Chapter 569: Parents love their children, so they have far-reaching plans
Li Sanniang is currently sitting in the main hall of the Song family and is being entertained by Mrs. Song. On the square table next to Li Sanniang, there is not only tea, but also snacks and fruit plates. At this moment, Li Sanniang was eating an ice bowl filled with cheese.
Halfway through the morning today, the Song family’s mother-in-law came to the hospital and invited Li Sanniang for a consultation.
Mrs. Song had relied on many connections to invite Dr. Sun, a master of gynecology who once worked in the Imperial Medical Office, to the Song family to diagnose Song Pearl's pulse. Later, Dr. Sun recommended her fellow senior Dr. Wang to come to the house again. Diagnose Song Zhenzhu’s pulse.
(Chapter 556 Plot)
Dr. Wang has been practicing medicine among the people for many years, and he has seen many more types of female diseases than Dr. Sun. Moreover, Dr. Wang is also the type of person like Li Sanniang who has a slightly different sense of sensitivity than ordinary people.
Furthermore, Dr. Wang was very unconventional, and he took the initiative to perform palpation on Song Pearl.
Of course, Mrs. Song did not agree.
Although Dr. Wang has gray hair and the roots of his beard are turning white, and he is old enough to be the ancestor of Song Pearl, Mrs. Song still feels a little inappropriate.
However, Dr. Wang did not force it. He stroked his beard and said this: "That's okay, but I think the female doctor named Li can directly determine that Mrs. Song's illness is due to the cause. She had palpated it for Miss Song.
However, I have been practicing medicine among the people for decades, and I have seen two cases of illnesses like Mrs. Song's.
One was a premature fetus, but the delivery went smoothly, and both mother and baby were safe;
The other was not good, with abnormal fetal position, difficult delivery, and one body and two lives. "
Seeing the fear on the faces of both Mrs. Song and Song Pearl, Dr. Wang nodded and spoke again: "However, Mrs. Song does not need to worry too much about this, since Dr. Li just said In the future, Mrs. Song will have to pay more attention when she gets pregnant. She did not directly say that it is best not to have children. I think there is still a chance of giving birth safely. ”
Mrs. Song felt panicked at that time, but she was the matron who had been in charge of the house for more than 20 years. Suppressing the uneasiness in her heart, Mrs. Song respectfully thanked Dr. Wang and gave him a large sum of money. After receiving the consultation fee and gifts, Song Zhenzhu and Dr. Wang were happily sent out
"Aniang, Aniang, I, I, am I not going to be able to have children in the future?
What should I do? Who will marry me?
Aniang, I can't have children anymore. , I"
Mrs. Song immediately slapped Song Pearl's hand. There was a loud "pop" sound, which stunned Song Pearl who was already in a daze. Song Pearl raised her head. Looking at Mrs. Song blankly, she could not feel the pain on the back of her already red hand.
Mrs. Song winked at the old lady behind her, and the old lady stepped back and stood at the door to guard the door.
The lady in charge was going to have a goddaughter again, so naturally she couldn't let Song Pearl lose her face.
(Chapter 527-529 Plot)
In this way, Mrs. Song pulled Song Pearl to sit down, and rubbed the back of her hand that was still red for a while, with some reproach in her mouth. Said: "You child, you are old enough to get married, why are you still so careless?"
"Auntie?"
Mrs. Song raised her hand and touched Song Pearl's. Tou Mao sighed and said, "Well, your temperament is not entirely your own fault. It's also because Aye and I have pampered you for many years and always thought that you would marry into someone else's family in the future. This Just be as relaxed as possible when you are at home
It is inevitable that your upbringing will be a bit lax, causing you to always yell and scream when something happens, without any certainty.
However, Zhen Niang, don’t worry. At most, you and I will choose a family for you that our Song family can live in. As long as you and your brother remain in official positions, you will be the best. So what if I have children or not?
Zhen Niang, don’t worry, I will protect you for the rest of your life. ”
That night, the head of the Song family and Mrs. Song reached an agreement in the dim lights. The future candidate for Song Pearl’s son-in-law was directly changed to a scholar who had many children in the family and was outstanding in appearance and needed the support of the in-law family. .
Originally, Mrs. Song wanted to find a decent-looking person with a simple family among Song Zhenzhu’s in-laws.
But now, if Song Zhenzhen really has difficulty in having children in the future, then the issue of heirs will be a big problem.
At this time, whether they are from aristocratic families, ordinary people in the city, or poor villagers, whose primary purpose in marrying a wife is not to reproduce children and carry on the family line?
If this primary goal cannot be achieved, how can the husband's family think highly of the daughter-in-law?
How can you not show your face to your daughter-in-law?
Or even know how to teach others?
Just like Shen Qiuniang (plot of Chapters 31-33), the main cause is not her fault. Didn't the former son-in-law still not regard Shen Qiuniang as a person?
Now, the main reason lies with Song Zhenzhu. If she doesn't choose a good family, even if Song Zhenzhu comes from the Song family, she will still be punished.
Moreover, having been childless for many years, how could she not say that Song Zhenzhen was doing well on her own?
How few women can give birth without embarrassment to themselves?
At least in the current environment, most girls cannot do it.
Therefore, it is not easy to choose a suitable son-in-law for Song Zhenzhu, who the Song family can handle and who can solve problems in the future.
Parents who love their children have far-reaching plans.
Mrs. Song really loves her little girl.
At this time, you may say that if you can’t have a child, or if there is a huge risk of childbirth, and you may be rejected by your husband’s family, then wouldn’t it be better just not to get married?
In modern society, it can be said that there is no need to get married and have children. If you want to fall in love, you can just explain it before falling in love. If you don't want to fall in love, there is nothing wrong with being single all your life.
But the problem is that this is the Tang Dynasty, a feudal society, an era of clan patriarchy based on the small-peasant economy. Even if the Song family could raise Song Pearl for the rest of her life, allowing her to live a life without worries about food and clothing, and could still afford Song Pearl's "single tax," the impact of this would be immeasurable.
People’s words are scary.
If Song Pearl doesn’t marry, all the girls in the Song family will have to bear the burden. “Is Song Pearl sick or having problems with her upbringing, which is why she doesn’t marry? Is it possible for other girls in the Song family to do the same? Any questions? "
Song Pearl's parents and brothers are willing to support her for the rest of her life, and they will use their own money.
But are the rest of the Song family really willing?
“If your daughter doesn’t marry, why do you get so many assets from the clan?
A girl who doesn’t marry will also bring down my daughter’s reputation. , Your family should use their assets to compensate my family!”
Yes, it’s so unreasonable.
In the face of interests, reason and morality are bullshit.
Therefore, Song Zhenzhen can still get married, but Song's father and Mrs. Song are capable of choosing a more suitable family for Song Zhenzhen, which is already very good.
Li Sanniang put down the ice bowl in her hand, listened carefully to what Mrs. Song said, and understood what Mrs. Song meant.
Then Li Sanniang spoke: "Madam, don't worry, after Mrs. Song's situation comes out of this door, I will keep my mouth shut tightly, and no one other than you and me will know.
Secondly, as Dr. Wang mentioned just now, this disease may not be that serious.
But it is true that Mrs. Song will have some time to live after she gets married in the future. You must pay attention to some things after becoming pregnant
If conditions permit, Mrs. Song can ask me to treat Mrs. Song again.
At that time, if there is a problem, if you make an early decision not to have this baby, you should be able to save Lady Song's life.
In this life, nothing is more important than your own life.
Of course, it is also possible that Mrs. Song had no problem at all and gave birth smoothly.
But, I still want to say that even if everything goes well, we should try to reduce the number of births to avoid anything uncontrollable.
Mrs. Song, this girl's pregnancy and childbirth are like passing through the gate of hell. She can't get through it every time. "
Hearing Li Sanniang's explanation again, Mrs. Song nodded, then stopped talking about Song Pearl and turned her attention to the flower appreciation banquet that the Song family would host during the Mid-Autumn Festival in a few days. Said.
"Doctor Li can also bring your little girl here. I heard from Zhenniang that Dr. Li's child is very smart.
At this flower viewing banquet, most of the ladies from each family who are invited will come with their children. It is also a pleasure for the children to play together. "
Master Zuo said: "Parents who love their children have far-reaching plans. I sent him off to Empress Yan, holding her heel and weeping for her. I felt sad that she was far away, and I also mourned her. --——"Touching the Dragon and Talking about the Empress Dowager Zhao" in "Warring States Policy"
Interpretation:
Master Zuo said: "Parents who love their children should think long-term for them. When the old lady saw off Queen Yan (for her wedding), (she got into the car) she still held her heels and helped her Crying, thinking about, and being sad about her distant marriage is sad enough
——The above comes from the Internet
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When I was writing this chapter, I just came across a piece of social news on Douyin, which was simply shocking
A 17-year-old father abandoned his 2-year-old daughter for the second time.
This sentence is simply full of information. . . .
What’s even more shocking is that I discovered in the comment area that the child’s mother was only 12 years old when she gave birth to the baby. . .
By the way, I didn’t get my period until I was 12 years old.
From this social news, we can see many aspects, ① how little sex education our country has for minors; ② our country is not enough to protect minors, and there is no complete treatment for children born under minors. For example, in the United States, there is a complete mechanism for entering into the adoption supervision system; ③ It is still a legal and institutional issue, and the people do not take action and the officials do not investigate. In fact, in this case, women and children protection agencies should be involved.
However, the law is indeed not to protect the weak, but a tool to maintain the stability of a system.
(End of this chapter)