Lin Feng: "Really brothers,
Raising children still requires some effort.
If the father provides a dignified education, there will be a generation gap between the father and the child.
It's like I was afraid that my dad would beat me, so I pretended to be dead at that time.
My dad cried later
It's touching to think about it now.
But at the time, I was scared to death.
I thought it was over now. If I were to wake up now, I wouldn't be beaten to death by my dad.
Why did I think so at that time?
It’s because my dad is used to beating me.
So buddy,
You might as well step in for your child.
Why do you think your child lies?
Is it possible that before lying, his true needs were rejected by you?
You may even have scolded or beaten you after speaking out.
Then if he tells the truth and you can understand it, the child does not need to hide his thoughts, and he will tell the truth to you.
Take for example the matter of children stealing money.
Many brothers must have done this when they were young.
Are you saying that I stole money because of my moral turpitude?
No.
I'm just greedy and want to buy spicy noodles.
The first time I may ask you, dad gives me two cents and I buy spicy strips.
What do ordinary dads say?
Oops, that junk food is unhealthy. Eat whatever you want. Go home and do your homework.
Then you say that children know what is junk food and what is not junk food? They think it is fragrant and delicious.
All the other children ate it, but he didn’t,
Then he is so greedy, why not just steal the money?
After you found out, you asked him if he stole the money. How dare he let you know that he bought spicy strips? The thing you said was junk food and should not be eaten.
The child said he didn't steal it.
Okay,
It seems to you that the child not only stole money, but also lied.
There was a loud bang.
Then he will stop being greedy after you give him a slap in the face?
Next time he is greedy, he will have to steal.
As a result, the sky fell and you said that the child was hopeless and lied.
Have you ever thought that whenever you find out that he lied, instead of beating him up first, you ask him clearly why he stole money and what he wanted the money for?
You tell him nicely.
As soon as he saw that my father didn't beat me and had a good attitude, he told you to buy spicy chips.
OK,
Things are clear,
The child is just greedy and wants to eat spicy rice noodles.
But you think that stuff is junk food and you shouldn’t eat it all the time.
Then you give the solution.
You said, son, my dad didn’t let you eat spicy strips before because they are indeed junk food and are not good for your health.
But, if you eat this thing occasionally, it’s actually okay.
If my son likes it, how about dad buying it for you once a week?
When the child heard this, he happily put his arms around your neck and kissed you, saying that you are so kind, dad, and that you are the best dad in the world.
You don't need to say anything at that time, the child will admit his mistake on his own, and he will never steal money or lie again.
So when a child has a problem, solve his problem and meet his needs.
He told the truth and could get a solution, so why would he lie? ”
. . . . . .
On the barrage.
"The truth can be understood and solved, who would lie..."
"I also loved lying when I was a child, but I lied to avoid being beaten by my mother. As a result, the more I lied, the more I got beaten. The more I was beaten, the more scared I became. The more scared I became, the more I lied.
The military advisor is right. When faced with the problem of children lying, adults should think about whether the child is lying to avoid something, or whether he is trying to attract your attention. ”
"No one can make mistakes, but parents are unwilling to forgive their children's small mistakes. They all want their children to be perfect (dog head)."
Ordered.
. . . . . .
Lin Feng: "When a child lies, it is instinct for parents to get angry, but from then on you close the door to communication.
I read on the public media that it was useless at all. The children were so angry every day that no matter how much I taught them, it was of no use and it only got worse.
Also, I hate children who lie the most.
Not buddy,
Since it's so difficult to teach, then just fight.
Fight to death!
It's not my child anyway.
Also I hate people who lie the most.
What are you bragging about?
Come,
The brother in the room lied when he was a child, give me a deduction of 1,
Forget it,
Let’s stop lying when we were children. If you lie now, you will get a 1 deduction from me. ”
The next second,
The screen is full of 11111.
Lin Feng: "Look, everyone has lied.
Let’s tell the truth,
Lying itself is not a big deal.
Do you know what the biggest problem is?
It's you who are extremely sensitive to this matter.
Oh, I can tolerate everything else, but lying is the only thing I can't tolerate. I hate people who lie the most.
Dude,
Can you stop pretending?
You are just acting like the parent you think you are.
Your above-the-line attitude will only make the matter of lying serious and ultimately cause huge emotional harm.
See how many people on the public screen deduct 1.
I tell you,
People in this society cannot survive without lying.
Don't say you can never raise a child who doesn't lie, even if you succeed.
Let me tell you, your child is also useless.
Can't lie,
In the future, when he comes to society and no bones are left to be eaten, you should cry.
Anyway, I've told you all the truth. Whether or not you accept it has nothing to do with me. ”
Next one!
Ding~
"Hello, Military Advisor!"
It's a girl.
Lin Feng: "What, sisters, is there any problem?"
Woman: "I also have a problem with the child."
Lin Feng held his forehead and said with a wry smile: "Okay, let's talk about it."
Woman: "My child is 15 years old and his cell phone is obsessed with him. What should I do?"
Lin Feng knocked on the blackboard and said: "15 years old, puberty.
Most of the reasons why people are obsessed with mobile phones are that real life is not as exciting as the Internet.
Now in July, the child is on summer vacation. It is normal for him to play games with a few good friends.
If you feel uncomfortable, take him out to play and do something meaningful, such as taking him hiking,
But since he is 15, he probably doesn’t like playing with you anymore. ”
Woman: "Yes, he just doesn't want to play with me now."
Lin Feng: "Yes, I feel it is no longer interesting."
Woman: "But I found that he has adult things."
Something for adults?
Lin Feng raised his eyebrows: "Sister-in-law, how did you know?"
Woman: "Just... I found it accidentally."
Lin Feng and Yu Huanshui looked at each other, smiled and said: "It's normal, 15 years old is puberty, give him some space."
Woman: "Are you going to expose him?"
Are you crazy?
Lin Feng said with a serious face: "Don't expose him, we all came from that age, it's harmless to look at it, just don't hurt your body too much.
Let me tell you,
He doesn’t need you as a mother now in his adolescence. What he needs is a Japanese mother, understand? ”
Well. .
. . . . . . On the barrage.
"You need a Japanese mother during your adolescence, damn hahahahahahahahaha."
"I think my mother still has her charm (dog head)."
Ha ha ha ha.
"Let me introduce to you my Japanese mommy: Airi Kijima (yyds)."
"Holy shit, I ignored you. Hahaha. I laughed so hard."
"Promise me that you won't go to convenience stores to steal things in the future, and you won't go on business trips and hide from the rain with your annoying supervisor, and you won't get too close to your father-in-law (cry to death)."
"Don't go to a party full of boys with your boyfriend yet, and don't drink with your old boss (sunglasses)."
"Summary of the plot?"
"It's finished, I understand (covers face)."
Hahahahaha.
. . . . . .
Woman: "What should I do if I want to expose him?"
Lin Feng: "Fuck you... The child is 15 years old. At this age, you have to knock on the door when you enter the room.
Not sister-in-law,
Why are you acting like a pervert?
At your son's age, it's normal for him to be interested! ”
Woman: "But he's getting bad."
Lin Feng: "What has gone bad?
Haven't you studied biology in middle school textbooks?
Boys are like this when they reach this age.
How bad can he go if he becomes bad?
You and your eldest brother have fucked him, and you don't even call him bad. How bad can he be? ”
. . . . . .
On the barrage.
"You and your eldest brother have beaten him out, and you don't even call him bad. How bad can he be? (Dog Head)."
"There's nothing wrong with him. I've fucked him myself. Why don't you say this?" "I'm laughing so hard. This blogger is so funny. I can't find the adjective. It's just so funny."
"This is called appreciating both refined and popular tastes (face covering)."
Yes.
. . . . . . .
Woman: "Do you want to collect your phone?"
Lin Feng: "No, desire is something. The more you suppress yourself, the more random thoughts you will have, and the easier it will be to become perverted.
If you lead it to a normal channel instead, that's normal.
I said, at this time, as a mother and a girl, you should not talk to him so much. You should ask the father of the child to chat with him and tell him that this is normal. ”
Woman: "It's a boy, not a girl."
Lin Feng: "Nonsense, if it's a girl, can I ask her father to go?
That must be a boy.
Men understand men, and dad knows all about him.
Who the hell is in high school, fifteen or sixteen years old, and he doesn’t read these things?
Not sister-in-law,
You seem to be a pervert.
I even told the father to talk to me, why are you asking me so carefully?
Please stay away from your son, please. I beg you. ”
Well. . .
. . . . . . .
On the barrage.
"You seem like a pervert. You fainted from laughing. Hahahaha."
"It made me laugh so hard. I'm also the mother of a 15-year-old boy. I didn't dare to say anything when I found out, for fear that my child would know (cover my face)."
"This woman really wanted to stop the child, but I was convinced (grin)."
"Let her do this, and her son will be happy if he likes boys later."
"The military advisor told me to let dad talk, but she still wants to take care of it."
"Can you please stay away from your son? I beg you... The military advisor is speechless."
Hahahahaha.
. . . . . .
Woman: "Then how should I guide you?"
Lin Feng: "I won't say it anymore. Ask his dad to talk to him. It's normal to be curious at this age, but after all, you have to put your studies first. Ask his dad to talk to him. Don't go and talk to him. , 15-year-old boy, are you embarrassed?”
Woman: "I feel like he just plays too much on his cell phone."
Lin Feng: "I'm not sister-in-law, why can't I explain it to you?
This is not a fucking problem with the mobile phone, it is a normal development process of a man, do you understand?
Stay away from him, I beg you.
This thing cannot be suppressed, you know. The more suppressed it becomes, the more perverted it becomes.
Forget it,
I can't explain it to you.
Brother, is he at home? Give him your phone and I'll chat with him. ”
. . . . . .
On the barrage.
"This mother seems to be uneducated. The military adviser has talked about the normal development process of human beings, and she keeps talking about the problem of mobile phones (grin)."
"It feels like she just wants to control and is too controlling."
"Can you please stay away from him... Big brother is almost speechless."
"Really, isn't mom embarrassed?"
"I experienced that when my son was 17 years old, he would always lock the door. I couldn't help it. I always wanted to peek at his phone and confiscate it. But then I didn't do anything. I just gave a vague suggestion not to browse unhealthy websites. Now I am 20 I am 10 years old, nothing has happened, I am lively, healthy and happy.”
"I don't care about my son. Let him have his own space. I will find some videos about physical health on Douyin and send them to him so that he can understand on his own."
"By the way, give the child space and guide the child normally."
"It is best for the father to have barbecue and drink with his son, talk about paying attention to hygiene, focus on studying, and have more other healthy interests, and then pay attention to respecting and protecting women, and forget about other things, suppressing abnormal psychology. Criminal.”
"So my eldest brother reminded her several times. The more depressed she becomes, the more perverted she becomes. She seems to be unable to understand."
. . . . . .
Woman: "Okay, wait a minute, I'll call my husband."
While waiting, Lin Feng said to the live broadcast room: "This sister-in-law just takes too much care.
I just learned something bad.
In ancient times, a 15-year-old was already the father of two children.
No kidding, guys.
Let’s not talk about the distant past. Let’s take the recent Qing Dynasty as an example.
Emperor Shunzhi was delighted to be a father at the age of 14,
Kangxi also became a father at the age of 12.
Yongzheng became a father at the age of 16,
Jiaqing became a father at the age of 15.
Daoguang became a father at the age of 13.
At this age, he is considered a child today, and he is still solving equations in a junior high school classroom.
In ancient times, a girl was called the year of cardamom when she was 13 years old, and she was called the year of Jiji when she was 15 years old. Generally, she could get married at this age.
Sima Yan of the Jin Dynasty stipulated that if a girl is not married until she is 17 years old, local officials can force you to marry her off.
Li Shimin, Emperor Daizong of the Tang Dynasty, stipulated that if a girl is not married until she is 15 years old, the government will give you a betrothal gift and betroth you to another family.
So it’s normal for a 15-year-old to be curious about that.
This is not a bad thing about not learning, this is a normal human desire.
If you insist on suppressing it, it is against humanity. ”
. . . . . .
On the barrage.
"I am happy to be a father at the age of 13. Kangxi is so awesome (face covering)."
"I gave birth to a baby at the age of 30. In ancient times, I was considered old enough to have a baby (grin)."
"Zhong Yao got a son at seventy, it's okay."
"Is it your own (dog head)?"
Ha ha ha ha.
. . . . . .
"Hey, hello, anchor!"
came a male voice.
Big brother is online. (End of chapter)