Sure enough, I still have to ask for leave...
The matter of visiting the graves to worship ancestors does not require much time.
But I can’t help but have a lot of relatives...
What’s even more annoying is that the relatives are not very reliable...
The customs here are actually not complicated. This is a very common ancestor worship process.
We agreed to set off at 9:30 in the morning.
It's already half past ten when everyone is here... It's a waste of an hour.
Then the two uncles and grandfathers are a bit outrageous...
Every year when they go to the graves to worship their ancestors, these two go to my aunt's side first, and that is the large tomb area in my house, so There will definitely be a traffic jam.
(Yes, they always take a whole family to someone else’s ancestral grave first... I don’t understand.)
By the time they finally arrived at their ancestral grave, it was already after one o'clock at noon...
This was outrageous enough.
After all, going to the graves to worship ancestors must end before twelve o'clock at noon according to custom...
This is not the most outrageous...
The next thing is outrageous start.
When a big family goes to the grave to worship their ancestors, my family needs to prepare food and money for ancestor worship.
(Originally this has nothing to do with my family, each should prepare their own tribute, but they will choose to "take" part of it themselves.
For the sake of face and friendship between relatives, my family simply I will be more prepared, maybe this will also encourage this unhealthy trend)
I will go to another cemetery next. (This is the ancestral grave of a relative who lives further away)
It’s not that they are so kind-hearted, but that this relative who is so far away that I don’t even know how to talk about it is a rich person...
They are still the type who are extremely rich. They are not in their hometown and cannot come back.
Leave it to my two uncles and grandfathers. (It’s okay if we don’t see any of the benefits they give.
But asking our family to provide the money and tribute required for worship is extravagant. Of course, the method is still to take it without telling us.
It's a bit unpleasant to say "steal", so just use "take")
When the round of worship is over, it will be after four o'clock when I return home... I am from the northwest. My home is not a big city, and the cemetery is on the desert sands of the Gobi Desert.
The wind is strong and the sun is strong, and it takes a whole day of wind and sand.
There is a cement factory next to my ancestral grave... Every time I go to the grave, I have to take a long detour. (Of course, there was the cement factory first and then the tomb of my ancestors)
Hmm... the road over there feels a bit similar to climbing over mountains and ridges.
Anyway, I have to carry the objects for worship and climb those sand dunes with one foot deep and one foot shallow... There is always a reason why I get injured when I go to the graves to worship my ancestors.
My family lineage has been mercilessly controlled by them, and I feel bad every time.
This kind of experience happens four times a year...
I also have to realize the truth many times every year about what is meant by "if you are poor in the busy city, no one cares about you, but if you are rich in the mountains, you have distant relatives."
Ancestor worship itself is just a matter of expressing grief.
As a result, one by one they became filial sons and grandsons of other families.
The problem is that it is true that the distant relatives have money, but can they spend it on them if they have money?
Moreover, can they still make that wealthy relative grateful by worshiping other people’s ancestral graves?
Is it necessary for someone’s ancestors to tell someone in their dreams, “Oh, look how many times they come to worship every year. You have to give them money.”
That doesn’t make sense.
No matter how you put it, there are other things to do, such as keeping the family’s ancestral graves in an orderly manner and not following the customs. What’s the point of being a filial son and grandson for someone else’s family?
Of course, it is their business to have an agreement with that relative or to be able to get the money.
What makes me sad is not that our family didn’t get a share of the benefits they got.
Our family has never asked them to go there.
Why bother with this kind of thing in our family! ?
Wouldn’t it be better to prepare what others need by yourself? Isn’t it good to go to someone’s ancestral grave by yourself?
If you don’t prepare tribute yourself, you will take it from us without telling us. Is this dissatisfaction with his ancestors?
Emotionally I really cannot accept this kind of thing.
"You are young but not a grandson, and you are long and have no words to describe,___________!"
It is really exhausted both physically and mentally.
(End of this chapter)