Chapter 412 The Art of Controlling People
Seeing that Ning Weimin was about to argue again, Kang Shude stopped him with a glare.
"Let me finish my words first. I know that you want to make a case against me again, or mention those celebrities who are engaged in learning or art. What about Chen Jingrun, Qian Xuesen, Qi Baishi, Xu Beihong, do you want to use people like them as examples? "
"I admit that there are specialties in all walks of life, and it can't be done without anyone. The social wealth created by some knowledge is quite large, and it can strengthen the country and enrich the people. To put it more simply, almost every subject knowledge or industry technology in the world can help people make a living. As the saying goes, three hundred and sixty lines. , you will be the best."
"But at the same time, you have to understand that having a big contribution does not mean that you will get a lot of benefits. , many people will starve to death. Mencius said, "Those who work hard govern others." Over the past thousands of years, this law has never changed. What is a noble? "
"Here, we must make it clear that mental workers and mental workers are completely different things. Mental workers are also labor. Mental workers only refer to the art of controlling people. That is, people who specialize in managing people in an industry. In this way, if From the perspective of benefit distribution, even social elites and pillars of the country will have different levels of knowledge and skills. "
"What do you mean? If a person has studied general knowledge to a certain level, whether it is liberal arts, science, or art, it is possible to gain fame and respect from others, but it is not so easy to gain wealth and other resources. This is the situation of intellectuals. ”
“If a person discovers a way to make money that others don’t know, masters business tips that are difficult for others, or knows how to create good products that are exclusive to others. He will soon make a fortune, and it is not difficult to become a nouveau riche. Most of these people are businessmen, and sometimes they may be a good craftsman or even an actor."
“But if you want to get more with this ability, it is impossible. In the end, there is only one kind of person who can have power, wealth and fame at the same time. And no matter noble or wealthy , the biggest problem is that the foundation is unstable, what is gained is easy to lose, and cannot be passed down. In terms of security, it can never be compared with the last person."
"Having said this, I would like to point out one more thing. What is interesting is that the last type of person I am talking about does not refer to people who actually hold power, but people who are really good at controlling people's hearts and know how to use power. Because in reality, there is no power. Not everyone's moral character matches their position. Some idiots just try to get a general out of their own skin. But if they are not capable enough, they will lose their power in the long run."
"Besides, politics and business have always had something in common. Therefore, the scope of this class is relatively broad. They can be the controllers and influential people in any industry. They also include those who have done business all over the world in history and have financial capital. , a large businessman with extremely strong network resources. "
"What these people have in common is that they are all proficient in human nature, good at winning people's hearts, and they can make others work hard to achieve their own goals. It can be passed down from generation to generation. To a large extent, it is not even afraid of unexpected events, and it is very possible to turn over. "
"The reason is also very simple. Knowledge and knowledge in a general sense are easy to become outdated. Failure. Once the professional skills are surpassed by others, and once the methods of making money are imitated by others, they will often lose their popularity, and there will probably be no hope of recovery. It is even possible for an industry to decline and die completely."
" However, it is different for those who study human nature and ponder the human heart. Their skills are always useful, and few people understand this skill, and even fewer people teach it, but it is an indispensable knowledge. . Because all businesses are counted, the more big things are done, the more people need to cooperate to complete them. If there is a lack of talents in charge, real big things cannot be achieved, so even if you learn the art of controlling people. People who are half-hearted often live much better than ordinary people who don't understand anything."
"To put it bluntly, this is why wolves travel thousands of miles to eat meat, and dogs travel thousands of miles to eat shit. The reason why it is difficult for children to achieve great things, and why it is difficult for poor families to produce truly noble children, is mainly because most people do not even understand this truth, and too many people choose the wrong path to study from the beginning. Well, what you learn is dead knowledge, stupid knowledge. It is something that everyone can learn from books. In the future, it will naturally involve a lot of investment and little gain. ”
"Besides, it's useless even if you understand it earlier. It depends on whether you have this talent and whether you have a good teacher to teach you the tricks, so that you can catch up. You know, the more useful the skill, the more valuable it is. The harder it is to learn. "
"Just imagine, a child from a poor family may have to learn the most basic ways of socializing and dealing with others. How can he learn to communicate from an early age? Compared with the children of aristocratic families who are exposed to Vanity Fair every day?”
“A true nobleman’s way of dealing with others, a word or an action, has been cultivated since childhood, so how to deal with it is a natural reaction. Regarding relationship problems, perhaps a word of advice from an elder is better than a lifetime of thinking for ordinary people."
"This is the true meaning of 'it takes three generations to cultivate a nobleman'. It’s just based on ability, and it doesn’t involve connections or power resources at all..."
Kang Shude’s mouth was already dry when he said this.
But he saw that Ning Weimin was completely fascinated.
Not to mention that I forgot to argue, and also forgot about the Spring Festival Gala that was still playing. I just lowered my head and pondered my words, and couldn't help but smile secretly.
So the old man picked up the wine glass and took a sip to moisten his throat before continuing.
“Since you are taking me as an example today, well, let’s just take things in the antique industry. I learned how to identify antique calligraphy, paintings, and jewelry. To be honest , Even if I have a good teacher like Mr. Song to teach me, in terms of eyesight, I can't compare with those who have been playing with agates and golden melon seeds since they were young, and the rooms are filled with rosewood furniture. "< br>
“Because if a person has grown up among these good things, then he will naturally have a keen eye for identifying antiques. If you encounter something, it is obvious to others. I may have endless knowledge in my life. Who has had it in my family and played with it like a toy since I was a child? This is the essential difference.”
"So in the same way, it is enough to define nobility. Let me tell you, you must have an absolutely leisurely environment and a sufficient sense of security, only then can a person show an elegant and calm demeanor, that is nobility . It is said that noble people are not surprised by changes, and this is true. If not for other reasons, this kind of people have a strong sense of security. Their skills in controlling people and their network resources make it almost impossible for them to suffer poverty. Sex. "
"On the other hand, whether you are a scholar or a nouveau riche, you are likely to have grown up poor, and your fear of poverty and your inferiority complex are innately written into your bones. Once you become rich, you will definitely show off.”
“The first thing is to show off. Even if he has a gold watch or a gold pen, he is afraid that you can’t see it, and he wants to show it to you clearly. Once you have some small achievements, you will be so happy that you will be happy every day. Do you know there is an old saying in the past? The new painting of the tree house is not old, this person must be in the Ministry of Internal Affairs..."
Ning Wei. The people suddenly woke up.
As soon as he raised his head, he saw Kang Shude looking at him with a rather amused look.
Then he couldn't help but blush, and showed an unspeakable wry smile in embarrassment.
"Master, you have said so much just to scold me here. Come on, it's my fault today, can I apologize to you? I'm a nouveau riche, and I'm showing off. , I am the Ministry of Internal Affairs. I don’t dare to get carried away anymore, can I just keep my tail between my legs and be an honest person? Thank you for reminding me that I must study hard in the future and strive to get rid of the "cheap" grade as soon as possible. It's a little more expensive..."
Kang Shude was amused to see him bowing his head and admitting his mistake so spiritually and being such a teachable child.
"Boy, you are so talkative. Now you know that Jiang is old and hot? You, you, wanted to rebel just now. I am not talking about you, just because you are a disciple, How dare you teach Master a lesson? "
"Hey, if it weren't for the fact that you were walking too fast, it was already a critical moment, and I didn't know the risks. ”
"It took me half my life to understand these truths. Why am I telling you so much? I have to achieve your success? As the old saying goes, the master has taught his disciples to starve to death. I will just let you fall into the fire. It would be nice to cry to me after you're done..."
These words are even more sensational.
But Ning Weimin, who was familiar with Kang Shude's character, fully believed that the old man would never make a mistake, and there must be more important and serious things to say later.
So striking while the iron is hot, he no longer dared to make any effort, but continued to think of ways to please.
"Old man, there's nothing else to say. Your kindness to me is all in your heart. If you have anything to teach me, don't hold me back, just speak up."
He stood up after him, went straight to his coat pocket and brought back a brocade box.
“Look, this is the New Year’s gift I prepared for you. I originally thought of taking it out when I was eating dumplings, but now I’m going to use this to apologize to you. You have a lot, so you can’t just do it because of it. That little thing is as common as mine, isn't it?"
Ning Weimin said as he pushed the brocade box over.
He then took the initiative to take the small wine jar on the table and poured a full glass of rice wine for Kang Shude.
As if fearing that the master would forget, he reminded him deliberately.
"Even if you are just going to get angry at the old man I got for you, you can't be angry with me anymore, right? What's the relationship between the two of us? We are masters and disciples who depend on each other for life. You should think more about my benefits. ..."
Begging for mercy like this is actually equivalent to a puppy lying on the ground and rolling around.
Kang Shude suppressed a smile and opened the brocade box to take another look.
Oops! A piece of Tianhuang Pingzhang aniseed with six sides should cost at least 40 to 50 grams.
According to the market price in the store, this is more than 500 yuan.
Although the old man already takes money lightly, an expert is an expert.
He knew that only literati could afford Tianhuang in the past.
This thing is both elegant and expensive, which is enough to represent how much Ning Weimin respects him.
Thinking about it again, this apprentice also managed to get his favorite rice wine, which really shows that he regards himself as a relative.
Isn’t etiquette just for expressing one’s feelings?
He appreciated it in his heart, so naturally it was hard for him to put on airs and show off his posture. "Okay, look, you turned off the TV and sat upright in front of me to pour me a drink. You really mean to sincerely want to ask for advice. Then I will teach you to be a good boy."
"Boy, do you know that you are suspended in your company? You are about to become the chicken that kills the chicken and the monkey. Even though you have made a lot of achievements, it is called burning oil. You are in your own small company. Are you living a beautiful life in the kingdom? I tell you, you won’t be beautiful for a few more days. If you can’t survive this year, you will have to be punished by your leader.”
“If you are willing to bow your head, you can endure it for a while. Even if you are angry, you can continue to pretend to be a foreigner in the name of foreigners. If you are unwilling to bear it, I advise you to think about your own way out early..."
The prophecy announced by Kang Shude, Ning Weimin immediately frowned.
However, he thought about it carefully and shook his head.
"You are saying that I... have superior merits. Can't you? I don't want to compete with our general manager for credit. I flatter her very well. I give gifts and obey her orders, and I also I help her improve the company's performance by making suggestions. If it weren't for me, this company would never be able to turn a profit this year. And on the contrary, she is kind to me. I will be rewarded for my merits, and they are all generous. I am the general manager of our company. She is the only one who has a car. And I just gave her another New Year gift yesterday. She treats me like a brother. I really can’t believe it when you say she wants to attack me..."
Kang Shude immediately snorted dismissively.
"Why don't you say you should. You are so stupid and ignorant! How come you have forgotten even the most basic principles. Think about what I taught you in the first place?"
"With When interacting with others, suffering is a blessing. The more you pay, the less you get back. Only when the critical moment comes, do you have the right to refuse. It is not a good thing to receive too many benefits from others. Sooner or later, you will have to pay back with interest. Go back. That’s called losing the initiative.”
"Your leaders will reward you for every merit, and they are all generous rewards. According to me, it can only prove one thing, that you are not really treated as one of our own. Doing this will have two benefits for your leaders. One is that they can use you Being a role model can better inspire others to do their best. The second thing is that I don’t owe you any favors, so I can deal with matters decisively and not be sloppy when I am punished.”
Ning Weimin sat down again after hearing this. I couldn't help but couldn't understand Kang Shude's words.
"I don't understand, even if it's like what you said. But why does she have to target me? People like me are obviously useful to her. Why does she want to punish me? ? Then there must be a reason, right? Is it necessary?"
At this time, Kang Shude told Ning Weimin with a serious expression - "Things are done because of people, and things are ruined because of people. ".
Following Kang Shude, he explained in detail.
"You are useful, but no matter how useful you are, you are not as good as everyone else in your company, right? Your leaders can't just rely on you to run this company. Who do you rely on? You can only rely on yourself and others. The relationship between people is so antagonistic."
"Think about it, how did He Shen die in history? He was not a good person with a higher level of flattery than you? Isn't he more useful than you? Kill him? But even he knows how to make friends with his brother. Why do you think you are so arrogant? Wishful thinking and eagerness for success must lead to retreat and detours. On the one hand, you must find opportunities to display your knowledge and show your talents. On the other hand, you must make friends with others and try to minimize the related side effects. Otherwise, you must not be tough and create confrontation. , things will inevitably turn against each other, and one day, when your benefits to the top are outweighed by the disadvantages, you will be abandoned. "
"I am not telling you this to make you blame others or feel guilty. It's not fair to kill the donkey. It's just to let you understand why the donkey can die. It's because of the word "stubbornness" that, objectively speaking, everyone, including you, can die. As long as you want to be a powerful person who can manage and make good use of people, you must do this when faced with similar situations."
"You must understand that a qualified leader must at least. Master three skills. The first is to draw cakes. You see, Liu Bei claimed to be the King of Zhongshan and wanted to help the Han Dynasty and save the world. At first, everyone laughed, but after hearing more, he became convinced. Recruit someone better than him.”
"Managing subordinates is actually very similar to achieving hegemony. Whether the person in charge has the ability and how much ability he has. It mainly depends on whether he has the ability to find outstanding subordinates to assist him. In this world, creating goals and achieving goals are not The same person. As many people believe you as you brag, the biggest problem for ordinary people is that they don’t dare to brag, so they can only serve other people’s goals throughout their lives.”
“Second. The first skill is to give up the benefits. Bragging has a shelf life, otherwise no one will believe it. Of course, this kind of benefit cannot be distributed equally to important and capable subordinates. Those who are weak cannot even drink the soup. The gap between the rich and the poor must be widened, otherwise people will have no motivation.” If you eat too much, you need to have checks and balances. The boss must be kind, but the methods must also be ruthless. Any heroes and capable officials in the early stages of the company will become obstacles in the later stage. If you are old and familiar, you will become more and more aggressive. If you want to make the most powerful people become more motivated, you should break the emotional shackles."
"Of course, your leader is a woman after all. There is a gender issue here. In my life experience, I have never met a woman in a high position. Will she be merciful, and will she be like Wu? Again, I'm not entirely sure. "
"First, she is a qualified general manager, so she didn't hesitate at all when it came time to kill her. Second, she is not qualified and will act as she pleases and ignore you. In the end, either your company will be divided, or she will be fired by your foreign boss. Third, the two of you will destroy this company together. Chaos, either get rid of everyone else, or get out of here together.”
Ning Weimin was speechless for a long time, silently digesting Professor Kang Shude's teachings.
Don’t say it, these words really work. It can be said that it is valuable knowledge that cannot be exchanged for a lot of money.
If the value of truth theory is at least worth two pieces of Tianhuang, he will not lose at all.
You know, there were many things that he didn't understand in the past, but it was only today that he seemed to understand them.
For example, in his previous life, when his company reached a certain scale, it was unable to grow.
All day long he had to spend his energy on internal conflicts within the company.
To resolve the conflicts between several capable generals, and to appease their tempers.
Now he understands that this is what he asked for and is the result of his connivance.
He only saw that some people could make money for him, but ignored their negative impact on the company.
So that as soon as his employees' performance improved, all of them became depressed. Like an uncle.
But some people with particularly good qualities and knowledge refuse to stay no matter what.
I would rather go to other companies where the benefits and commissions are not as good as his. They have seen clearly his disordered management and have long since decided to follow him. The development is limited.
For another example, he understands now.
Song Huagui gave him cars, money and positions without hesitation. I am afraid that he was really guarding against him.
It is similar to his interactions with people like Jiang Hao, Wu Shen, and Li Zhong. It is settled one by one. It is believed that you should use it and don't use it.
Of course, this cannot be said to have any bad intentions. It is probably just like what the old man said.
It’s because he takes his ability too seriously, thinking that he is the most useful to the company.
Let others in the company not be hostile or jealous.
Song Huagui could only regard him as a temporary confidant and assistant.
Otherwise, it would be purely to cause trouble for herself, and she would have to isolate herself.
And there is one last thing, which is an extra bonus.
Ning Weimin suddenly discovered that the President of the United States, whom he had always looked down on in his previous life, seemed to have two brushes.
At least this old boy is pretty good at painting cakes, so he called on everyone to share it.
It’s a pity that I traveled a little early and didn’t get to see the second half of the US president’s campaign.
Ning Weimin had no idea what the old boy's final outcome would be, and was quite curious.
Well, no matter what.
That big guy is the one who really made his fortune by blowing stuff.
(End of this chapter)