Chapter 457 No internal friction
Of course Han Xiaojing followed her sister to the city to celebrate the New Year.
During the holidays, she and Sister Lian took care of the children together, giving Han Xiaorui more time to be busy with work.
Mrs. Xu saw Han Xiaojing and asked with a smile: "How is Wenxuan in Germany?"
Han Xiaojing replied: "He is eager to learn mechanical knowledge there, and then he writes to me. It can be seen that he is eager for foreign advanced technology, and at the same time he is worried about domestic backward technology."
Mrs. Xu smiled and said, "It's normal to have gaps. If you can face the gap, work hard, and narrow the gap, that's progress."
"You think the current country is very backward, but in my eyes, our country is already very powerful. Through the first 30 years, we have achieved industrialization."
"Although it may lag behind foreign countries in technology, industrialization and non-industrialization are completely different countries. This is the basis for our country to be strong and the foundation of our development."
"It has been less than ten years since the reform and opening up, and our economy has been developing very rapidly. It has been like this in less than 10 years. Think about it, what will it be like 20 years later, 30 years later, 40 years later?"
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Han Xiaojing chatted with Mrs. Xu and felt that Mrs. Xu's words were very wise.
"Grandma, you must have been a very outstanding woman back then!"
Mrs. Xu smiled and said, "My mother-in-law and her husband's family are engaged in business, politics and the military. Of course, some people have become traitors. In that turbulent era, many people's choices were passive, or even pushed by the times. It’s a last resort.”
"Facts have proven that our choice was right at the beginning. Although later due to a series of social reforms, we could only transfer assets and capital abroad, but that was inevitable for the country's social development."
"From an economic perspective, this is determined by economic ownership. On the other hand, there was a very big gap between domestic and foreign economies and technologies in various aspects at that time. If we do not unify our thinking, society will be in turmoil, and industrialization will not be completed smoothly at all."< br>
Han Xiaojing was stunned for a moment when Mrs. Xu said, "When you left, didn't you feel any resentment or resentment in your heart?"
Mrs. Xu smiled and said, "If you have regrets, you won't complain, let alone hate. You haven't experienced that your thoughts were very confused at that time, and you were attracted by foreign economic and technological aspects, which in turn caused national turmoil."
"So we must clean up some people and shut them up. Only in this way can we have a stable environment and gradually realize industrialization. Stability is overriding everything. Without stability, everything else is just a fantasy."
"This is the conclusion I came to after later studying and comparing socialist countries with capitalist countries, as well as some colonial countries. This makes me look at problems in a comprehensive and developmental perspective."
Han Xiaojing found that talking to Mrs. Xu benefited a lot.
"Grandma, in the future I will be a smart, wise, self-disciplined and emotionally stable person like you."
Mrs. Xu smiled and nodded, "Actually, it's not necessary. In fact, just be yourself and don't box yourself in a box! Everyone is different. As long as you don't break the law, as long as you have a bottom line in your heart, you can Being kind is enough.”
"As for emotional stability, it depends on who and what? Let me give you an example, take Ye Feng's stepmother Wang Liwen. Not long after my daughter died, Ye Zheng remarried Wang Liwen, although she was helping. Ingredients, but for me, my daughter’s body is still cold and I’m not happy.”
"The reason why I let Ye Zheng in is because he is my grandson's biological father, and we have a close relationship. After all, we can't take the blood out of the body and give it back to him. I obviously don't like him, but for Ye Feng , I can bear it.” “But. I don’t have that much tolerance for Wang Liwen. I won’t deal with her, and I won’t insult her. I just don’t want to see her, because every time I see her, I will think of my dead daughter.”
"In this case, I will make it clear to everyone that I don't want to see her and ask her not to appear in front of me. Don't tell me that it's all in the past. You have to look forward and be magnanimous."
"I can't do it, and I won't force myself to do this. I wouldn't do it when I was young, and I won't even do it when I get older. I will never consume myself internally. Therefore, the term "emotional stability" depends on the situation and cannot be generalized. .”
"You are studying psychology, so you should analyze specific problems in detail. As you work in the future, you must always remember one sentence: Do not persuade others to do good things without their suffering."
"From an outsider's perspective, I can never sympathize with other people's pain, nor can I appreciate other people's happiness and joy. Although I have never studied psychology, my intuition will tell me what to do to make me feel comfortable and what to do to make me feel comfortable. Happy.”
Mrs. Xu once attended a private school and a Western-style school.
Having studied the Four Books and Five Classics and Chinese classics, as well as Western classics and works, my perspective on issues is different.
Mrs. Xu's words suddenly opened up Han Xiaojing's thinking and benefited a lot.
They discussed literature and history together, becoming more and more speculative.
Although her sister Han Xiaorui often teaches Han Xiaojing, most of them are from the perspective of peers.
But Mrs. Xu, regardless of age, seniority, or her magnificent life experience, can be called a wonderful life experience. She can even stand on the atmosphere and give Han Xiaojing guidance in life and philosophy.
In the evening, Han Xiaorui and Ye Feng came to the city to gather with their elders.
After the reunion dinner, Han Xiaojing chatted exclusively with her sister.
"Sister, Grandma Xu is really amazing!" Han Xiaojing praised her without hesitation, "I think she is the guiding light in my life!"
Han Xiaorui blinked when he heard this, "Last time you said that I was the guiding light of your life. How long has it been since you changed the light?"
When Han Xiaojing heard this, she rolled her eyes coquettishly, "Sister, don't be so narrow-minded! Look at the street lights, aren't there a lot? Life is like a road, very long. If you want to go far, one light is not enough. ?”
Han Xiaorui thought for a while, "Okay, what you said makes sense! What did you talk about with grandma today that made your eyes full of wisdom?"
Han Xiaojing replied, "We talked a lot about literature, history, astronomy and geography, ancient and modern times, China and foreign countries. I feel that my thinking has become very broad, and my whole realm has been raised to a higher level!"
Han Xiaorui said with a smile: "This is like being enlightened and enlightened in martial arts novels! Grandma Xu is our elder. She may not be so familiar with new things, but their life experience is full of wisdom and precious."
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The words and deeds of the elders can indeed broaden the horizons of the younger generation and benefit a lot.
Han Xiaojing nodded, "Yes! There must be my teacher among the three of us, so we must work hard!"