Chapter 149 Why are you so decisive this time
On the barrage.
"Is this... really a disease... I thought I wasn't sick (picking my nose)"
"The moment I got emotional, I looked like a madman."
"Don't worry, there are few normal people in this world."
"For example, mental illness is like a cold. There are so many people in the world, and there are always people who catch colds one after another, so there is no completely normal person."
"I switch back and forth between mental illness and neurosis (dog head)"
“It’s not good to be a human being for the first time (laughing and crying)”
"That's right!"
Hahahahaha.
. . . . .
Ding~
"Hello, Military Advisor."
Lian Mai came on line and it was a boy.
Lin Feng: "Hello, do you have any emotional problems?"
"Military advisor, I am 29 years old and she is 30. We are currently breaking up."
Lin Feng: "How long have you been in love?"
"Seven years."
Lin Feng: "After seven years of long-distance love, you have reached your age. You should be talking about marriage. It is time to get the certificate. What went wrong?"
The man was silent for a while and said: "It's hard to say, I'm quite confused now."
Lin Feng: "Then let me ask, which of you initiated the breakup?"
"No one mentioned breaking up, so it's considered acquiescence."
Lin Feng: "Is it caused by practical problems?"
"Maybe she is completely disappointed in me."
Lin Feng nodded: "Disappointment accumulation type breakup."
"So is it because of the little things and trivial matters in daily life that you have more quarrels?"
"The core is that my desire for expression is relatively low."
Lin Feng: "That means the response is not positive enough. There is no topic to talk about when we are with the other party, and the two people have no communication."
"That's pretty much it."
Lin Feng: "Brother, it means that the other party feels a kind of emotional indifference, and he really can't stand it. He has said it many times, but you have not made any changes. He feels that his emotions are being ignored."
"Yes, that's what it means."
Lin Feng: "Brother, to put it bluntly, you are relying on the other person's love for you and confidently ignoring the changes in each other's emotions when two people get along.
I feel that I have been dating you for seven years, and we have been dating for a long time. We are now an old married couple, and some things are unnecessary, isn’t that true? ”
The man suddenly fell silent.
. . . .
On the barrage.
Zui Qingfeng: "We had endless chats at first. We made voice calls for a few hours, and after half a year, we started to run out of words."
Yoko: "He and I are also at the same stage. I often wonder if he is too tired from work? Or he has no interest in me anymore."
Luo Luo: “I used to chat non-stop throughout the day, but now I feel awkward chatting. My replies are either um or oh, I really don’t know what to say.”
"How can I have nothing to say? The sunset is different every day."
"Don't be too exaggerated."
Hahahahaha.
. . . .
Raymond Lam: "How long has it been since we broke up?"
"Almost three months."
Lin Feng: "Did the two parties have any contact in the past three months?"
"Basically no contact."
Lin Feng: "Have you ever tried to redeem yourself?"
"Yes."
Lin Feng: "Did the other party respond? Or what was their attitude?"
"Basically no response."
Lin Feng sighed softly, put down the blackboard and said: "Brother, the other party has completely burned his heart out."
"Dude,
I tell you,
In fact, the reason why you broke up was because your attitude and some actions could not meet the requirements of the other party.
In fact, the most essential and core thing is that you lack some impulse in this seven-year relationship,
What impulse?
It is the impulse of love.
I have never recommended that you treat love as a long-distance run, because if you use a long-distance running method to fall in love, you will find that you will not have enough stamina and explosive power later on. Logically speaking, we have not been separated for seven years, so we should use another identity to completely bind the two people together,
Time dragged on for too long, and my heart became numb.
You haven't thought about proposing to someone for so many years, which shows that you have weighed the pros and cons a little more, buddy. ”
The man was silent again.
. . . . .
On the barrage.
"Four years, he is very calm. I also know the answer to his attitude."
"Just finished a six-and-a-half-year long run."
"My friend broke up. He said he wasn't sad, but I cried. It's been 5 years and I'm about to get married. That person will change no matter what he says. Isn't that what love is all about?"
"Ten years, it sounds scary, but in fact it will disappear as soon as the wind blows. The result is not important, only the process of loving someone is important, because the result... is the same."
Damn it!
This sentence sounds so sad.
"It turns out that everyone's love affairs are in ruins (tears)"
. . . . .
Lin Feng: "Come on, buddy, let's get straight to the point. Do you have any questions to ask me?"
"I have two questions. The first is that I don't understand. In fact, we were like this before. Why is she so decisive this time? The second is that I feel guilty and don't know if it can be undone."
Lin Feng knocked on the small blackboard,
"Come on buddy,
Let me answer your first question first.
You can't explain why the other person suddenly became determined this time.
I tell you,
For people who truly love you in a relationship, regardless of whether they are men or women, their breakup must have been "premeditated" for a long time.
But at the same time they will give you a final period of review before breaking up.
Of course,
She won’t tell you this,
She will judge whether it is the right decision to break up with you through the last period of time she spends with you.
In other words, she doesn’t know if it’s right or not.
This means that when she makes this decision, you can change it.
But the premise is that you have to be aware of it.
You can spot something wrong with her,
For example, she may suddenly stop clinging to you and become calm and quiet.
A person who was once a talkative person suddenly became taciturn.
Even if she has made some grievances, she will not want to tell you about it.
Then she is most likely entering a period of investigation.
If you really notice something and you change something, you may be able to save the relationship.
But if you really didn’t notice that you had already entered the inspection period that the other party had included for you, and you were still in a state of not knowing that you were going your own way,
Then I can only say,
You will completely dishearten the other person.
So we often say that when we really leave, our voices are often very small.
It's just that you didn't realize it.
. . . . .
On the barrage.
"I just entered the investigation period, but I basically didn't notice it. Finally, the day came when she broke up and left completely. Looking back, I found that she was indeed very different during that time."
"It was me. When I was about to give up, I struggled for a long time and felt very painful inside! He didn't notice, but he hurt me even more. I left, and my heart finally calmed down."
"It would be nice to get the military advisor as soon as possible (crying to death)"
"Haha, there is no probation period for true love."
"The inspection is over, you have a strong love brain."
Hahahahaha.
. . . . .
Lin Feng: "Going back to your relationship, the other person did not suddenly break up with you because of a specific incident,
She is an accumulation of disappointment,
In the past, when you were in love, you just didn't talk or communicate.
She was disappointed,
But I still give you opportunities again and again in my heart to see if you can make changes,
When you ignore her every time, then it becomes a minus point system.
When reduced to 0 points,
That's when she completely leaves you.
That’s why she is so decisive,
This is your first question. ”
(End of chapter)