Chapter 1175: Someone is actually spreading rumors that I am divorced. This is the first and only discussion about my personal life.
Today, a reader said in the book review area that he heard that I was getting divorced and came to care about me. I deleted such a boring book review. Only later did I find that someone had spread the rumor in other places, and many people actually believed it. , only then did he realize that he had indeed become some kind of public figure.
First of all, the marriage is still good - I actually don't want to talk about it in an explicit way with anyone, because regardless of good intentions or bad intentions, I personally don't think any outsider is qualified to care about my private life. . But without talking about this point first, it seems impossible to follow up with the subsequent remarks, so I will talk about this here for the first and last time.
In the past few years, I have tried to be as candid about my past and understanding of life in my essays, but readers who really look into it may find that what I have always shared is this After living in real life, I have some summaries of life. I think these life experiences may be useful to some friends, so I share them. However, I will not share my life itself with people other than relatives and friends in the real world. There will be a clear line in between.
As my writing continues to change, especially after my influence began to increase this year, some people will come to spread rumors for various reasons and wantonly spread their own despicableness. This is not unimaginable. In fact, this is a kind of bad nature that I have always been deeply aware of. I have no obligation or interest in paying attention to their lives. In these places where rumors are spread, there are also well-intentioned book friends. They say that I used to think that Banana’s life was very happy, but I got divorced and my illusions about love were shattered. What I actually want to say to these book friends is Some words.
In this pitiful human society, there is currently a despicable phenomenon called idol. When it has gone through some assembly-line operations and reached its present level, it has almost become a monster that embodies the bad qualities of the entire society. You see, people's own lives are poor, so they place their longing for life on other people. You expect others to be handsome, handsome, knowledgeable, and sensible. You expect them to sing, dance, be able to film, and not get married. So some star-making people The company offers young people in their early twenties or even under the age of 20 to rely on your imagination, and at the same time exchange them for huge amounts of money. This is essentially a kind of destruction of people. Of course, people frivolously pin their imaginations on others. When this imagination cannot be pinned, people are keen to destroy others to gain a sense of superiority after dinner...and when this behavior begins to expand, people begin to These imaginations are pinned on doctors, lawyers, writers, and the future will even be pinned on science. People think this is a beautiful thing when it comes to family, but please remember that no one can carry the sustenance of the majority of people, just like Luo Xiang and Zhang Wenhong. When they face thousands of people, no matter how gentle, courteous and thrifty they are, in the While making thousands of people feel comfortable, there will also be thousands of people who want to make their presence felt by destroying them. But regardless of the pros and cons, the lives of Luo Xiang and Zhang Wenhong are not lived for these bystanders.
My life is the same. I am a writer who makes a living by writing books. The only thing in me that I can and am willing to give out in exchange for money is my writing skills. Occasionally I I also communicate with everyone by sharing my experiences and insights. However, I do not bear anyone’s responsibility for me. I don’t place my imagination on anyone’s love or efforts in life. Everyone, please don’t place your assumptions on anyone. Everyone must face their own life and do their best. So far, I only occasionally provide my own experience and summary for reference.
In the past few years before the country took various measures, for example, in 2019, the national divorce rate once exceeded 40%. For every five couples who got married, two couples would divorce. Faced with With such high data, people will still talk about the divorce of every celebrity couple, as if they are visiting a social miracle they have never seen before.
In my life, I have never met a perfect person. Every friend has flaws of one kind or another, and a more common flaw is that many people are keen to use the standards of saints on the Internet. Commenting on other people's lives online is just like talking about other people's secrets in the yard after dinner in the past. It's just that today, we turn celebrities and public figures into consumables that carry our malicious intentions.
There are naturally good and bad things in my life, but gradually it becomes difficult for me to talk about them. I am an ordinary person with an ordinary marriage and life. If I want to show off, Of course, there are things to show off, but when more and more people care, various distortions will occur. Such distortions will damage my life and yours as well. If we want to have a good life, have good love, or anything else, it makes no sense to rely on others. The truth is that we always have to face it ourselves with trepidation and handle every bump in life carefully. , my wife and I have entered the seventh year of marriage. After getting along, there have been quarrels, and sometimes we feel comfortable, but even the most loving couple in the world will want to divorce hundreds of times. We may be able to get to the end with fear, but that has nothing to do with you. , you have to face your own life. And even if anyone cannot go on one day, it is just a common social phenomenon.
If I were a so-called idol, I would create the illusion of my life and tell you how perfect and high-quality I am, and at the same time I would take your money through this scam, but this is a pitiful thing, life. Experience tells me that there will be no such perfection. This illusion of perfection is itself caused by a person's extremely distorted talent. Fans gain pleasure by destroying a person, and idols gain wealth by destroying themselves. This may be an exchange of equal value, but I do not sell any private part of myself for everyone to expect or imagine. Please everyone go all out to face your own life.
This is the last time I talk about this matter. I will still record my life in the future, but it must be shared after I have gained insights. I can only guarantee the sincerity of this sharing. And if there are friends who are interested in my life or love, please respond with this article. And if one day I run into the article and just fail...well, then please give me some money. At that time, I will probably be very short of money...:-D
Don't put it like this Placing your life on others is a manifestation of all cowardice, laziness and despicability, and it will give birth to twisted monsters. (End of this chapter)