Chapter 198 The Great Good Man A Hundred Miles Around
Girl: "But I have concerns as a military advisor."
Lin Feng: "I'm telling you about my sister, don't think about it so much."
Girl: "But how can I not think so much? Because I also enjoyed his love for me before. Since I gave birth to the child, he has changed. He used to be very good to me."
Lin Feng: "Your husband?"
"No, my mother-in-law."
Lin Feng: "My mother-in-law may be because of the factory. She also has a daughter to take care of and is not energetic enough. And sister, remember, don't ask for anything from the elderly, just fulfill your obligations."
Girl: "But at that time I was sick and had a high fever, and I asked her to help me take care of the baby. He actually said that I would treat my mother-in-law as dead. It was so unpleasant, and I don't know why."
Lin Feng: "Sister, it's not that simple. There must be something going on here. There is a high probability that the other party may be dissatisfied with some of your actions,
But here, I prefer to think that it is your husband’s problem. When your husband was passing the message, he might have said something he shouldn’t have said. ”
Girl: "Yes, my husband is a little bit weird when he sends messages sometimes."
Lin Feng: "So, I must let your husband see the video I made today,
Like this, sister, you record the screen, and I will say the next words to your husband.
My husband remembered it,
You must please your mother for your wife,
You must please your wife for your mother,
This is called coaxing from both sides.
If you tell the story from both sides, your mother will only stand from your perspective, not hers,
Because she is an outsider,
This inner estrangement will definitely arise.
So remember, it must be coaxing from both sides, not arching from both sides.
It's a matter of concealment from both sides, not a rumor from both sides.
You must remember that if you want your marriage to be happy, you just do what I say.
At the same time,
Regarding your wife's current mental depression and postpartum anxiety, it is a mental illness.
I tell you very seriously that he has a mental illness. Don’t think what I say is alarmist.
This condition will cause your wife to isolate herself in the future, and her emotional ups and downs will definitely make you suffer,
Remember, it will definitely make you suffer.
There will definitely be more demands on you in the relationship. If you feel uncomfortable then, you deserve it.
Okay, I've finished telling you, sister, let's show him the screen recording. ”
"Okay, thank you, military advisor."
The girl's voice is lonely.
Lin Feng shook his head and said: "Sister, no matter whether your husband can spare time to accompany you in the future, you must hire a nanny, and you must go out.
You must remember here that you should not go to a movie alone, or a place like KTV that is closed and can easily be associated with sadness.
Where is the best place to go when you are alone.
I'm telling you,
Just go and eat hot pot.
Let me tell you,
People who are depressed or suffering from internal friction must go to eat hot pot.
According to traditional Chinese medicine theory, people with a qi-depressed constitution can relieve depression and ease their mood by eating more hot pot.
Because the spices in hot pot have a refreshing effect,
Like Sichuan peppercorns, star anise, and cinnamon, these spices are warm in nature, lift the heart, relieve greasiness, and can make people feel happy.
And you don’t need anyone to accompany you to eat hot pot, it’s best to be alone.
Because I don’t have to chat or take care of others, I can order whatever I want, order whatever I want, and turn off the fire when I want,
I don’t know if I am relieved or not, but the happiness is real. ”
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On the barrage.
“But it’s embarrassing to eat hotpot alone (grin).”
"It's so fun to eat alone. You don't have to worry about what others are eating. You can eat what you like and eat as many plates as you want (sunglasses)."
"I asked her to have hot pot today, but she didn't come, so I had a meal for two for 148 by myself. It was so cool (haha)
"Then what if I feel even more internally exhausted because I can't even afford hot pot? (I cry to death)?"
"The rotating small hot pot costs more than ten yuan per person."
Haha, you can have this.
"No wonder I crave hot pot every day. It turns out I'm depressed (dog head)."
"No, you are just greedy."
Ha ha ha ha.
. . . . .
The wheat is hung up,
Lin Feng went to the live broadcast room and said:
"I see there is a little controversy on the public screen. I just said that the best way for a mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law to get along is not to get along.
Some people think I might be a little extreme.
But I still think that the best way for the older generation to get along with their children is the helping relationship,
Just help when you are too busy, but don’t get into your children’s lives,
As children, don’t think about relying on the elderly for everything.
You have to take care of your children by yourself
Even if you bring a lot of trouble, at least then you will know how difficult it is to be a parent.
Furthermore, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law really cannot live together. No matter how good the daughter-in-law is, no matter how good the mother-in-law is, there will be conflicts.
But you said there is really no good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?
have!
But very few.
It must be the right time, right place and right people.
Some people, please don’t argue with me,
Because this is an eternal problem.
It is determined by human nature and natural attitude.
Because in the eyes of the mother-in-law, the son is always the hardest, most tired and the best.
In the eyes of his daughter-in-law, her husband should be more concerned about and considerate of herself.
This is inherently conflicting and cannot be reconciled.
Think differently.
You live with your father-in-law.
In the eyes of your father-in-law, his daughter is the treasure in his hand and the little princess he has loved since childhood.
Now I have to wash and cook for you every day like a nanny.
Do you think it's possible for you and your father-in-law to get along peacefully?
Of course,
What’s wrong here
It doesn’t mean severing ties.
It is the lowest courtesy between each other,
For example, you can give them something during the holidays, or invite them to a restaurant for a meal,
This is the limit that I don’t think can go wrong.
If you want family harmony, this is the best way to get along.
Some people may say that my mother raised me so well that I cannot marry a daughter-in-law and forget about my mother.
When it comes to this, it’s even more complicated.
This is caused by the loveless marriage of our older generation.
When a mother enters a loveless marriage, she slowly puts all her focus and attention on her son.
What seems like heavy love is actually a layer of shackles.
It not only imprisons the child, but also imprisons the self.
This in itself is a pathology.
You ask me how to solve this problem?
I can't solve it either.
The only possible way is to let her dance in the square more, play Douyin more, and have more hobbies of her own.
Do you think she is really willing to take care of you? Do you think she can't live without you as her son?
The reason for everything is simply that she has no self and is lacking in her heart.
If she has her own interests and hobbies and her own circle of friends, just look at it. Even if you beg her to live with you, she won't be happy.
Having said this, I remembered that I had a close friend when I was in college.
He said to me one day that my mother sent me a message saying that she dreamed of me last night. She missed me very much and asked me if I had dreamed of her?
I said how did you come back?
He showed me his phone and the reply was:
Dear Mommy, I am a very normal man. If I only dream about young and beautiful girls, you have to understand? (dog head)
At that time, his reply had a huge impact on me.
I thought he would say that I miss you too and dreamed about seeing you.
Just the logic of normal people like us.
But when I saw my buddy’s reply.
I suddenly felt that I was not normal, and this was the logic of a normal person.
At this time, Yu Huanshui patted Lin Feng: "That's enough, military advisor, I can't say any more."
Lin Feng looked at Gongping. It has long been drowned out by all kinds of doubts and abuses.
. . . . .
"Disagree."
"Not approved."
"Hot chicken anchor, three wrong views."
"It's so sad to be your mother."
"If my mother-in-law is nice, why don't we interact with her?"
"Have you ever taken care of children yourself? Do you have children?"
"Three wrong views have been reported."
. . . . .
The small river flows to the military division carnival x10
The stranger gave the military advisor a Ferrari x10
Xiaowan, Gouzi, Brother Long, Yaoyao, Little Cake, Xu Xiansen. . . .
At this time, the old fans didn't say anything, and all supported the military advisor with actions.
The gift effects lasted for a full 15 minutes.
The anti-fans dispersed one after another because they couldn't see the barrage and couldn't type.
Yu Huanshui cupped his fists at the screen to thank him.
"Thank you brothers for your support."
Lin Feng opened his mouth and wanted to say something several times.
Finally shook his head,
never mind.
Let's not cause any trouble.
Next one.
Ding~
"Hello, Military Advisor."
It's a boy.
Lin Feng: "Hello buddy, tell me about your situation."
"Military advisor, I am 22 and she is 19. We will be dating for a month."
Raymond Lam: "Campus love?"
"No, we are all already working."
Lin Feng: "She started working at 19, which is very early. What does she do?"
The boy was silent for a while and said: "It's the kind of job that people would be more concerned about."
Lin Feng was stunned, "Night club?"
Boy: "A little deeper."
? ?
Lin Feng: "No, buddy, how many coins did you put in? Did you take the rocker home?"
Well. .
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On the barrage.
"How many coins did you put in? You took the rocker home"
Hahahahaha.
"No, what do you mean by going deeper? I don't understand (confused)."
"The place deeper than the nightclub must be the Shang K!"
I lost it!
"Using the bus for private use is unethical."
"Who will fix it if it breaks? (dog head)."
"I have ridden it, and the front of the car is crooked! The seat is rotten! The brakes are out of order! The ride is rattling! I broke my guard (crying to death)."
"Guess whether I understand or not (grin)."
Hahahahaha.
. . . . .
Boy: "But she said she wanted to go ashore."
Lin Feng: "So do you want to save the world? For example, you want to help her and think it was not easy for her before."
"Yes!"
Lin Feng: "Did you explode gold coins again?"
"Yes!"
Lin Feng: "How much?"
"Ten W's."
? ? ?
“100,000 in one month?
Lin Feng laughed angrily.
He knocked on the small blackboard and said,
Come on buddy,
Look here,
You are this.
Lin Feng quickly wrote a few words:
‘A great virtuous person within a hundred miles. ’
Well. .
. . . . .
"The Great Good Man Within a Hundred Miles"
"Hello, great virtuous fellow, there are still some activities to do (dog head)."
Ha ha ha ha.
"One hundred thousand can get me a wife (sunglasses)."
"Please give me one such kind person, please (laugh to death)."
"Brother, look at me, okay? I'm kind, gentle and considerate (shy)."
"Brother, I also want to get to know you. I can learn pedicure (dog head)."
Damn it!
You have enough!
Hahahahaha.
. . . . .
Boy: "She said she was cheated."
Lin Feng smiled and said: "We won't discuss this. Let me ask you a question. Can you overcome the gap in your heart?"
"I suffered for three days."
Lin Feng: "Brother, as long as you suffer, there is nothing you can do.
In the future, if there is a conflict in your relationship, her past will reappear in your mind countless times.
You will lose an accurate judgment about this person,
You won’t cherish this relationship,
So I don't recommend you to start this relationship. ”
Boy: "But it's already turned on."
Lin Feng: "Then my suggestion is to cut it off. Maybe a lot of people will say what's wrong today?
Don't they deserve love?
They deserve it,
But if you ask me, I will only say risk.
Just say what situation you are facing in the future.
For example, if you get along with her, if the other person does something bad, it will make you feel uncomfortable.
You will have her past resurface in your mind,
You will subconsciously not want to manage this relationship.
Because you said you suffered for three days.
As long as there is suffering in this thing, it is impossible to let it go completely.
If there is any conflict in the future,
You are bound to settle old scores.
This is also unfair to other girls. ”
Boy: "She also has a child."
? ?
Lin Feng: "Is your fucking relic reincarnated?"
Come tell me,
What's your last name?
Is it Shi?
Is his full name Sakyamuni? !
Well. . .
(End of chapter)