Chapter 118 Who says male youth is not youth?
On the barrage.
"Hey, it seems to be true."
"What did the boy lie to her about?"
"She works hard and makes progress, and takes the initiative to give her love. Do you really feel sorry for her?"
"You don't care if I save money or not, you are just a girlfriend, not a wife."
“Brought in in advance.”
"It seems wrong, but it also seems right."
"Well...it's hard to comment."
"Let's see what the military advisor says."
. . . . .
Girl: "Military advisor, why do you say he has not sorry for me? He clearly made a promise to me a year ago."
Raymond Lam: "What promise?"
"He will definitely change this."
Lin Feng tapped on the small blackboard.
"Sister, what we are discussing is about feelings."
"He gave you emotional value, gave you gold coins, cooked for you, and satisfied your parents. In the relationship, he did everything he could.
He didn't feel sorry for you.
Let me ask you in turn,
What did you pay for him?
In addition to the sense of superiority, strong desire for control, and practical benefits such as letting people transfer houses and buy cars,
What have you done for him in this relationship? ”
Girl: "I put in the time. I was with him for two years."
Lin Feng was amused: "Sister, who is a good person who doesn't have to devote time to falling in love? Besides, isn't this thing mutual?
Your two years is two years, but someone else’s two years is not two years?
To be honest, if he didn't talk to you, he wouldn't have to give you gold coins. If he didn't give you gold coins, with his income, he might not need online loans.
Is this true?
Of course, these are all assumptions.
If you like to talk about reality, I will talk about reality with you.
What is reality?
The reality is that as two subjects in a relationship, you are equal. Your time is time, and his time is also time. ”
. . . . .
On the barrage.
"Who said men's time is not time"
"Who says male youth is not youth"
"If we really care, boys earn 400,000 per year and girls earn 120,000 per year. Obviously boys' time is more valuable."
Nothing wrong.
"The military advisor is righteous!"
"Finally a fair word for us boys."
"The female boxer will attack later."
"Hmph, who said there is no great emperor in the human race? I, An Lan, blocked this punch for the great emperor in the human race."
An Lan: "Who called me? (Dog Head)."
"An Lan, kneel down in Sinzhou (laughing and crying)."
An Lan: "Yu Tuo save me."
Hahahahaha.
. . . . .
The girl was silent for a while and said: "Well, I have never thought about it from this perspective."
The girl's attitude suddenly became sincere.
Lin Feng couldn't help but be a little surprised.
"Let's talk about transferring the house and buying a car. Sister, if he loves you, he will naturally do this,
But if you make such a request at this point, it is an act of marrying off with mismatched values and a mentality of wronging yourself. This relationship is fundamentally unequal. ”
Girl: “Because when we first started talking about getting married, our family said we didn’t need anything. But when we found out he had this problem, we mentioned it to him just to restrain him.”
Lin Feng shook his head: "You are not restraining him. You are selfish. You are trying to protect yourself from your own perspective.
Because you didn't think about how to help him change.
Sister,
I'm basically sure now. You can't love people.
Or you don’t know how to love,
It seems that you are looking for someone who is a good match for you. ”
The girl was silent and didn't speak.
Lin Feng: "After you first discovered that he was engaging in online dailies, all your actions were not to help him correct his behavior, but to think about how to protect your own interests to the maximum extent. This is a typical form of egoism. ideas.
Sister,
A good love must be full of ups and downs.
You can't just enjoy the sweetness of love, just enjoy other people's kindness to you,
Now that people are encountering difficulties and problems, shouldn't we help them get through the difficulties together? ”
Girl: "But I gave him a chance."
Lin Feng: "Sister, consumption habits are not a death sentence in themselves.
Next, think clearly for yourself. If you don't love them anymore, leave them decently, and don't bother or slander them.
You said the whole company knew about this thing,
Interesting?
Of course, I also believe that this is not your intention.
However, if you feel that this person is really nice to you and you like him, then you should find a way to correct this problem. ”
The girl was silent for a while and said: "How can I help him change it? Can you give me some methods?"
Listen to this
Lin Feng knew that the girl still had feelings for him.
So he asked: "Do you know why he plays games?"
"He wants to brush up data, build cities, and... what kind of strategy."
Lin Feng was amused.
This girl has most likely never been in love a few times.
So he said patiently: "The core problem of playing games is that he lives an autistic life."
You say he is introverted and doesn't talk to others, but you are still in a different place and he is bored.
He has so much money, he just plays games when he is bored, and you just have fun without thinking of washing his feet.
What he lacks now is a way of life to replace his boring life. For this, you need to take him to find some other fun. ”
Girl: "Strategic Advisor, I think what you said is very right, but many people on the barrage said that they can't change it, so let me break up."
Lin Feng smiled and shook his head.
These guys.
"Sister, what do you mean by playing games? It's a boy's heroic dream,
It's unrealistic to ask him to cut it off all at once.
And we are not asking him to quit gaming.
What really needs to be given up are consumption habits and online behaviors.
For example,
Boys recharge to play games, just like girls pay in installments to buy packages.
You may only have 20,000 yuan in your wallet, but you like an LV worth more than 100,000 yuan,
You don’t like it,
But the money is not enough,
You can only pay or pay in installments.
The difference between the two is that you are buying packages and he is playing games.
What they all have in common is bad consumption habits.
So I suggest that you take him out for a walk, whether it’s exercise or traveling
Live a more positive and sunny lifestyle.
When he really wants to play games, play some small games with him that don’t require recharging.
Slowly change his spending habits.
Why do I keep advocating that you give him another chance? Because this guy's personal ability is too strong.
He comes from a rural background, is 28 years old, buys a house in the city center, and has an annual salary of 40 RMB. This kind of person must have many shining points.
If you can help him get rid of this bad habit.
You will definitely live a happy life in the future. ”
"Thank you, military advisor. No matter whether we can be together in the future or not, I will come back and give you gifts."
The girl suddenly became much brighter.
(End of chapter)