Chapter 40 If I don’t have feelings, I will be very happy
"Forgive me for pestering you like a madman, forgive me for looking for you shamelessly, forgive me for causing trouble to you by my appearance,
If they didn't like you, who would try their best to squeeze into your world. ”
"It's 2:14 in the middle of the night. Welcome everyone to the Love Military Advisor live broadcast room."
"The next one is the last Lianmai tonight."
"We have a guest coming!"
Ding~
"Hello, anchor!"
It's a lady.
Listen to the voice and have some experience.
Lin Feng: "Hello, tell me about your emotional experience."
"I am 38 years old and settled abroad. He is one year younger than me. We were together before, but now he has returned to China and I am still abroad."
Raymond Lam: "Ambiguous relationship after breakup?"
"Absolutely, because I am unmarried and have no children, and I have never lived together. When I first met him, he also told me that I am unmarried, have no children, and have never lived together.
His appearance is what I like very much, he is 1.85 meters tall, very decent-looking, and he doesn't smoke, which is really a plus because I am very sensitive to the smell of smoke. ”
Lin Feng: "Then why did we break up later?"
"After getting along for a while, he returned to China. Since they were not in the same place, everyone broke up by default."
Lin Feng: "Have you still contacted him after he returned to China?"
"Yes!"
Raymond Lam: "Has the other party expressed to you the idea of getting back together during this period?"
"No, he said he doesn't want to get married. In fact, I don't want to get married either. I've always been single."
Lin Feng nodded: "I understand, both of them are celibate."
"Yes!"
Lin Feng: "Then your previous relationship was actually a companionship for each other. To be more precise, it should be a temporary companionship."
The woman hesitated for a while and said: "Actually, I have never met anyone I like before him."
Lin Feng: "Even so, you still expressed to the other party that you are a non-marriageist, right?"
"Yes!"
Lin Feng: "Sister, I tell you very seriously, if marriage is not used as a basic guarantee, such a relationship will fall off at any time.
Just like taking a bus,
When this stop is reached, the people on the bus will get off at any time.
Don't expect love to last forever.
It has no binding force.
This man can have sex with you, he can have sex with others, he can even have sex with you while secretly having sex with others,
No problem at all.
Because love is not bound by the law.
At the same time, there is not much moral condemnation. ”
The woman was silent.
………
Mr. Bin: "Straight men: prostitution for free. High emotional intelligence: non-marriage."
XXXX: "I think the man may have a family."
Xiaohe flowed: "When you go out, you give your identity to yourself. Don't look at what he says. It mainly depends on whether you believe it or not. Since you like to hear affectionate words, then I will say one paragraph. If one paragraph doesn't work, just two paragraphs. After all, it doesn't cost anything. .”
Stranger: "Hahaha, nothing wrong."
Spicy Girl: "Actually, a woman's non-marriage mentality is nothing."
Xiaowan: "I feel that women are not unmarried, but afraid of marriage."
Yaoyao: "When will I be able to get a pension? I'm already 38. I'm afraid I won't be able to receive a pension anymore."
Hahahahahaha.
………
The woman was silent for a while.
Lin Feng sighed softly and said: "Sister, you don't have to get married, but if you express your idea of not getting married to the other party, then the other party will treat you as a temporary item,
To put it bluntly, it is cost-free ownership.
If a new person appears, the new person may push you out of the car at any time. ”
Woman: "I think that's it. After he returned to China last year, his response to me was not very positive."
Lin Feng: "Sister, I guess you may have had such pessimistic thoughts about marriage because you have been hurt in your past relationships,
Or maybe it’s caused by unhappy parents in your family of origin,
No matter what the reason is,
I can only tell you that your pessimistic attitude towards marriage will lead to the failure of every relationship you encounter in the future to be a good one. ”
The woman suddenly choked up. It was as if Lin Feng had revealed his thoughts.
After a moment, he said: "When I was a child, my parents often quarreled and even got into fights. At that time, I felt that marriage was meaningless."
Lin Feng shook his head and said: "Marriage can be meaningless, but the premise is that you must have a strong core."
"If you are lacking in your heart, if you are afraid of being alone, what should you do when you have the desire to talk?
How do you solve your inner needs?
Unless you treat this person as a companion.
Everyone gets what they need. ”
Woman: "Actually, I asked him at the beginning, did you have a good conversation? I said, if you have a girl you have a good conversation with, then tell me and I won't contact you. But he kept saying no. But when I sent him a message some time ago, he obviously ignored me.”
Lin Feng smiled bitterly, sister, you are already 38.
Do you still need me to teach you some truths?
"You feel that you do not restrain anyone, and others will not regard your tolerance as understanding, nor will they be grateful to you for it.
It will only make the other party think you are cheap,
When you get tired of playing with it, you can throw it away at any time.
The other party will stand on a moral level and will not tell you even if someone is involved.
Because he wants to maintain his perfect image. ”
The woman finally couldn't hold it any longer and cried bitterly.
………
On the barrage.
Yi Chushan: "She even cried, which means that I can only be irresponsible, but you can't be irresponsible."
Idiot: "Yes, there is nothing to be sad about between two non-marriageists."
Miss Cat: "We've already broken up, so why keep in touch? Although she is a non-marriage person, she doesn't have a strong core. She cries like a little girl."
Xiao Wan: "Maybe I'm attracted to you and don't know it. When the other person leaves, I can't stand it anymore."
Um. . . .
………
Woman: "If I don't have feelings, I think I am a very happy person. Before I met him, I was very happy every day."
Lin Feng: "Then there is no need to continue. If the happiness of two people together is less than the happiness of one person, why not get married?"
"I really don't understand what the meaning of marriage is!"
Um. . .
Lin Feng thought for a moment and said: "Let me tell you a story."
"One day I came home and I was hungry. I wanted to cook a bowl of noodles.
The noodles are cooked,
I'm looking for a plate,
Found that the dishes were not washed,
When I was about to wash the dishes, I found that there was no detergent.
Then I used toothpaste to wash the dishes.
What I want to say is,
The meaning of marriage is not that someone can cook noodles for you, nor does it mean that someone can wash the dishes for you,
But after you wash the dishes with toothpaste, you can run over and ask him, guess what I used to wash the dishes?
Sister,
Marriage is about companionship and sharing,
Among all the lights in the house, there is a light that shines for you. ”
………
"The meaning of marriage" "is not that someone cooks noodles for you" "it is that there is a light shining for you among all the lights in the house". . .
Xiaolu: "Oh my god, the last sentence is so crazy."
Qingqiu: "Sublimation directly."
Yuzu: "How does this kid know so much?"
Hongye: "I was just watching it for fun, but it turns out this guy is really smart."
The river flows: "The real situation is that you want to cook noodles and find a pile of unwashed dishes and chopsticks in the sink. You look for dishwashing liquid, but the dishwashing liquid is gone. You have to use toothpaste to scrub a lot of dishes and chopsticks. After that, you won’t even want to cook the noodles.”
Da Spicy Pie: "Wrong, the most realistic situation is that I am hungry. I will open Meituan and Ele.me, and then ask the pig next to me if you want to eat?"
Hahahaha, so true.
Stranger: "But even if I use toothpaste to wash the dishes, I don't want to share it with her. I will just think about how awesome I am."
Xiaowan: "Brother, you are really awesome."
Yaoyao: "Hahaha, you are terrifyingly strong."
Attached,
[Military Advisor’s Comments: The most suffocating thing about a native family is not that your parents blindly suppress you, but that while they suffocate you, they also make you feel that they really love you in their hearts,
At this time, you will have a strong sense of guilt in your heart.
This feeling is like a soaked cotton jacket. It feels cold when you take it off, and even colder when you put it on...】
(End of chapter)