Chapter 164 Requirements
Those with good quality will keep some for herself when the time comes, and the rest will be left to her nephews and nieces. She will treat it as her aunt's support to the younger generation. With these good things, she will come back to see her occasionally in the future. That's it.
As for providing for old age, your own children may not be able to do it, so don’t count on other people’s children.
If you really have difficulty moving in the future, you can spend money to hire a reliable person in the village to take care of you. With such a big production team, there will definitely be reliable people. She will pay and they will help. It can be considered mutually beneficial.
But this is decades away, and it’s a bit too early to worry about it now.
In short, she will not get married and have children just to have someone to support her in old age. Whether it is a boy or a girl, they will break up with their parents when they are obsessed with love.
If you meet a good partner, your parents will naturally support you with both hands. But in many cases, you meet a bad person who has other agendas in life.
If your own child breaks up with his parents because of such a person, he might as well have a barbecued pork!
And even if she gets married in the future, she will find someone to marry who meets her requirements in all aspects and will never lower her requirements. After all, once she starts to compromise, she may have to compromise in this life.
She would never do this.
Since the Chinese New Year, Yuan Bingbing and Zhang Wenwen should not be short of things, so they now go to the countryside once a month to exchange things. During this lean time, they don’t have much to exchange, so they exchange wild vegetables, mushrooms and the like with everyone else.
Yuan Bingbing asked her colleagues and friends to exchange things with the villagers in the grain drying field, while she went to the elementary school to find Xia Chan. Yuan Bingchao went home some time ago, and she asked Yuan Bingchao if he had any lesbians in the army that he liked, and Yuan Bingchao said no.
Mrs. Yuan asked Yuan Bingchao what he thought of Xia Chan.
Yuan Bingchao said it was very good, and when he talked about Xia Chan, his cheeks were still a little red.
Mrs. Yuan knew that Yuan Bingchao was satisfied with Xia Chan, but Yuan Bingchao left the next day, so there was no time to arrange a formal meeting between Xia Chan and Yuan Bingchao. Yuan Bingbing happened to be free now, so she quickly asked Yuan Bingbing to come over to find Xia Chan. Cicada, say good things about Yuan Bingchao in front of Xia Chan more often, so that Yuan Bingchao's place will gradually come to Xia Chan's heart. When Yuan Bingchao comes back next time, arrange for the two of them to meet formally, so that they are more likely to succeed. .
It was not yet the afternoon class time, and the students were still eating at home and had not come over. Xia Chan had just arrived at the school office at this time. She was just sitting down to read a book when she suddenly heard someone calling her outside, so she got up and went out.
Seeing Yuan Bingbing walking on campus and calling her name, Xia Chan asked with a smile, "Bingbing, why are you here?"
"We are here to change things." Yuan Bingbing came to Xia Chan's side and held Xia Chan's arm. "I changed less this time, and I changed it in a while, so I came to see you."
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Yuan Bingbing often comes to the countryside to exchange things, so Yuan Bingbing naturally knows when Xia Chan comes to school.
Xia Chan brought Yuan Bingbing into the office, asked her to sit down, poured her a glass of hot water, and then the two started chatting.
After chatting for a while, Yuan Bingbing asked tentatively, "Xiaochan, you are nineteen years old this year, right?"
Xia Chan nodded, "Yes, what's the matter?"
"Nothing, I'm just curious, what kind of husband do you plan to find in the future? Or what do you want from your husband?" Yuan Bingbing asked cautiously, keeping her eyes fixed on Xia Chan's. Xia Chan shook her head, "I haven't thought about this."
"Think about it now." Yuan Bingbing grabbed Xia Chan's arm, shook it, and urged eagerly.
"Okay, let me think about it." Xia Chan said helplessly, "First, there are few people in the family, I have my own independent residence, and I am not crowded with my parents."
After hearing this, Yuan Bingbing thought to herself that there are only four people in their family, which is quite small. In the future, when his brother's position is promoted, he can take his wife and children with him when he gets married, so Xia Chan's first request is, Yuan Bingchao absolutely fits the bill.
"Second, you must have a brain and be able to distinguish right from wrong. You cannot let your mother torment his family and bully his wife and children."
In fact, Xia Chan didn't want to get married, so she mentioned these conditions to remind Yuan Bingbing that in the future, when looking for a partner, she should try to meet these conditions as much as possible, and don't hastily marry someone she doesn't know very well.
After all, marriage is a lifelong matter. If you marry the wrong person, you are really likely to be unhappy in your life.
Yuan Bingbing thought about it and felt that the second point was also true for her family, because her parents were very good people and were not the kind of people who tormented their daughter-in-law.
But what Yuan Bingbing doesn't know is that for some people, as a mother, she is very good, but once she is in the position of mother-in-law, it may not be good. After all, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are natural enemies.
Her mother is very good in her eyes, but in the eyes of her future daughter-in-law, she may not be a good mother-in-law.
"Third, he must respect me and listen to me. He will not force me to do anything, nor will he force me to be filial to his parents. After all, his parents are his parents. There is a layer between him and me. I just Do what I should do, don’t force me to do what I shouldn’t do Yes, many men marry a daughter-in-law and ask her to be filial to her parents, but he himself is not filial at all and directly transfers the responsibility of filial piety to his daughter-in-law. Don’t they know that their daughter-in-law also has her own parents to be filial to? "
No matter at this time or in the future, the father-in-law and the mother-in-law were taken care of and filial by the daughter-in-law, but in the end no one said good things about the daughter-in-law. Xia Chan hated this the most.
"Fourth, the monthly salary should be handed over to me instead of to his mother. Since we have our own small family, we should focus on the small family. I don't want to live a humble life like asking others for money with my palms facing up." ”
Some mother-in-laws cling to the young couple's money, and if the daughter-in-law wants a penny, she will be scolded.
A man who can let his wife live a life of being scolded every day is not worthy of a wife at all.
"Fifth, respect my decision whether to have a child or not. If I don't want to have a child, you can't force me to have a child. If you have a daughter, you can't force me to have a son. I will name my child myself." When it comes to this, Xia The cicada is a bit gritty.
Because in the 21st century, when she was in high school and college, she read a lot of novels and read a lot of period novels. She didn't know why she was so keen on reading period novels at the beginning.
Later I realized that I was a person from the era, and that’s why I liked reading period articles so much.
Moreover, many heroines in the period novels she has read have traveled through time or been reborn with incredible golden fingers. They can obviously live well with material supplies and become career-oriented strong women. However, once the emotional drama is determined, He forcibly surrendered his wisdom and retreated behind the scenes.