When Qiu Xiangrong was in his early twenties, several matchmakers came to his door, intending to arrange a marriage for him.
He is not bad looking, tall and strong, honest, and hard-working. Girls from several surrounding villages are attracted to him.
His parents either don't know, or they don't care, but the child is already at this age, and it would be embarrassing to delay it any longer.
So, from among the girls introduced by the matchmaker, I selected someone according to the standard of good fertility.
In those years, Qiu Xiangrong seemed to be a real fool. His whole brain was in a state of chaos and he had no self at all. He did whatever his parents said, worked hard and was at the mercy of others.
Maybe the life trajectories of the peers around him who are not in school are like this, so Qiu Xiangrong doesn't think there is anything wrong. This is life, this is his life.
After the blind date dinner, the quasi-in-law relationship between the two families was confirmed.
It's not because both men and women have a good impression of each other and feel that they can go hand in hand for the rest of their lives - whether they like each other or not depends entirely on the matchmaker's mouth.
But, in terms of the efficiency of work in the village, sometimes the links that should be slow will become very fast. If two families on a blind date can sit down at the same table and have a meal, it means they can get engaged. If the engagement is on the agenda, it means they can get married. After the wedding is completed, it means the groom's parents can wait to have their grandson.
But this life process of Qiu Xiangrong was blocked from the siege by the betrothal gift, in a very embarrassing way.
The woman's family saw that Qiu Xiangrong's family had just built a beautiful two-and-a-half-story building, and felt that their family must be well-off, and the bride price was 50,000 yuan.
It’s not a big deal, because the woman’s parents don’t want the money, but want to give their children extra protection after marriage. They have agreed with Qiu Xiangrong’s parents that they will give the money when they get married. Put it in the dowry and take it with you.
Qiu Xiangrong's parents were very happy and agreed before the engagement, but their faces changed after the engagement.
I don’t want to give the gift money anymore.
They didn’t want to pay for it in the first place.
First, the buildings built just for the sake of reputation have almost emptied the family fortune. Second, I feel that if I give the money to my daughter-in-law, she will eventually bring it back as a dowry, but after all, it has already gone into the pockets of the young couple.
They use themselves to judge others. They think it is easy to put it in, but it is too difficult to take it out.
The attitude before the engagement was just a delaying tactic. They felt that the woman would not regret it after the engagement, and would give in even for the sake of face.
Qiu Xiangrong put it nicely: "It's not that we don't want to pay for the bride price, but we don't want you to pay for the dowry. The financial situation of our two families is here, and it is not easy. Although the child's marriage is a big event, but You can’t empty your family’s money just for this matter, you still have to leave some pension money for yourself.”
As for the bride price, the parents of the two parties went back and forth several times without reaching an agreement. The Qiu family refused to let go, so the woman's family thought they didn't really want to get married.
Anyway, they were just engaged, and there was no financial relationship between the two families, so the woman proposed to cancel the engagement.
How can this be done? If the engagement is cancelled, where will the Qiu family’s face go?
When Qiu Xiangrong committed a crime, he announced it to the outside world like a loudspeaker, saying that the girl was Qiu Xiangrong's, but he was not satisfied with their Xiangrong family and felt that they would never be able to live together, so Insist on breaking off the engagement.
The rumors spread rapidly in a very short period of time, becoming more and more unpleasant and outrageous as they spread.
The woman's whole family came to Qiujia Village to cause a scene. Qiu Xiangrong's parents were completely disgraced, and he couldn't hold his head up either.
From then on, no one wanted to kiss Qiu Xiangrong anymore. The bad bamboo can produce good bamboo shoots, but the lethality of the bad bamboo is also really great, and most people cannot bear it.
Qiu Xiangrong no longer stayed at home. He packed up a few clothes, took his few savings, and left. He found a job as a tally clerk in a supermarket chain in the city, and then met Tao Huaxin, who worked part-time as a cashier.
After Tao Huaxin graduated from junior college, the two established a relationship. In the days that followed, Qiu Xiangrong found time to work part-time again, saving money on food and expenses, hoping to save a decent amount of money for betrothal gifts.
Three years later, he suddenly received a call from his neighbor, saying that his father had broken his leg and had been sent to the hospital in the town. Someone had to take care of him during the hospitalization and asked him to go back.
Qiu Xiangrong thought about it for a long time, and finally went back to take a look at Tao Huaxin's persuasion.
It was exactly as he expected. He was asked to go back because he wanted him to pay.
The eldest son has already settled in a big city and is burdened with car and house payments. The younger son has also found a job in a big city, and his salary cannot be spent until the end of the month. Both of them are financially stressed. There is only this second child, no family, no job, no need to spend money.
Qiu Xiangrong listened to his mother chattering about settling accounts. He finished the cold lunch box in three or two bites and threw the chopsticks into the trash can.
“If we don’t have money to treat him, then the bones are broken. They will grow better if we leave them alone. I’m going to go get my dad discharged from the hospital now and go home!”
The couple looked at each other, as if they finally realized at this moment that they had lost control of their dick.
His father could no longer work in the fields, and his mother could not do the heavy work. Qiu Xiangrong had no choice but to quit his job and go home. While taking care of his father, he also took care of the crops in the fields.
He regarded himself as a male caregiver, asking for money from his parents on a monthly basis, even if he didn't give it, then no one would care about him.
The eldest son and the younger son could not count on each other, so the old couple could only pinch their noses to identify them.
Not long after, Tao Huaxin ran into some trouble and quit his job. He then found a job in a supermarket in the town as a cashier.
After Qiu Xiangrong's father fully recovered, the family put the marriage on the agenda.
Actually, Tao's father and Tao's mother were opposed to this marriage at first. Who Qiu Xiangrong's parents are and what they have done can be found out by asking someone for a while. They feel that if their daughter gets married, her married life will definitely be a mess.
Qiu Xiangrong also saw their attitude. During one of his visits, he brought all his family property with him and gave it all to Tao Huaxin in front of Tao's father and Tao's mother.
Tao Huayu stared at him and called "brother-in-law" sincerely.
On the day of the wedding, Qiu Xiangrong didn't save any face for his parents.
There is a custom in weddings here that the bride cannot enter the house immediately after arriving at her husband's house. She must sit quietly at the gate for half an hour on a chair prepared by her mother-in-law.
It is said that this custom is passed down from ancestors. In the past, it was standing for half an hour, but now it is sitting for half an hour.
That’s very considerate, right?
The purpose is to test the filial piety of the newlyweds. Only after passing this test can the family live in peace and harmony in the future.
But this, like the marriage troubles in some areas, is actually a kind of cultural dross. With the development of the times, the custom of sitting quietly before entering the door has been gradually abandoned in this area.
At present, if anyone dares to do this when getting married, it is simply causing discomfort to the bride.
I wish everyone a harmonious and beautiful life!