Next one.
Ding~
"Hello, big brother."
It's a girl.
Lin Feng: "What's wrong? What problem did you encounter?"
Woman: "It's just some problems with children's education."
Lin Feng smiled: "You guys really regard me as a parenting expert, okay, come on."
Woman: "My child is in fifth grade. He is ranked third in the province in swimming this year and is a national second-level athlete. He should be considered a pretty good kid.
But I found that my heart seemed to be dissatisfied with his expectations,
Just today, I just finished talking to him. My heart is relatively low. I know that he is also relatively low inside.
Because I found that after I finished talking to him, my expectations for him and what he really wanted were actually not the same thing,
He told me he wished he had some playmates.
However, I hope he can persevere in his studies and get some results,
Because after all, in our exam-oriented education environment, you have to get some results. ”
Lin Feng's brows tangled when he heard this: "Sister-in-law, you are also a child. You know that it is quite pitiful to have no friends in childhood.
Children can also have emotions. He and other children can run around and yell, which is the unique happiness of peers.
Parents' grades cannot be replaced.
How about you say that you hope he will work harder in his studies and get better grades?
But let me say something ugly,
If pushing children could lead to success, there wouldn't be so many failed parents and painful family relationships. ”
. . . . . . .
On the barrage.
"He is a second-level athlete in elementary school. He is awesome."
“Third in the province, I still want to (grin).”
"What do you mean it's okay? The child is great, right?"
"Tiger Mom."
"It's very pitiful to have no friends in childhood... Big brother is so warm."
"You have no friends in childhood, and you won't have any in adulthood."
Ordered.
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Lin Feng: "You can succeed by forcing your children. This is a false proposition in itself.
In a hurry, the child hates learning,
Believe me, no matter how many teachers you hire to teach you what kind of classes, his grades will never improve.
You said how is the environment for exam-oriented education? It won’t work if you don’t work hard.
The child didn't ask you, right?
Why don’t other students need to take exam-oriented education?
People go directly to study abroad and go to prestigious schools.
Why can people directly choose the tune when they come back?
Why can other parents provide such good conditions for their children?
Sister-in-law,
He didn't compare you with the parents of his classmates.
Don't tell me that none of his classmates or parents are better than you,
There must be,
And there are too many.
The key child’s request is not excessive.
He is only in the fifth grade of elementary school and he needs some playmates.
Moreover, he has expressed his wishes to you very clearly, but you ignore him. You insist on pressing him down at the desk and forcing him to study,
Do you think he will learn it? ”
. . . . . .
On the barrage.
"I don't expect my children to fly into the sky (grin)."
"Why can't parents follow their children's hearts? (Hey)."
"Think about yourself back then."
"You can succeed by forcing your children. It's a false proposition. It's so well said (thumbs up)."
"Because even if you get results in the end, you may lose more."
"I am a failure forced by my father (cry to death)."
. . . . . .
Lin Feng; "Sister-in-law, this is the advice I give you,
You can actually relax a little bit, kid. He is interested in learning.
Don't push yourself so hard, he can actually work hard step by step,
On the contrary, learning is long-term.
Some people are weak in the later stage because they dug too much in the early stage. After digging to the end, they become disgusted with learning.
The cramming education made him dizzy just sitting at the desk. ”
Woman: "But the situation with me now is that children of his age in our entire community have a lot of homework. Even if he goes to play, he can't find playmates."
Stopped and stopped.
Lin Feng knocked on the blackboard and interrupted: "I'm not your child, you don't need to convince me.
What the hell do you mean there are no children downstairs in the community?
Your family lives in a community, and we all live in rural areas, right?
Not all parents are like you, keeping their children at home and studying all day long.
If you take a look at the community, you will see that there are not many children. As long as you go down and get some people to join in and yell, there will still be people out to play.
There are still some parents who will let their children play outside and know how to respect and understand their children.
There are even some in surrounding communities,
But as long as you refuse to put him down, he never will. ”
. . . . . .
On the barrage.
"I'm not your child, you don't need to convince me hahaha."
"My eldest brother is too lazy to explain to her (grin)."
"If you don't put him down, he will never have a playmate. Brother hits the nail on the head and tells the truth directly."
"My son can travel around the world with a phone and watch in the community (covering his face and laughing)." "On the basketball court downstairs in the community, my son is almost always the first to go downstairs to play ball, and a group of friends can gather in a short while."
"Actually, she knows that there are children in the community, but he thinks that those who play outside without doing homework are not good children (dog head)."
Ordered.
. . . . . .
Lin Feng: "You come up and ask me questions, and I tell you that the child was not forced out, and I have told you a clear set of ideas,
It's up to you whether you accept it or not.
There's no need for us to convince each other. ”
The woman was silent for a while and said: "Actually, what you said is right. When I force my child, I should actually force myself to provide him with more resources."
Lin Feng nodded: "If you can listen, it means you can still be saved.
Relax, sister-in-law,
We often need to cherish the time when our children can express their feelings to us, communicate with us, and stay with us.
If you can give your child a warm childhood and a loving environment, believe me, he won't do badly.
On the contrary, when the child feels this kind of love, he will work hard spontaneously.
You are like the door of our community,
Brother Shui should know,
There was a gluten store that sold gluten. I was very impressed. The couple had a child.
My children help at the stall after school, and when customers come, they help take orders. ”
Brother Shui nodded, "I know."
Lin Feng: "When there are no customers, the child will find a corner to do his homework. At night, when his parents close the stall very late, the child will sleep under the barbecue stall.
Underneath was a shelf where the child slept.
Do you think it’s hard work for others?
But every time I pass by, I see children smiling happily.
The child is just like that, he doesn’t ask whether his parents have money or not, whether they can buy him toys.
When he was a child, he was happy doing whatever he could to stay with his parents.
After closing the stall in the evening, they baked some more themselves. The family of three sat there and ate some supper. Dad drank a beer and rode a tricycle back, which was also very happy.
Can you say that someone else's child is a bad boy? ”
The woman was silent.
. . . . . . .
On the barrage.
"I thought he was a high school student, but he clicked in and was talking about children's education, and he talked so well (amazing)."
"What a heart-warming story. Brother is so awesome. I cried when I told you."
"Brother said before that children's happiness level is very low."
"Children must learn to feel love when they are young and not be too utilitarian, otherwise parents will only reap the consequences."
"Don't be a disappointing parent. Your son will never be a disappointing son in the future. You are like a mirror. If you are harsh on him, he will be harsh on you in the future."
reasonable!
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Lin Feng: "Listen to my sister-in-law, there is no need to deliberately let the child endure hardship, because the child will not be able to escape any of the hardships he will endure in the future.
When it is time to go to work, you must be disciplined by the leader.
When you fall in love, you have to be embarrassed by your father-in-law and mother-in-law.
The wife thinks he has no money and ability, and the son thinks his father is useless.
Faced with a car, a house, and a series of family problems, he will suffer far more than this in the future, and he will not be able to escape any of them.
Then you might as well let him have a happy childhood. At least when he faces these setbacks in the future, he will still have some strength in his heart.
He knows that family is a haven. When he is tired, he can go home to rest and recharge.
Mom and Dad have prepared the braised pork. When you get home, they won’t ask you about your performance or care about how much you earned this year.
Anyway, you will have food to eat when you go home, and your parents will think you are great.
At least I am happy to recall my childhood.
Otherwise, at the age when he should be playing with children, you force him to study and force him to do various things,
After finally forcing it out, he listened to you and what you said,
As the teacher often said, if you work hard in elementary school and get into a good junior high school, it will be easy.
The junior high school said that if you work hard and get into a good high school, it will be easy.
The high school also said that if you work hard, it will be easy in college.
The university also said that it would be easier if you work hard enough to get out of work.
As a result, he found that he still had no chance to breathe after working.
Boss Squeeze
Damn it every day 996
Looking back, he found that his home was not yet a haven, and it seemed that he had never enjoyed this life at all.
It's over.
The fucking sky is falling. ”
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Attached
[Military Advisor’s Remarks: So what is the end of the road?
yes. . .
Just get into high school,
Just get admitted to the undergraduate program,
Just pass CET-4 or CET-6,
Just get admitted to graduate school,
Just finish reading the book,
Just finish the internship,
It would be nice to have a job,
Just pass the preparation test,
It would be nice if the job is stable,
Just get married,
It would be nice to have children,
Just retire,
Once the disease is cured, it will be cured. . . .
It turns out that there is still a road at the end of the road! 】(End of this chapter)