Chapter 580 The snow falls quietly
"Huo Xin, people who have been here often say that you don’t understand love when you first fall in love, and you don’t understand love when you are young. This is all true. Do you really understand love? Let me see what love is. , I’m afraid you can’t tell clearly.”
“I don’t understand love?” Huo Xin was certainly not convinced, “Then what is love?”
“What is the ultimate goal of love? Marriage is about two people growing old together and raising children, right? If you agree with this, then the essence of love is the mutual commitment of two people to bear everything together, and the courage and perseverance to face all hardships together. . Of course, there is also the romance of the flower before the moon, but it is very small, and the proportion will never exceed 20%."
The answer given by Ning Weimin is that of a mature person. A sophisticated view.
"Are these your own thoughts? Or are you deliberately copying someone else's words? Why do I feel that you and I are not of the same age? Old man, how expensive are you this year? I think you must be fifty years old, right?"
Huo Xin, however, couldn't understand Ning Weimin's performance beyond his age.
I thought he was deliberately trying to make trouble for me, so I couldn't help but taunt him.
But the more negative she was, the more Ning Weimin wanted to laugh.
"Look, your reaction like this shows that you are just a child. Is love just about two people being happy and congenial, a man and a woman falling in love with each other?"
"I'm very sorry, I have to tell you that the world does not revolve around us. No one will be young forever, only good luck will always happen."
"In life, all bad things are possible. Including loved ones Death, being disabled in a car accident, being separated from relatives, living under the influence of others, leaving home, meeting someone unkind..."
"Sounds scary, right? But it's all true. In other words, if the ingredients of love are just as simple as you think. That would be too easy, so why talk about the word 'precious'?"
I don't know if he was angry at this rebuttal, or was really frightened by Ning Weimin's description.
Huo Xin's face became more and more ugly, and she couldn't help but scream.
"What you said is too scary, are you trying to scare me? Or do you want to discuss life and deliberately change the topic? Stop talking about nonsense. We are just talking about the two of us!"
Ning Weimin was just the opposite of her, his smile became calmer.
“I am now more convinced that I was right. You are just a child. You always don’t understand that it is precisely because of our different ideas and inconsistent perceptions of our values, worldview, and outlook on life that The real obstacle that prevents us from getting together is actually not a big deal if we have similar personalities and similar hobbies. Come on. But with different personalities, we can help each other better. Think about it, wouldn’t it be possible if your partner could help you when you are impulsive, or push you when you are weak? Good thing? You have an impatient temper, but you also have a straightforward side, so why change it? "
"What's more, as the saying goes, nature is hard to change. If you change your nature, you still can't. Yourself? If you force yourself to change, you will definitely not succeed, and no one in this world is worthy of doing so.
Perhaps because people like to hear good things, Huo Xin finally paid attention to Ning Weimin's explanation and thought about it seriously.
"Ideology? Are these big and boundless things you are talking about empty? Even so. Can't two people get along with each other, influence each other, and gradually reach an agreement?"
< br>Ning Weimin shook his head decisively.
"Of course not. Although people's three views are acquired, they require long-term learning and experience. They are also the comprehensive product of personal family background, life experience, and social experience. That is precisely what makes everyone different from others It can be said that the three views are a person's beliefs and a person's soul. "So true 'like-mindedness' is not like anything at all." Those of Qin, Qi, calligraphy and painting, but they agree on three views. Otherwise, why are so many revolutionaries with the same ideal willing to sacrifice themselves to protect their comrades? On the other hand, you can also look at how many couples are originally happy. Isn’t it because of this problem that many relatives who were originally harmonious suddenly turned against each other when they broke up?
Huo Xin was stunned when she heard this. It was obvious that she had never thought about these issues before, and Ning Weimin refreshed her knowledge.
I was stunned for a long time before I came back to my senses.
“But the past is in the past. It is not the war years anymore. Moreover, many broken families have reconciled. Don’t you think you are over worried? People Getting along with people is more about trivial matters such as food, rice, oil and salt. How can it always be involved in these big conflicts? "
Ning Weimin shook his head firmly again.
"You are wrong. The difference in three views may not be so intense in today's life, but the inherent contradictions will follow you everywhere. Because the three views are what drive people's words and deeds The origin of behavior. Just like our last quarrel. Why I returned the pickup to the company and why I stayed away from the head office, I can’t explain to you..."
Although Huo Xin also believed that the truth was correct, because it involved herself, how could she admit it?
"Who said that? You should have told me that you had such a plan. How could I not support it?"
Facing Huo Xin's urgent argument, Ning Weimin also Ask a rhetorical question.
"Then what if I failed? The restaurant failed to do well and lost money. Even if I was fired by the head office, would you still think so? If I resigned tomorrow and left to start a new business by myself, Would you rather be a self-employed person? What do you think? Will you still support me? "
"You... want to leave?" Huo Xin no longer cares about discussing the problem. He immediately became anxious, "You... why are you doing this? You obviously have a bright future."
Ning Weimin couldn't help but laugh at her shift of attention.
"Haha, I'm just making an analogy. But look, am I right? Although your concern for me is well-intentioned, our views are different, and our perceptions are different. I can Let me tell you, what you think is a great future actually doesn’t matter to me. I want to live a happy life, have the freedom to be independent, and start a business on my own. I’m afraid it’s the same as a lunatic in your eyes.”
"But...but isn't this because you are too colorful? Who in the normal world would give up a stable and secure future? Let all the hard work he has put in go to waste?"
Huo Xin's confusion and panic, It means that she has completely followed Ning Weimin's rhythm.
It was so natural that Ning Weimin easily caught the flaw in her words and denied it.
"No, no, who said all the previous efforts were wasted. Isn't everything I did before useless to myself? Isn't it the gain of experience and the growth of ability? This is something you ignore. And the position you value and decency are the biggest differences in our values.”
“To be honest, if you are born in such a family, it is inevitable that you will have such values about status, education, position, and future. , I can understand the importance of privilege and the instinct of persistence. But I definitely don’t like it, and I won’t approve of it, so we become people in two worlds.”
“Huo. Xin, you and I grew up in completely different environments. I am just a child of ordinary people. If love and marriage are to be happy, two people must have the same views. To be honest, I have no idea what kind of person I should marry. I haven’t thought about it clearly myself. But I know one thing. It’s absolutely impossible for us to get along with each other.”
“This is actually the best way for us to get along with each other. Keep a distance and just be ordinary friends. Then we can tolerate each other, understand each other, and even help each other."
Perhaps because Ning Weimin hit the point, his outspokenness made Huo Xin a little angry. .
Hearing this, she interrupted suddenly.
"Look at what you said about me, am I so philistine and so bad? You are being extreme! People go to higher places, and water flows to lower places. It is not natural for a person to pursue success throughout his life. What’s wrong with ordinary people’s families? Don’t ordinary people want their children to go to college, join the military, and find a good job?”
“Also, people are social creatures, and we can build a complete family together. Society, as an individual in society, don’t you need to care about other people’s feelings? That’s called selfishness! How can public order and civility be maintained if you choose yourself out like this?”
“No, No, you are not selfish, but you have low self-esteem! I was almost deceived by you. You are using a cynical attitude to cover up your low self-esteem. On the surface, you look very proud when you reject others. There is no self-confidence.”
“You care about my family because you only want to stay in your own familiar environment and dare not move forward. There is a saying that it is better to be a chicken head than to do anything. Fengwei. Are you like this? Are you afraid of accepting my feelings because you feel too much pressure on my family?"
Ning Weimin had long expected that this issue was too sensitive and Huo Xin would probably become emotional.
But what she never expected was that she actually assumed that she had low self-esteem.
Out of pride, Ning Weimin originally wanted to argue.
But after thinking about it, is this kind of war of words meaningful? In fact, it doesn’t matter.
As long as his goal is achieved, what does it matter what Huo Xin thinks?
"Whatever you think, we have different views anyway. This kind of problem cannot be discussed in one place."
"You are still a grown man, how can you be so negative about life. Really Determining a person's achievement depends on how he fights, works hard, and strives for it! You don't understand this at all..."
"How come I don't understand the truth? You think the problem is too simple. To put it bluntly, it's like eating in a restaurant. People who don't care continue to eat, but those who care have no appetite. How can you say who is right and who is wrong? Do you want to continue eating? "How does this involve eating? What are you talking about?"
I don't know if it's because I'm young or because I don't understand the world.
Many tactful ways could have left room for both parties, but they did not apply to Huo Xin at all.
To be honest, Huo Xin didn't look like a Beijing native, which made Ning Weimin feel helpless.
When talking to her, you can't be subtle, you can only be explicit.
"Then let me explain it a little more clearly. What if...I mean what if, we were together? We can imagine it."
"I am a poor boy entering a senior class. Will the cadre family be happy? No, no matter how hard I work, no matter how outstanding I am, I will be accused of nepotism in the future. So what’s the point of my efforts and struggles?”
"And you, how should you treat me? Be cautious, lest I feel ignored and despised. But aren't you sad about this? This is unfair to you."
"Similarly, yours Even if my parents accept me, it's because of you. What if I have a conflict with them? "
"There is no possibility of harmony in our situation. If it happens, no matter it happens to me, you, or even your parents, everyone will be heartbroken."
"We will not be happy, we will only be tired and have more misunderstandings. It’s strange that this kind of marriage can maintain a good relationship. Even if there is some good things at the beginning, it will be destroyed in the end.” The summed up experience is that there is a certain truth in "marrying a woman from a low-class family, marrying a girl from a high-class family". It will be a tragedy for both parties and there will be no good outcome. ”
Huo Xin really had a headache, "What you said... is too complicated! I haven't thought about it, I haven't thought about it..."
He then started to cry, "Is it really just because of family? Doesn't that mean we can't be together? How could it be? We're of the same family, aren't they feudal dregs? No, that's not the case. Why didn't Sister Hui and Brother Nian Jing show up? What about this kind of problem? "
Huo Xin seemed to have regained hope amidst the despair.
But when her words fell into Ning Weimin's ears, they were just a big joke, and they were destined to be crushed by him.
"Don't use them as examples. Although I don't like to discuss other people's rights and wrongs behind their backs. But I still want to say that you look very beautiful, but you are not harmonious. It may not be true. Maybe it's just people. Want you to see this scene?”
"At this point, I simply confess to you that I am actually very disgusted with the friends around you. They are proud of their family background and proud of enjoying the shade of their parents, which makes me feel shallow. They do not respect hard work. Even laughing at the efforts of civilians makes me angry. Their ignorance and arrogance also disgust me, but I don't want to show it."
"But what I hate most about them is that they are all hypocritical. They are very philistine, but they pretend to be righteous. They especially like to use morality to kidnap others and do things for them. I have always been hesitant. I don't know if I would misunderstand you if I advise you to stay away from them. Come on, you really believe in friendship. But they are completely different. They just use friendship as a tool to use others." Ning Weimin's words made Huo Xin feel uncomfortable.
Although the words were harsh, they were objective facts common in life, which made it difficult for her to find the words to refute several times.
In the end, she had nothing to say, and then she began to sob softly.
And as soon as the tears were opened, they seemed to be completely unstoppable and flowed down.
From then on, until Ning Weimin drove the car to Shijia Hutong, the two of them never spoke again.
Finally, when the two of them parted at the entrance of the famous courtyard, Ning Weimin felt a little embarrassed.
I would also like to find two more words to add to the scene.
"Huo Xin, I'm very sorry today. I said too many things that you don't like to hear. But I have always regarded you as my best friend..."
In the end, he was completely redundant, and Huo Xin, who had just stopped crying, was recruited. Hot tears fell from my eyes again sourly.
"Oh, friend, good friend... You have said it too many times. No need to repeat it. You always use friendship to resist love. But to be honest, in my opinion. You are the same way. What a hypocritical person. Forget it, you are not worthy of being my friend! You cold-blooded animal!" After saying that, Huo Xin opened the car door and jumped out of the car.
Braving the wind and snow, I ran to the courtyard and plunged into the vermilion gate with golden pillars and a guard sentry standing at the door.
Needless to say, Ning Weimin was really embarrassed now.
Because Huo Xin forgot his bicycle, and it was still lying behind his car?
Nothing else, Ning Weimin had no choice but to get out of the car and take matters into his own hands, unloading Huo Xin's car and the gifts.
Then he pushed over and discussed with the guard at the door.
"What...comrade, this bicycle belongs to the girl who just went in. She forgot to take it, why don't you give it to her. These things are also gifts she brought..."< br>
I didn’t expect that the guards couldn’t make the decision on this kind of thing, and they had to call to ask for instructions.
Just as he was talking, another Jim car drove into the alley.
Because the alley is not wide, there are cars parked beside the wall of the courtyard itself. The oncoming Jim sedan was blocked by Ning Weimin's large jeep and had to stop in front of his car.
But this is nothing.
Soon a well-dressed middle-aged couple got out of the car. They came over with some gifts and seemed to want to enter the courtyard.
Just under the illumination of the car lights, they came face to face with Ning Weimin.
Then the couple's eyes were fixed on the bicycle that Ning Weimin was pushing, and then turned back to his face.
The woman wearing a black mink coat and pearl earrings was the first to ask.
"What's going on? Is this... Huo Xin's bicycle?"
The elegant middle-aged man, while pulling into the collar of his coat, looked at Ning curiously Protect the people.
"Young man, you... and Huo Xin are...?"
Ning Weimin was completely dumbfounded, his mind racing as to how to deal with the scene in front of him.
Don’t ask, he knew the identity of the couple based on their facial features and the style of their clothes.
The more you are afraid of, the more you get.
How come the coincidences in life are so fucked up!
At this moment, the air is full of colorful paper, and there are explosions everywhere.
Above the alley, which is about three to four meters wide, is a black and blue sky with sparks flying.
There is only snow, falling quietly, falling...
(End of this chapter)