, the other person’s parents are designated as your parents. You can’t even choose whether to let them. They have no room to be your parents, they are forced to do so. Would you feel uncomfortable in this situation? "
Tie Hongyan smiled and said: "Do you even need to ask? I can't choose, of course I feel uncomfortable! How can I force someone to designate my parents like this? My parents are the ones who gave birth to me. Even if they haven't done both, at least, One of the two things is "having given birth to me" or "raising me". How can the identity of parents be forcibly assigned? When marrying a person, the other person's parents have neither given birth to me nor raised me. The parents of the other party are designated as my parents, and I have no choice whether to agree or not. Isn’t that ridiculous? You said that we should not talk about becoming father and mother, but I still want to say that unless I Do I have a special relationship with the other person's parents? If I have a choice and am not forced to do so, I will willingly call the other person's parents my "father" and "mother". Otherwise, they will forcibly designate my parents just because we are married. , in my opinion, this is just a joke, and it is also an offensive joke." (End of this chapter)