Chapter 8 Avoidant Attachment Personality
Colorless sky: "Girls are very pitiful. I hope this big brother won't hurt others."
The lazy king is thirsty: "This man has deep thoughts and too many adulterations. He is not suitable for this girl who lacks love. The girl will be very hurt."
The man probably also saw the barrage and did not continue on this topic.
Then he said, "A week ago, she suddenly told me about her matchmaker friend. She said that since they have introduced us, it's time to give them red envelopes, and you have to give them red envelopes."
"As a result, she hasn't sent me any messages since I gave her the red envelope. I still have her contact information. Yesterday I saw her posting a message on Moments, saying that it's important to maintain a happy attitude."< br>
"Anchor, what do you mean by her?"
Lin Feng: "What do you mean, don't you have any idea?"
The man shook his head.
Lin Feng, "I have analyzed the girl's personality with you before. She is a very passive person. All her actions, including all her words, are a kind of testing and consideration of you."
"She finally asked you to send red envelopes to the matchmaker, which means that the current point has acquiesced to the fact that you are in love."
"And after you gave the red envelope, the girl thought that it was natural for you to get together, but you didn't find her the next day.
If you don't look for her, she will fall into suspicion.
She must be thinking at this time, are you not interested in her?
In the end, the more you don't contact her, she will never take the initiative to find you. ”
ah?
The man looked confused.
"Anchor, what should I do now?"
Lin Feng: "Again, answer me first, are you serious about this girl? If you don't like her enough, don't mess with her."
"Military advisor, I promise that I am absolutely serious."
Lin Feng was silent for a while, seeming to be considering.
After a while, he said: "You must throw the question to the other party at this time. You asked her why she didn't talk to you this week? You have been waiting for her to talk to you. You asked many friends for her. In the end, it is you What did you do wrong? Show it in the end, your efforts this week.”
Siliya: "Oh my god, is this the strength of a military advisor!!"
I don’t want to have any regrets: “He really knows the solution to this question! It’s scary.”
Mr. W: "I have such a strategist, I would have captured it long ago."
The reborn God of Wealth: "The military advisor is really powerful, but to be honest, if the boy does what the military advisor says, the girl will be punished to death. On the other hand, if the boy is just having fun, the girl will be miserable in the future."< br>
Momomomo: "It turns out it's all a routine, love is all about conscience."
Yaomei Zaizai: "A woman who lacks love will have a miserable childhood. If you don't love her, please don't hurt her."
John: "What about boys who lack love?"
The clown is sick: look at my ID.
Mori Jing: "Okay, brothers, I think we should be men and strive for self-improvement."
[Ding~ Answer questions and get positive reviews from employers, get +20 points]
After receiving 20 points, Lin Feng was not as happy as before.
At first, he did go there for the lottery, but after experiencing several consecutive wheat draws, Lin Feng suddenly realized,
He should not just answer questions emotionally, but at the same time he should also shoulder some sense of social responsibility.
Because one of his words may bring the broken man and woman back together, or it may cause a tragedy with his own hands.
Just like the boy just now, would he really match his words with his actions and treat that girl well?
Lin Feng didn't know.
So,
Being cautious in what you say and do is the first live broadcasting principle that Lin Feng set for himself.
At this time someone @himself,
Lin Feng took a look and saw that the information came from 'The River Flows'. "@strategist, is that girl just now a typical avoidant attachment personality?"
After this barrage came out, more and more people began to ask what is avoidant attachment personality?
Lin Feng: "With avoidant attachment personalities, their native families are generally not very good. The bad thing is that they discover from an early age that the love given to them by their parents is not selfless, but conditional.
This will lead to the idea in childhood that there is no unconditional love in this world, and no one takes anyone for granted.
As a result, they distrust people very much and believe that they can only rely on themselves for everything.
But the paradox is that in their hearts they long to be loved and to be deeply bound to another person.
Because human nature is like this, the more you lack something, the more you want it.
But due to certain trauma in childhood, they will have an attitude of jumping back and forth.
It’s that sometimes I want to rely on you, and sometimes I don’t.
Sometimes he will be very intimate with you, and sometimes he will withdraw himself and appear very cold.
This is because they long to be deeply bound, but in the process of being deeply bound, they will have huge fears, that is, how can I trust people?
How can I rely on the other person for everything I have?
So they will withdraw themselves immediately.
Jump repeatedly between reason and sensibility.
So many times, they give others a neurotic feeling.
Because they often feel fearful, defensive, and timid, even if the other person is already a very good person.
However, they are very stable in life and can reach a very self-consistent state.
Because they are actually very resistant to the ups and downs of emotions, their expectations of others are always very low. In this way, no matter how bad your performance is, it will be difficult to break their low expectations.
So they are not afraid and often show a very stable emotion in life.
But in fact, this kind of personality is just a positive pessimist in life. ”
After Lin Feng finished speaking, the barrage collapsed.
Sister Po Fang: ""Don't believe in unconditional love", "Repeated leaps of rationality and sensibility", "Desire for dependence but fear of dependence", "Rapid ups and downs of resistance", "Ultra-low expectations, positive pessimist"."
An Tian: "Read my ID card?"
Nina: “I was diagnosed online.”
Duyuzimu: "Haha, it's all right! I'm such a poor person, and I'm also sick myself!"
An Zhi: "Twelve volumes of military books, each with my name on it."
Mushroom Fried Rice: "The King of Hell clicks on Mao and laughs to death."
Yi Ning: "Don't panic, everyone. With such a big string, anyone can win half of it."
The river flows: "If one of them misses, what do you say?"
Stranger: "We are the same, I also missed one."
Lin Feng scanned the barrage and said, "In the relationship between the sexes, it is really difficult for avoidant attachment personalities to maintain a stable and long-term state, because they have a very thick shell. Unless you can give the other person the love of a novel, Otherwise it will be difficult to peel off the shell. ”
“If you don’t understand, just ask, what is novel-like love?”
Raymond Lam: "Have you ever watched idol dramas? They just need a male protagonist to protect them and give them extreme and passionate preference."
PS:
[Teacher Luo Xiang said: If parents do not give their children enough love and security when they are very young, the children will become independent due to disappointment, thus forming avoidant attachment and becoming a rational and indifferent person.
Although many people do not remember their childhood memories, the way your parents treat you has subconsciously affected your personal growth. The advantage of such a person is that he lives an independent life, but the disadvantage is that he avoids close relationships and does not have deep friendships with others.
Maybe you get along well with your colleagues, but it's hard for you to be a good lover. 】
[Message from the military advisor: Everything in the world is suffering, and your blatant preference is salvation. 】
(End of chapter)