The woman left.
Lin Feng took a puff of cigarette and said: "Parents, let me tell you, don't always think about me doing nothing and I will train my children,
I spent all my money on my children, and I will rely on my son to support them from now on.
I tell you,
Times have long since changed.
In today's society, everyone is an only child.
You said that when the children grow up and get married, how can he be responsible for the care of four elderly people with two only children?
Not to mention whether the money is enough, he just can't take care of her in terms of energy.
Because he also has a wife and children, and a series of problems at work.
There's no way he has the energy.
If there is love between you, he can still overcome it. They are all his dear parents.
As a result, repressive education has forced children from childhood to adulthood.
Do you think that thing can support you in your old age?
So I say that today’s parents need to change their thinking. Times have changed a long time ago, and the education methods of the older generation have too many disadvantages.
Is this true, brothers?
How can two only children provide for four elderly people?
To put it harshly,
Nowadays, when people go on a blind date, they have to ask, do your parents have a pension?
Okay,
I have pushed my children all my life, but in the end I found that I was holding them back.
No money, no love.
The child starts to hate you.
Even if he has money and energy, he won't spend it on you.
So it is better to force your children than to force yourself.
In this way, there is love and money.
Not to mention that you can save a lot, but at least you won’t be a burden to your children,
Relatively speaking, my parents have savings and can spend their own pension money first.
What do you think the child will look like in the end, and whether it will be a success or not? We are all from an ordinary family anyway, and I can understand why the child is not as outstanding as others,
Regardless of whether your performance is good or not, whether your grades are good or not, whether you are excellent or not, when you come back, your parents will cook you what you like to eat.
We are just ordinary people, and I love my children more.
As long as you have family and love, that's it. Don't mess around every day until you get tired.
Let’s tell the truth,
People in today's society are very tired, there is really no need. ”
. . . . . .
On the barrage.
"How can two only children provide for four elderly people? A question that shocks the soul (thumbs up)."
"It's true. I went on a blind date last month, and the first thing the other person said was whether your parents have pensions (grin)."
"I have pushed my children all my life, but in the end I found that I was holding them back (laughing to death)."
"I am a husband from the city, but from the countryside. My single mother has a retirement salary, and my husband's parents have rural insurance, which is more than 1,000 yuan a year. Just like this, my mother-in-law also said that my husband is pitiful because he has to support three elderly people."
"My eldest brother is right, it is better to educate your children than to educate yourself, so I taught myself illustration as a newbie while I was raising my baby full-time. Now that my baby is in school, I draw illustrations at home to earn pocket money for myself."
You are a good mother.
Learn from you.
. . . . . . .
Lin Feng: "Look at this barrage, some people say they understand, but there are still many people in their 40s who come up and scold me.
Everyone is saying why am I not considerate of my parents?
Say I have incorrect views.
I was convinced too.
These people come to Lianmai. If you teach them how to deal with their children, if you teach them how to torment their children, if you teach them how to make their children better, they will be willing to listen.
But if you ask him to go to more classes, earn more money, and provide better resources for his children, 9 out of 10 parents won't like to hear it.
They say you can’t understand our difficulties, we are just ordinary people.
Then you are just an ordinary person, and no one else has as many resources as you can provide your children. Why do you require your children to be as good as other people’s children?
Don't pass your worries on to your children.
Don't say that you are incompetent and that you are very anxious, then you will transfer this anxiety to your children, making them anxious as well.
If anxious you can succeed.
Then he'd already succeeded.
Why are there so many failed parents and miserable children?
You must realize that anxiety cannot solve any problems, it will only amplify conflicts.
You always ask your children to be better, so how good is a child?
You have to allow yourself to be yourself, and you have to allow others to be others.
Do you understand? ”
. . . . . . . On the barrage.
"It's so nice to have a child...I really cried to death."
"Big brother is really a model father for Douyin children (thumbs up)."
"Why do you want to criticize such a good anchor? (I don't understand)."
"The children love to listen when my eldest brother teaches me something to do, and he scolds me when I ask my parents to work more."
"Because it's easier to force children (sunglasses) than to force yourself."
Hit the nail on the head!
. . . . . . .
"Brother, why doesn't my child like to talk to me?"
A barrage of praise flashed across.
Lin Feng rolled his eyes: "I'm not a fucking fortune teller. You don't have any information. When I came up, I asked you why your child doesn't like to talk to you. How could I know?
But based on your topic, I would like to extend this question to you, the friend who asked the question, you should also check whether you have any of these problems in yourself.
In life, have you ever found that parents are more able to respect the individual consciousness of their children. Children are often more polite, sensible, and relatively expressive.
I don’t know if you have ever seen that when school is over at the entrance of primary school, many parents will buy something for the children to eat, or bring something to eat,
Generally, mothers are more gentle, for example, if they give snacks to their children after buying them, the children will usually say thank you to their mother.
It’s just two people expressing themselves normally.
But some children don't speak when they take snacks from their mothers.
Why?
Because you obviously bought something for him to eat, and you just let him eat it properly, but some mothers still insist on scolding,
You know what to eat every day, have you done your homework, and how is the exam?
If you have to say something to him, the child will certainly not want to talk to you.
You're going to get scolded anyway, let's wait until you eat.
So he is relatively less expressive.
Anyway, if you scold me as much as you want, and if you scold me every time you eat, I will automatically block your words.
Maybe your child won’t hear you when you call him,
Because as soon as your voice comes out, he knows that something is up and he is going to be scolded, so he will automatically block you in many cases.
Sometimes, children share their joy with you. For example, they are very happy today. They have finished their homework and are very happy.
You see that your child is happy and you start talking again. You finished your homework so quickly. Take the two test papers over there and do them again.
It's like you don't allow your child to be happy.
Then he will definitely no longer want to share happiness with you.
I don’t know if you can understand that many people cannot be happy in front of their parents. This is a big problem.
The child is obviously happy and has finished his homework and can go play. You immediately sign him up for an interest class. If you think this time is wasted, you just make up for it.
It's rare to be a little happy. What's your score on the test? You're happy.
It's always this conversation.
So many parents ask why their children don’t want to communicate with you?
Isn’t it time to be rebellious?
In fact, if you think about it carefully, the problem may not really be with the child.
. . . . . .
On the barrage.
"I'm so happy, how many points did I get in the exam (grin)."
"I know how to eat every day and whether I have finished my homework (covering my face)."
"Oh my god, I'm already 28, and this terrible memory hits me instantly (speechless)."
"Anyway, I have to scold you. Eat first and then talk about it. This mental state is hahahaha."
"Really, that's how I am. I have been blocking (dog heads) habitually since elementary school."
"It's over, I realized my problem. I just can't see my son being idle and not doing his homework."
It felt like an epiphany.
. . . . . . .
Lin Feng: "Many parents just cannot see their children being happy. It seems that they can only feel at ease if their children are in a state of suffering all the time.
Ahem,
Talking too much, brothers.
Forget it,
That’s it for this topic.
Immediately, his mother said that I was instigating conflicts between the children in the family.
They also said they wanted to report me.
Scared. Scared.
Hurry up and be the next one. "(End of Chapter)