"Brother, when I was in school, my teacher slapped me in front of the whole class. Is this normal?"
A barrage of praise flashed across.
Lin Feng was stunned: "A slap in the face?
Of course that's not normal.
The teacher educates the students, if you really make a mistake, slap your palms. I think this is normal.
But I think a slap in the face is a personal insult.
Especially in many cases, you can't guarantee that the teacher is impartial. He may just be venting his emotions.
For example, let’s say your wife is angry in the morning, or you have an argument with a stranger on the way to work.
Then you can't guarantee that he won't vent his anger on the students when he comes to school.
Teacher,
To put it bluntly, it’s just a job,
The meaning behind this job is great, but people are people.
We all have our own emotions, and we all have times when we can’t control them.
But no matter what, it is definitely wrong to slap someone in the face.
And it was in front of the whole class, and my self-esteem was directly rubbed on the ground.
So no matter what the reason is, you shouldn’t be slapped in the face! ”
. . . . . .
On the barrage
"Why don't you slap someone in the face? Who dares to slap their children in the face except parents?"
“My son’s teacher dared to slap him ten times just because he didn’t write two words correctly (laughing to death).”
"You're still in the mood to laugh, buddy (grin)."
"Then what's going on? I asked the teacher and the teacher didn't admit it (face covering)."
"Adjust school surveillance. Now there are surveillance cameras in every class."
"It's a coincidence, the surveillance was broken that day."
6
. . . . . .
"Brother, I was slapped three times in the face by the teacher in front of the whole class. I told my dad, and his first reaction was to scold me. He said if you didn't do anything, would the teacher hit you? I would Very hurt.
Although it has been many years since this happened, my dad is usually very good to me, and I am quite happy.
But every time I think about this, I still feel hurt. ”
A slap in the face?
Called three times?
Dad didn't do anything.
In an instant, the public screen exploded.
"What kind of dad is this?"
"If it were my daughter, I would have to fight with the teacher."
"The worst case scenario is transferring to another school, and the teacher must apologize in front of the whole class."
. . . . . .
Lin Feng took a puff of cigarette, shook his head at the public screen and said: "You guys, it's not too big of a deal to just watch the excitement, so just make a fuss.
Sister,
Ignore them and listen to me.
Things that happened when I was a kid have been going on for so many years,
You can't look at your father's previous behavior with today's perceptions and perspectives,
This is unfair.
I tell the truth,
Nowadays, if a child is slapped by a teacher in school, the parents basically have to defend it.
But if this happened more than ten years ago, parents at that time would take the initiative to tell teachers that if their children disobey in school, you would beat them.
Parents at that time were like this.
This is a perception created in the context of an era.
It's like what we call repressive education and encouraging education.
Then tell the truth,
There was no encouraging education in the past, it was all repressive education.
Don't say the teacher beats you, your parents will beat you when you get home.
It's all suppression, no encouragement.
Not only you get beaten, everyone gets beaten.
This is how it all came about.
Encouragement education has only been available in recent years.
So do you think encouraging education is good?
It must be good.
Because he follows human nature, everyone is an independent individual.
But can you say that all parents in the past were wrong and bad?
It's definitely wrong to hit someone.
What’s wrong is wrong,
But you can't call your parents bad.
Because they don't mean to hit you.
That is a perception in the context of an era.
Stick education.
It is determined by the general environment.
At that time, it was not easy to get enough to eat. There was no time to think about human nature and children’s education. It was enough not to starve to death.
Beat children when they disobey, everyone does this.
Your parents are just ordinary people among all living beings. How high-minded can you expect them to be? ”
. . . . . .
On the barrage.
Damn it!
suddenly see the light.
"The cognition created in the context of the times is really well said by my elder brother."
"I woke up with one sentence. It seems that parents at that time were indeed like this."
"I remember when I made a mistake in school, the first thing my parents said when they saw the teacher was to ask the teacher to beat me hard (laughing and crying)."
"I was even worse. I was beaten by my teacher at school, and my parents beat me again when I got home (grin)."
"That's really miserable (dog head)."
Hahahahaha.
. . . . . .
Lin Feng: "Of course,
Just because I say that doesn't mean he's right.
Suppressive education is wrong.
It is also wrong to support teachers in spanking children.
I can understand your psychological hurt.
I just don’t think you should use the thoughts of today’s people to substitute a certain behavior of your father more than ten years ago.
Regardless of the historical background, this is unfair in itself.
Let me make this clear to you first, and then I will continue to tell you.
Otherwise, I'm afraid you will be misled by the comments on the barrage.
Now this is clear,
I went on.
It’s just people,
They all have a common problem.
Even if others are so kind to you, you must not hold on to their faults.
Do you understand?
You just said that your father still loves you very much and your family is quite happy, but every time you think about being slapped by the teacher in elementary school and your father not helping you, you feel sad.
Essentially,
You made the same mistake as the sister who just went to the mic.
The relationship between parents and children is actually the same as marriage.
No one is perfect.
People always have their own flaws.
You can't ask a father to be perfect.
Or a marriage where he is perfect.
There is always this lack.
But this lack does not prevent him from being a good person overall.
You should see more of the good things about your father.
In fact, you are already very happy.
Father still loves you and treats you well.
Do you think in reality, how many fathers slander their children, do not support their children, suppress their children, and even drain their children?
That's the kind of bad father.
And sister,
Is there a possibility?
I mean it's possible,
Think about it carefully. When you were slapped by the teacher, your father did not support you.
Is there a possibility that he is also helpless?
Let me give an example,
Is it possible that he was helpless and compromised because of his own inadequacies?
Because at that time in the past, many families were very poor.
Some parents don’t dare to offend teachers,
It’s not about how scared they are,
But if you offend the teacher, then the teacher will wear small shoes for you in school, and you will be the one who feels uncomfortable.
Therefore, parents may compromise on this aspect.
But he won't tell you.
Because at that time, it was impossible for fathers to tell their children this.
Think about it for yourself, is this possible?
Because you said that your father actually loves you very much and treats you very well. I don't believe that such a father would not feel distressed after knowing that his daughter was slapped in the face.
He must be feeling distressed too.
But he can't help it.
If you offend the teacher, you will be the one who ends up feeling uncomfortable at school.
You say it’s like transferring schools now,
It’s not realistic either,
Because it costs a lot of money to transfer to another school, ordinary families at that time really didn’t have the financial conditions.
And there really may not be another school near your home.
So your dad can only compromise.
All I can say to you is, be good in school.
He has no choice,
He was also helpless.
Many times, why do we say that after we become parents, we can reconcile with our parents?
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It doesn’t necessarily mean that what the parents did in the past was right, but now they suddenly realize their mistakes.
No.
In most cases, what is it? After you become a parent, when your child encounters the same problem,
You will find,
You also flinched,
Got timid.
It turns out that you are not as brave as you thought your parents should be to protect yourself when you were a child.
After you became a parent, when faced with the same problem, you chose the same approach as your parents.
Why?
Because there is a gap between reality and ideals.
It may be due to the lack of family finances, or it may be that the general environment does not allow it. In short, you are timid and you have weighed it.
In the end, I find that you are helpless and you can only compromise.
Do you understand what I mean?
It doesn’t mean that you made the same choice as your parents, it’s because this choice is the right one.
No.
It's helplessness, it's compromise.
It’s when you face this problem alone that you realize how difficult it is to make a choice.
You will also reconcile with your parents.
Right here. ”
. . . . . . .
On the barrage.
Damn it!
"Brother is so awesome."
"This is an angle I've never heard of."
"It's helplessness, it's compromise..."
"Thanks to big brother, I suddenly understand my father a little bit (holding fists)."
"It turns out that I only wanted my father to support me, but I never thought about putting myself in someone else's shoes (crying to death)."
"I have changed places, but I only changed the identities of father and child. I thought about what I would do if I were the father, but I never considered my family's actual financial capabilities and conditions, as well as the price to pay for doing so."
"I seem to be able to reconcile with the past..."
. . . . . . .
Lin Feng: "Otherwise, who don't want to hold their heads high and be a good person?
If you had one million at home at that time.
Forget about one million,
Three hundred thousand, maybe.
If you had 300,000 yuan at home at that time, your father would never let you be so angry.
Slap my daughter in the mouth?
Damn,
You have to go to the school and ask your teacher to apologize in person. At worst, you may transfer to another school. We don’t have the financial resources to bear this anger?
This is the same as when people are fucked by their bosses at work nowadays.
Some people may say that if you are not happy at work, just stop doing it.
Yes, you won't do it if you're a bachelor.
Then I can't take care of my fucking family.
Those bad colleagues still said that I was timid and a coward behind my back,
What can be done?
It costs money to have a mortgage at home.
It would cost money to make up for children’s normal summer vacation,
I still have to pay tuition fees when school starts in September.
My wife also needs to buy new clothes and cosmetics.
At this time, your boss is giving you a few words, you are a bachelor, you are awesome, you dare to leave your job.
I also want to fucking leave my job, but I don’t dare.
There are so many things that cost money, and my whole family is waiting for me to support them, so I can only compromise.
If the boss wants to scold you, go ahead, as long as you don't fire me.
But in the eyes of others, they think you have no spine, and you don’t even dare to resist.
Then you must have the capital to resist.
Unless you are in the same situation as me, you will understand.
So you have to lower your head and look at all sentient beings.
Don't take it for granted, thinking about what would happen if it were you.
There was a comment just now that said it well,
You can’t just assume your identity, you also have to assume the other person’s family and economic background.
If you tell the truth, who doesn’t want to hold his head high and be a good person?
Is there anyone who is despicable at heart?
It’s not just the living environment that keeps you down.
Don't even act pretentious.
Everyone has a time to bow to power.
You have,
I have one too,
All.
Why do I dare to scold the mistress in the live broadcast room and scold those who have incorrect views?
You all applauded and said the scolding was well done.
The anchor's views are too correct.
What's going on?
It’s not because my pockets are bulging and I’m not short of money.
If I didn't have some assets in reality, if I tell the truth, would I dare to scold the mistress?
Those are my parents who provide me with food and clothing, and they are all my father.
Who am I scolding? I’m scolding,
If the mistress can buy me a sports car, I will let him scold me.
I have to earn this money while kneeling.
Otherwise, I won’t be able to pay next month’s rent.
Can you understand?
In the face of reality,
What are the three views and the five senses?
Everyone has to bow their fucking heads. ”
. . . . . . .
On the barrage.
"Is there anyone who is despicable at heart? It's not because of the living environment that forces you to bow your head (grin)."
"The mistress gives me a sports car, and the mistress can scold me (cry me to death)."
"Brother is so real (thumbs up)."
"That day when I took a taxi, I casually asked the master, what is life? The master said slowly: I didn't like driving before."
"I heard a sentence that day. We will eventually compromise, bow to reality, and understand that arrogance is worthless."
Damn it!
Heartbroken.
. . . . . . .
Lin Feng: "Look, some people say that reality is too heartbreaking.
Then let me tell you a heart-wrenching fact.
Why, after so many years, do you still feel resentful about your father's attitude back then?
You said you were feeling psychologically uncomfortable.
Then ask yourself, what really hurts you is your father not supporting you, or the teacher slapping you in front of the whole class?
It must be the teacher who slapped you in the face and embarrassed you, which makes you feel uncomfortable.
Then it may be your father's inaction.
But what is the essence?
What makes you most uncomfortable and unforgettable are those mouthy people.
The essence is the teacher who really hurts you.
But instead of hating the teacher, you hate the father instead.
Ridiculous or not?
You said that your father had no courage and did not support you back then.
Since you are so courageous and have grown up now, why don’t you just go to your teacher’s house?
Tell the teacher that you slapped me three times in front of the whole class. Do you know how much this hurt me?
You were young, so you couldn't understand it.
But you have grown up now.
Why don't you just confront the person who hurt you?
Essentially, you don’t have the courage either.
You don't fight for your own interests, and you are timid.
Why do you have to ask your father to be perfect? ”
. . . . . .
On the barrage.
Damn it
Hit the nail on the head.
"Brother looks at the essence through the phenomenon. The teacher who beat her is the original sin, not her father."
"Brother is too sober (thumbs up)." (End of Chapter)