Chapter 766 Children’s Education
Coincidentally, in the twelfth lunar month, all the young people working in the village have returned.
For example, Chen Yuqiang, Chen Ze and others have a good relationship with Chen Ling.
After I came back, among other things, I was shocked by the changes in the village.
At the reservoir at the entrance of the village, a trench was dug to build a cultural wall. On the slope, Wang Laoshou and his family built such a large foundation, and they were busy working on it.
In the east of the village, there are many more greenhouses.
There are even more lanterns and decorations in every house. The red paper for marrying a wife or daughter and the red gift list are stuck on the wall and have not been taken off.
This guy is really dazzling them with everything he does.
We have only been out for three or four months, are all the people in the village so rich? !
When I went home and asked, I found out that it was Chen Ling who had found a new way to make money for the village today.
Mountain products can be sold to the city, and wild fruits can be sold to the cannery in Huangni Town...
The villagers' pockets have been bulging this year.
For example, in Chen Yuqiang’s family, there are many uncles and brothers, such as Chen Yubin and his brothers. They went into the mountains together, and with the furs and other things harvested from hunting, the money they got from the mountains this year was much more than what they worked for.
After hearing this, Chen Yuqiang and others immediately regretted it.
If I had known better, I wouldn’t have gone to work.
Working part-time requires hard work and hard work, so how can I feel comfortable at home?
At this time, ordinary people couldn't make much money when they went out to work. The most profitable thing was to carry big bags and take care of food, and the income for that day was only forty or fifty yuan.
In addition to this year, we are about to enter the year of 1998, a year of unemployment.
The wage situation outside is also sluggish.
“I have thought about it. I will not go out next year, so I will stay at home and make our noodles in a down-to-earth manner.”
Chen Yuqiang gritted his teeth and prepared to return to his old business.
His brother Chen Yingqiang’s mill is here. They make dried noodles and mixed noodles, which are very convenient.
In short, small profits but quick turnover.
"Yes, I am also planning to do something and not go out. Fugui said in the spring that he will not raise chickens and ducks on the farm next year.
Said he has many children Sorry, it’s troublesome to have such a mess at home.
I want to find another place to raise it.
Let’s see what happens then. Wherever he goes, I will go and I will follow him.
Anyway, I really don’t want to raise cattle with these people in the village.
How slow it is to make money by raising cattle. ”
When Chen Ze heard about the money his family had saved after this autumn, he was also a little jealous.
Only then did we understand why so many people in the village were marrying wives and daughters this year.
Ganqing saw that Chen Wangzhuang was about to become rich and popular.
“Did Fugui say that?”
Chen Yuqiang asked curiously.
At this time they all came out of their homes and walked to Chen Ling's farm.
I knew that Chen Ling was going to host a hundred-day banquet for the two little ones, so I wanted to ask if I could help.
"I must have said that he had long thought about killing a batch of those chickens and ducks when serving wine."
Chen Ze said with a sure face: "In addition, he didn't want to let Uncle Cunye and his wife are busy here every day, picking up eggs and pickling salted eggs, which is too much work. When the next two babies grow up, there will be three with Ruirui.
Add them. How can he take care of such a bunch of chickens, ducks and geese?”
Chen Yuqiang laughed when he heard it: “Oh, that’s really what you said. With Ruirui’s temperament, He is more noisy than he was when he was a child, and with the addition of the two younger ones, I don’t think he will do anything from next year on from these three little grandsons.”
To put it bluntly, that’s really what happened.
But they definitely don’t know what Chen Ling is thinking.
Just chatting like this, we arrived at the farm.
When they arrived at the farm, someone else arrived before them.
They didn't know these two people, because one was Zhao Gang from the military dog base, and the other was Chen Ling's eldest cousin.
Zhao Gang rarely showed up in the village, so they didn't recognize him. Chen Ling's eldest cousin also didn't come here all year round. If he didn't tell him, no one would recognize him.
My eldest cousin Zhao Wenpin came here mainly to help Chen Ling in advance.
In the countryside, when things like this happen, relatives and friends from all walks of life always come forward to help clean up the house.
Besides this, he also had something else to ask Chen Ling.
He is Zhao Wenpin. He looks young, but he has the style of an older generation.
I don’t like to say anything directly when I have something on my mind. I always lay the groundwork for a lot of petty gossip before saying anything.
But he was a clumsy person, and he couldn't say it after thinking for a long time.
So during lunch, Chen Ling could tell at a glance that he had something to say. After dinner, he specifically called him outside and asked him what was wrong.
When Chen Yuqiang and Chen Yuqiang came over, they happened to hear Zhao Wenpin complaining.
He said that his boy was spoiled to death by his wife and mother-in-law when he was only six or seven years old.
Although he didn't understand the concept of being a spoiled child from a poor family, he also understood in his heart that in his family's situation, he had to have money but no money, and he had no ability and ability. The son who was pampered would definitely not be able to stand being outside at all when he grows up. Wronged.
As a parent, I am reluctant to teach. When the time comes, it will be no small matter to let outsiders teach me.
But he doesn’t know how to teach his children, just beat him. Even with the protection of his mother and grandmother, this beating won’t work. In the end, his son will hate him as his father. So he was very worried.
“This is easy to say, but difficult to say. It all depends on whether you are willing to spend the money or not.”
Chen Ling himself grew up as a naughty child and a spoiled child, so he didn't know the psychology of such a spoiled child.
"Spend money? How to spend money to send him out to live in school?"
Hearing this, Zhao Wenpin thought for a while, nodded and said: "This is also a way, but now he He's too young. Your aunt and your cousin are reluctant to let him go out.
Even if he is sent to school, it will take another two or three years before he reaches the second or third grade. "
“No, no, no, that’s not what I’m talking about spending money on.”
Chen Ling shook his head: "What I mean is that you are afraid that my aunt and cousin will spoil the child, so you might as well add more fuel to the fire.
What does the child want to eat? , if you want anything to play, just buy it for him.
First let him listen to you as a father.”
“Huh?”
When Zhao Wenpin heard what he said, his big eyes showed confusion, "Wouldn't it get worse if this continues?"
"Listen to what I have to say..."
Chen Ling shook her head with a smile, "The reason for doing this is to let the child know that you, the father, treat him better than his mother and grandmother. Okay.
He will be more able to listen to what you say in the future.
Maybe you will feel that doing this will only make your child more ignorant. >
Give me whatever you want. Isn’t it going to be harder and harder to teach in the future, right?
This is not the case.
Just give him some conditions every time you spend money to buy something he wants.
Just like when we were taking exams when we were children, our parents said that if you can get a hundred points in the exam, they will boil two eggs for you.
Tell him that you are a good boy, a well-behaved baby, you don’t cry or make trouble, and I will buy you something when the time comes.
The more I cry, the more troublesome I become, the more disobedient I become, and I won’t buy anything.
In this way, slowly, the child will trust you and listen to you.
Just encourage him more, praise him more, say he is a good boy who listens to his parents, a sensible and good boy...
Be patient, slowly, you say He can get in anything.
Just like when we were having lunch today, look at Ruirui, Susu and I told him that the little tiger should be very attentive when eating and never move around, so that he can grow strong and beat everyone. But it.
He immediately settled down. He sat on the small bench and finished the meal without worrying about it. ”
"It's too simple. Isn't this just coaxing children..."
Zhao Wenpin bulged his eyes, as if he had some enlightenment, but his cultural level limited him to a deeper understanding, and he could not explain what was in his heart. The group is ready to come up with ideas.
When the words came to my mouth, I could only stare wider and wider, unable to say a single word.
Wang Susu, who was passing by, held back her laughter after hearing this. She thought to herself that Aling's idea didn't sound like coaxing a child. It was clearly just like training a dog.
When Rui Rui could crawl on the ground, it was just like this. Chen Ling refused to let her control it and used a puppy as an example, which made her very frustrated.
But having said that, Chen Ling's methods are still very effective.
"You are right to think so. Anyway, just do as I say first. The child is still young, so don't worry too much."
Chen Ling comforted him.
In later generations, many people will give this method the name 'PUA'.
They all said that the biggest PUA they have received in their lives is from their parents.
Because my parents have instilled in me the concept that I am excellent since I was a child.
So slowly I started to believe it. If I didn’t do well in the exam, I would feel guilty. If I couldn’t find a good job, I wouldn’t dare to go home and I would feel sorry for them.
A lot of people complained about it.
But I have to say...
For the situation of Zhao Wenpin's family, this method is the most suitable.
There is no need to spank the child. With his aunt and cousin to protect him, Zhao Wenpin only needs to pamper the child more and more, and slowly guide the child with some personal information.
Chen Ling asked Zhao Wenpin to teach his children to be sensible and motivated. Could it be that his aunt and cousin would still prevent his children from learning well?
Definitely not.
Even Boss Hei wants his child to be a sensible child who listens to his parents.
“Okay, I’ll try it first when I go back.”
Now Chen Ling's cousin has various auras and blessings. Although Zhao Wenpin doesn't understand whether this method is useful, he still believes in him.
“I think this method is good, I’ll go back and try it.”
Zhao Gang chuckled at this time. When Chen Ling said this just now, he really listened to these words. In my heart.
This has something to do with his personal style.
He was born in the army, and he was strict and rigid when it came to teaching his children, following the military style. As a result, his wife and his parents were the complete opposite of him, and they doted on their children.
The actual situation is even more serious than Zhao Wenpin's.
Because his children are much older than those of Zhao Wenpin’s family.
"..."
Chen Ling groaned in his heart and thought about what happened today. He was watching me serve wine to the little kid at home. When these two elder brothers came over, they both Are you here to discuss your children’s education with me?