Liu Wangxue feels that marriage is both simple and complicated.
To put it simply, it is nothing more than an idealized version of you loving me and me loving you. Marriage certificates and weddings are the most solemn rituals in the process of falling in love with each other.
Speaking of complexity, love or not is secondary. Other reasons cannot be discussed in detail. Only "interest" is enough for some people to plan their lives.
Liu Wangxue thought of the rumors on the Internet that Tan Xueqing and Shen Xun have been together for ten years - this year should be the thirteenth year - when most people hear it at first, their first reaction will be surprise and confusion. Asked: "You haven't gotten married after dating for more than ten years?"
Liu Wangxue had the same idea at first, but then I thought about it, in fact, not only celebrity couples in the entertainment industry, but also ordinary couples are determined to stay together for the rest of their lives. There is nothing surprising or strange about people walking together but not getting married without a certificate.
Liu Wangxue thought that Tan Xueqing and Shen Xun were also like this, but now listening to the meaning of Tan Xueqing's words, this was obviously not the case for them.
The conversation about marriage was not pleasant. I don’t know what their respective considerations were. Liu Wangxue felt that as an outsider, she had better not comment, so that she could live a more understanding life. If Tan Xueqing wanted to say something, she would just be a listener.
Liu Wangxue and Wenxi looked at each other, and Wenxi obviously thought so too.
Duan Yue and Ni Jia are about the same age, and they never imagined that they would be so deep in love. She and Han Zhenhao are in the period of passionate love, and they are about to talk about marriage. Their longing for marriage is also beautiful: "Any ideas are welcome. It’s negotiable. It’s great to get married. You can have a small family of your own, and you can have someone to take care of each other. Sharing happiness will double it, and sharing worries and sorrows will instantly halve it. How happy!”
Ni Jia thinks what she said makes sense: "But this kind of happiness has a prerequisite. For example, the person you meet must first like you."
Ni Jia said and winked at Liu Wangxue and Wen Xi: "For example, Sister Xu Xu and Brother Qingsong, and then Sister Xi Xi and Boss Du." Then he lightly bumped Duan Yue with his shoulder and changed the subject: "Listen to what you said, you Do you and Brother Hao also have plans to get married?”
“Yes,” Duan Yue nodded, “When you fall in love, you need to get married, and Brother Hao and I met on a blind date, and we are together. , they started talking about it on the premise of getting married.”
“Blind date?” The four of them said in unison. It was unexpected that Duan Yue and Han Zhenhao got together through a blind date.
Okay, now the topic has completely taken a turn.
Duan Yue started to speak, still a little embarrassed.
This blind date was facilitated by Han Zhenhao's mother. Han's mother was relatively traditional in thinking. Seeing that her son was already thirty years old and still had no girlfriend, she finally couldn't hold back her desire to be a grandmother, so she began to arrange a blind date for him.
Han’s mother didn’t want Han Zhenhao to find a celebrity girlfriend. She thought that if both of them had jobs and were together less and separated more, it would be very detrimental to the stability of the relationship, so she asked her old sisters to ask if there was a suitable candidate.
Old sisters also like Han Zhenhao very much. It happens that their relative’s daughter has just graduated from graduate school, and the family is also urging her. The elders discussed it and hit it off immediately.
When Duan Yue first heard that he was an actor, he searched online and found that he was quite famous, but he was unwilling and said to his mother: "He is a big star, what kind of person are you looking for in the entertainment industry?" , There is no need to waste time if you look down on us ordinary people.”
At the same time, Han’s mother was lecturing Han Zhenhao, refuting his talk about career: “If you are a little famous, you should really think of yourself as a big star. ? You are an actor, but isn’t acting a profession? What’s the difference between acting and ordinary work? Does it affect your relationship and your marriage? " br>
So the two of them were forced to meet for a meal. Surprisingly, after spending half a day together, they both felt good about each other, so they made an appointment for a second time, and then a third time, and everything fell into place naturally after that. together.
We have been dating for more than a year now. Both of them and their parents are interested in putting marriage on the agenda, and plan to discuss it after the love story is finished.
Han Zhenhao said in the interview for the pilot film that he agreed to take on this variety show just to save money for milk powder for his future children.
After listening, everyone sent their blessings and told Duan Yue not to forget to send an invitation when the time comes.
After Duan Yue agreed, he changed the subject and asked Tan Xueqing: "Sister Qing, you and Teacher Shen have been dating for more than ten years, why haven't you gotten married yet?"
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Tan Xueqing smiled and touched Duan Yue's face, feeling that the little girl who had just walked out of school was really innocent and simple, but she herself was not the same back then.
Tan Xueqing's tone could not tell whether it was regretful or bearish: "I missed the opportunity."
In fact, she and Shen Xun were not together for ten years.
Tan Xueqing has been Shen Xun's assistant since he debuted in the entertainment industry. One time, she attended a private event. During the dinner, Shen Xun was attracted by a rich woman. He did not agree, and the commotion was a bit ugly. After returning home, I found out that this matter was "recommended" by his agent at the time, in the name of helping him attract resources for his benefit.
Shen Xun reported the matter to the company's senior management in anger, but the company did not give him a satisfactory handling result. One year later, Shen Xun's contract expired, so he naturally terminated the contract and went out to open his own studio.
Tan Xueqing left with Shen Xun. She had already shown her ability as an agent at that time, so Shen Xun simply handed over the job to her.
Not long after the establishment of the studio, the incident of rich woman No. 2 happened again. Shen Xun took the initiative to agree with Tan Xueqing to become a couple. He thought that the two of them had a cooperative relationship, and this contract would not be much. They got along so well. After many years, we have trusted each other.
As soon as the agreement was signed, Shen Xun disclosed his "love affair" online.
However, no one except the two of them knew about this agreement. Of course, now in front of the camera, it was impossible to tell it. Tan Xueqing only talked about the emotional experience of the two after they were really together.
Shen Xun is actually a very stubborn person who likes to stay in his comfort zone. This can be seen from the fact that the roles he has chosen for so many years are basically the same type.
——But Tan Xueqing did not speak so straightforwardly. After all, she still had to think about his career. Falling in love is not Shen Xun's comfort zone. To put it bluntly, he is just too lazy to adapt to certain changes, so when he realized that the fake show was about to come true, he didn't take it seriously. Even if he later confirmed that he was really attracted to Tan Xueqing, No further action was taken.
In the end, the two of them were able to be together because of Tan Xueqing's courage to confess her love and perseverance. In this way, it was only after chasing him for a year that he decided to add another level of "boyfriend" status to himself.
After all calculations, the two of them have been in a real relationship for a little more than nine years.
This is not too short.
The two talked about it in the third year. Six years had passed since they made it public to prevent the "disaster". Both parents asked them when they planned to get married.
Tan Xueqing also felt that it was time to get married, so she discussed it with Shen Xun, but this meant making changes for Shen Xun. This is not only a change in social status, but also in life. After getting married, the two of them have to live together. As long as he thinks about it, he will feel uncomfortable as if his personal space has been forced to be ceded. In addition, if he has children after marriage, then he will have an additional responsibility on his shoulders. Thinking about it again, he feels that life will become airtight...
Shen Xun's resistance It was very serious. His parents couldn't be his master, and Tan Xueqing couldn't come up with an outcome even after discussing with him, so the matter was shelved.
Tan Xueqing comforted herself at that time, saying that at least he refused to get married just because he didn't want to change his current life situation, not because he was flirtatious or didn't love her.
Tan Xueqing thought that it took a lot of time to pursue Shen Xun. She believed that as long as she persisted, Shen Xun would eventually be willing.
However, as she got older, Tan Xueqing mentioned it to Shen Xun several times. The last time was before the filming of "Early Spring Stream" started. Shen Xun still said the same thing: "Isn't this good now?" ”
Tan Xueqing finally realized that she might really not be able to wait for Shen Xun to change.
Forget it, Tan Xueqing thought.
"Actually, I thought about breaking up," Tan Xueqing said, "but I can't let it go."
"It's been a relationship for more than ten years," Duan Yue sighed, "I can't let it go either. "
Liu Wangxue couldn't help but ask Tan Xueqing: "What does Teacher Shen think now?"
"He wants to get married now," Tan Xueqing smiled and said to Liu Wangxue, "It has a lot to do with you."
"Me?" Liu Wangxue pointed at herself, A confused look on his face.
“Oh, I know!” Ni Jia slapped her thigh, “Is it related to the drama?”
“Yes,” Tan Xueqing nodded, “You must have seen his drama. Knowing the type of role he played, the role in "Moon Halo Effect" was really an unprecedented challenge for him."
When Shen Xun decided to take this role, Tan Xueqing was quite surprised, even. Joking about why he was suddenly willing to change tracks.
After Shen Xun finished playing this role, some changes occurred as a person - of course, positive changes. He began to feel that stepping out of his comfort zone was no longer unacceptable.
He was unwilling to change before. In the final analysis, he was afraid of the dissatisfaction caused by change, but he saw the success of this character.
Shen Xun felt that maybe in life, he should also try to get out of the current comfort zone and give marriage a try.
So, he took the initiative to express his desire to get married to Tan Xueqing.
“But I don’t want to,” Tan Xueqing said, “I think it’s pretty good like this now, mainly because there are no bonds.”
Another reason is that although she is a little younger than Shen Xun, she is already thirty-nine years old. If she gets married, her family will definitely press for having children, and Shen Xun has also expressed this idea.
Tan Xueqing thought that by then she would be an advanced maternal age in her early forties. She felt it was quite scary. Whether she could get pregnant or not was another matter. Just thinking about the entire pregnancy, delivery and postpartum period made her scalp numb.
Tan Xueqing said: "Maybe others will say that I am selfish, so I am selfish. It took me until my current age to realize that I need to love myself - I am really afraid that my body will have problems due to childbirth. Giving birth is a big gamble, and I don’t dare to take it.”
Duan Yue’s hand holding the cup shook unconsciously: “Ah, is it really so scary?” She had no idea that no one had ever done so. I told her about this.
Ni Jia joked: "Sister Qing, you are still talking about me. If this episode is broadcast, someone on the Internet will definitely say that you are spreading fertility anxiety."
Liu Wangxue said: "But this is also true. Childbirth is inherently damaging to a woman's body. The older she gets, the harder it is to recover. Sister Qing just told the truth. There is nothing to criticize."
Wenxi eats a piece Fruit shrugged and said, "Yes, giving birth to a child is a big gamble. He is also the other half. "
According to what Tan Xueqing said before, Wenxi thinks it is better for Tan Xueqing not to gamble. If Shen Xun feels unsatisfied and regrets making changes, then all the blame will be on Tan Xueqing. If one person suffers, all the suffering will be suffered by herself.
Really, Wenxi really wants to say, Sister Qing, you should love yourself well. This man, no matter how much light he has in the outside world, is not suitable and unworthy as a partner. (End of this chapter)