Chapter 125 Do you know the subtext of separation and reunion
"So brothers,
Maturity sometimes may not be divided by age,
Some people are still eating and waiting to die at the age of 25,
Some people are still idle at the age of 30.
Some people start helping their parents share the pressure when they are 17 or 18 years old.
So can you say that maturity can be divided according to age? ”
Not necessarily!
Okay,
Even the next wheat.
Ding~
"Hello, Military Advisor."
It's a girl.
Lin Feng: "Hello, have you encountered any problems, sister?"
"Military advisor, I want to analyze my ex-boyfriend's mentality."
Lin Feng: "Ex-boyfriend, then you are breaking up now?"
"Yeah, right."
Lin Feng: "Do you still have contact with him now? Are you inseparable?"
"No, there is no contact anymore."
Lin Feng smiled: "Then why are you analyzing him now? You have nothing to do."
“I just can’t let it go.”
Lin Feng nodded: "Okay, how long has it been since we broke up?"
"Almost half a year."
? ? ?
Lin Feng: "It's been half a year since we broke up, and we haven't had any contact with each other?"
"I contacted him, but he never took my call."
Lin Feng put down the blackboard: "I'm not a sister. You made me laugh. Why are you studying this? Let's just break up the relationship. The other party doesn't love you anymore."
"I know our relationship fell apart, but I don't know what his mentality is, because we first fell in love with the purpose of getting married,
Then he liked to go out and play more, so I controlled him very strictly, which made him unhappy and started to resist me.
In fact, in the beginning, it was pretty good when the two of us were together,
When we were together for two months, he took me home to meet my parents.
But then he started hanging out and not answering the phone. . . ”
stop!
Lin Feng waved his hand and interrupted: "Sister, I don't think we need to continue talking,
I am an emotional strategist. I can help you analyze emotional issues, including some of the contradictions in them, and help you weigh the pros and cons.
But you have already separated.
There is no emotion at all.
What are you asking me to analyze?
Of course,
Since you spent a hundred yuan to connect wheat,
You consume.
I definitely can't let you have nothing to gain.
Then this is what happens next,
Let me briefly analyze what you just said for you.
Aren’t you unable to let go?
The military advisor will let you see the truth today. ”
At this time, someone on the barrage said:
"Commander, why are you so impatient? Let the girl finish her words first."
Lin Feng smiled: "You don't need a buddy, because as soon as she mentioned this thing, I basically understood it,
This is experience.
After listening to this, you will understand why I am a military advisor and you are not a military advisor.
Okay sister. ”
Girl: "Well, tell me, military advisor."
Lin Feng: "Sister, this person has just started to be with you and has good expectations for you, so he took you home to meet your parents after two months of dating,
It means that at this stage, he hopes to have a future with you.
However,
Later in the process of getting along, he found that you had a strong desire to control the other person and did not have freedom.
The other person's love experience instantly deteriorates.
Then some of your views changed.
He began to weigh the pros and cons.
He found that you didn’t match what he imagined his girlfriend should be like.
Eventually he broke up with you.
It is also an act of wanting to get off the bus.
To put it bluntly, I just don’t love it anymore.
He understands your relationship as a trial and error.
Of course, this does not mean that you are wrong. It only means that in his personal subjective perception, he will feel that you are wrong and that you are the wrong person.
Do you understand? ”
Girl: "Military advisor, he was very kind to me at the beginning, and the two of us had an on-again, off-again relationship before we broke up, so we couldn't bear to part with him."
Lin Feng shook his head and said: "Sister, the essence of separation and reunion is not how much love you have. There is a subtext in it."
Saying,
Lin Feng picked up the small blackboard and wrote;
"The subtext of breaking up and getting back together is dissatisfaction." He said that after the two broke up, they didn't meet a better person, so they went around in circles.
In fact, he is not so satisfied with you.
That is what I just said, the result of a poor love experience.
Girl: "He used to say that if he broke up with me, he was afraid that he wouldn't meet anyone better than me."
Lin Feng smiled: "Sister, the other party has already made it very clear, but you didn't understand.
This sentence seems to be very romantic,
There is nothing inherently romantic about it.
Because this is a make-do! ”
? ? ?
The girl looked confused.
Lin Feng: "Think about it, sister, what does it mean to be afraid of not meeting a better person after losing you? To put it bluntly, it means that he has better expectations and yearnings, but at the same time, he thinks you are not bad."
Girl: "Is it really just make do?"
Lin Feng spread his hands: "What else? Didn't they tell you the answer with practical actions later?"
Half a year after the breakup, you contacted her for half a year, but she didn't answer the phone once.
If I really love you that much,
Can I be so decisive to you?
The girl was silent.
Lin Feng knocked on the small blackboard and said to the live broadcast room: "The above remarks are not gender-specific. Please take a seat."
. . . . .
On the barrage.
The subtext of "Breaking Together" is that you are dissatisfied, but you haven't met anyone better.
"I'm afraid I won't find anything better after breaking up with you" is essentially making do.
Oh my God!
Three views shattered! !
Is this true?
Tangtang: "People who have been here tell you, it's true. Breaking up and getting back together is not about deep feelings, it's about constantly weighing the pros and cons."
Gouzi: "My ex-girlfriend and I broke up and got back together four times (Goutou) and the result was still unresolved. But when we broke up for the last time, I really didn't feel uncomfortable at all. Instead, I felt extremely relaxed."
Ayun: "Fart, we often argue and have cold wars, but we still love each other very much."
Happy Brother: "That's right, the words of the dog-headed military counselor have harmed many young people. No one has a smooth love. On the contrary, the more noisy the relationship, the deeper the relationship. Everyone has a running-in period."
"If you don't make noise, it won't break up."
"We didn't leave even if we quarreled."
Xiao Wan: "Maybe you really have a relationship, but if this relationship does not change, one day you will be exhausted and break up."
The river flows: "Meow, when did separation and reunion become true love? What does it mean to be with you all the time?"
Ordered.
. . . . .
Lin Feng: "I see that everyone is having disputes about separation and reunion. Some people say that you often separate and get together, and there are better people around you, but none of you betrayed,
Dude,
That's because you have ignored that there is also a moral constraint.
For example, you are just not satisfied with her,
But your family education and your three views since childhood have given you a very strong sense of morality.
Then you can probably resist the temptation at this time.
But it doesn't mean that you are 100% satisfied with her.
Your satisfaction with a person does not mean quarreling or not quarreling, nor does it mean loving or not loving.
Do you understand what I mean, buddy?
And if you have a strong sense of morality and can restrain yourself, can you ensure that the other person is the same as you? ”
For a moment,
The public screen also fell into silence.
After a while, the girl said: "Military advisor, our relationship was really good when we first started."
Lin Feng: "Sister, what you said is really childish. Who is a good person who is not sweet during the sweet period of love?
All sweet.
Everyone is the same.
This is how it all came about.
Whether a relationship can last, whether it is sincere or not, can only be reflected after the sweet period has passed.
Because everyone pretends to be in love.
They only show their good side to each other.
But as time went by, each other's shortcomings were exposed.
At this time, some people can accept it, and some people can't accept it.
Those who accept it will be together, and those who cannot accept it will be separated.
If you couldn't understand why it was so sweet back then, why did you still break up?
Then let me give you the simplest example.
You and I were very good together at first, but then I gave you a big mouth every day,
Will you ignore these pains in your mouth because I have been so good to you?
Maybe you can.
But that only represents you.
You can't make everyone think the same as you.
Isn't it? ”
The girl was silent again.
(End of chapter)