Chapter 208 Different Bedfellows
Girl: "But I also gave him advice!"
Lin Feng: "Then what kind of advice do you give?"
Girl: "He is old. He is old and expensive. He cannot accept a lower position. He cannot let go of his pride as a man."
Old and expensive?
It made Lin Feng laugh.
Girl: "What I'm telling you is the truth. Although I also know that he is trying hard to find opportunities, there are really very few opportunities for him at his age, because there are many young, capable, obedient and cheap people."
Lin Feng: "That's the truth, but sister, should we take the other person's feelings into consideration when we speak? Maybe you don't have other ideas, but any man who listens to your words will just think that you dislike him. ”
Girl: "I don't dislike him. What I mean is, can you consider lowering your pride and find a job that may not have such a high position and not that much money, but can provide you with a very stable job?" He can't let go of this."
Lin Feng: "I still want to hear what kind of negative emotions he releases to you?"
Girl: "The negative emotion is, for example, he is looking at some job opportunities now. I clearly know that he will not be happy if he goes to those companies, and he does not want to go, but he just discusses this issue with me. He wants to get it from me. Get the answer, just go ahead and make the money.”
Lin Feng: "There's nothing wrong with him. He wants your encouragement and recognition."
Girl: “But if he goes to that unit and doesn’t get encouragement and recognition, I know he will feel uncomfortable.”
Lin Feng: "Sister, the encouragement and recognition I mentioned are what you gave him. As for whether the company will give him encouragement or not, you don't need to worry about it.
How can we men have it easy when we work outside? How can anyone not nod and bow?
Make money.
Don't feel aggrieved.
When he returns home, his lover can give him warmth.
This is enough for men.
Can you understand what I mean, sister?
Sometimes men are like children,
No matter how successful his career is outside, or how hard he works outside,
He all hopes to be cared for, to have a home to go to, to have someone to wait for him, and to have food to eat.
That's all. ”
. . . . .
On the barrage.
"Someone is in pain", "Someone is home", "Someone is waiting", "There is food to eat"
Really,
A man's happiness is simple.
"Male compatriots, are the corners of your eyes moist (dog)?"
"I was going to the toilet when I heard what the military said. I wiped my tears and nose and ran out of paper (sunglasses)."
“Being wet means you’re having a bad time, but the comments made people laugh (haha).”
"Meeting a good wife, a wife who understands men, is harder than reaching heaven."
"Nonsense, have you looked through the Milky Way and found it (dog head)?"
Ha ha ha ha.
"Haha, my husband is tired and my wife is coaxing me. Who will feel pain when my wife is tired?
"Look, I knew this would happen (nose picking)."
"Did it bring you back to reality all of a sudden (smile)?"
"Forget it, forget it, my newly warmed heart has recognized the reality, it's better to be cold."
Hahahahaha.
. . . .
Girl: "He is 50 years old this year. I think he has gone through a lot of ups and downs. I just say that you are so old, don't wrong yourself anymore."
Lin Feng smiled and shook his head and said: "So we sometimes say that language communication is very important and is a skill,
You said that you obviously want to care about him, but why do you make the other person feel suppressed and belittled when you say it? ”
"Will it?"
Lin Feng: "What do you think? This is a typical issue involving male dignity.
Forget it, let me ask you a different question. If he goes out to find a career that is not a very good one, will it have any impact on you and your family? ”
Girl: "It doesn't matter."
Lin Feng: "That means there is no financial pressure, right?"
"Yes, but I think he will definitely have more negative emotions."
Lin Feng smiled: "You think, you think, you think, why don't you think you are selfish?"
Girl: "Am I selfish?"
Lin Feng: "Nonsense! You didn't say it yourself. You didn't let him go out to work. It wasn't because you were afraid that he would be suppressed, but because you were afraid that he would have more negative emotions towards you after being suppressed.
Are you going round and round or are you only thinking about yourself? The key is that you don’t know it yet, and I’m drunk too. ”
Girl: "You all feel sorry for him, but who will feel sorry for me?"
Lin Feng: "Why do I feel sorry for you? I listened for a long time, and the fact is that you are worried about this, worried about that, all worried about is an invisible pressure,
Some things don't even happen before you start to panic.
And when you panic, you push your insecurities onto your husband.
The fact is that he is currently unemployed and actively looking for a job.
People ask for your opinion,
You also said that there is no financial pressure if you earn more or less.
Then just support him in going.
What a simple thing!
You have to think about it yourself, what if he is unhappy at work?
What the hell,
Are you a prophet?
How do you know that someone is definitely not happy at work?
What you think is always an assumption,
Even if it goes as you expected, so what?
Can't we live longer?
Don’t take it hard, sister”
Girl: "I just don't want to make this decision for him. I want him to make his own decision without my approval."
Lin Feng: "But when he made his own decision, you were against it."
Sister,
It’s not like people are giving you negative energy now.
It's you on the other side of the CPU.
Why is this thing so old and expensive?
What kind of thing can't there be young and capable young people?
You are suppressing and belittling without giving the other party a chance to refute.
You are causing the other person to fall into a state of self-doubt.
You are a pure npd!
Well. .
The girl was speechless.
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On the barrage.
Xiao Wan: “I don’t want to help others make decisions, but I also have to control others’ decisions. It’s suffocating (horrible).”
Stranger: "The most distinctive characteristic of NPD personality is selfishness, good at confusing right and wrong, and sophistry. Once a problem arises, he will never think that the fault is his."
Xu Xiansen: "But they also have the advantage that they are very serious about their work, because their work gives them money, and they are very good to their parents and brothers. This makes it difficult for them to integrate into families other than their original family."
With this barrage, Yu Huanshui seemed to be looking in the mirror.
After being married for so many years, Gan Hong has always been close to his parents and brothers, but only criticized and suppressed him.
npd?
Oh,
ridiculous!
Gouzi: "So it is very important to have a wife. If you get the right wife, if you cough, she will think you have a cold. If you get the wrong wife, if you hang yourself, she will think you are swinging."
Prodigal Son: "My wife is like this, and my internal organs have been severely damaged."
Brother Qiufeng: "My ex-wife is the same, stay with me and stop the loss in time."
Moonlight: "My girlfriend is an NPD, but she was cured by me. It took me six months, both soft and hard, to break through her mental defenses, move her, and make her indifferent. The CPU should be the CPU. I can only say that it is extremely difficult. Big.”
The stream flows: "Brother, how much does a six-month course cost?"
Hahahahaha.
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Lin Feng: "Today we are discussing this matter. The discussion is relatively vague, but I can feel that if you continue like this, your ending will not be good and your relationship will basically be gone."
Girl: "I'm not afraid of divorce."
Lin Feng knocked on the small blackboard: "Sister, isn't this your answer?"
Girl: "I..."
Lin Feng waved his hand: "Don't rush to explain. Let me ask you a question. Please answer me honestly. Do you have a soul mate?"
The girl was silent for a while and said: "Yes."
Lin Feng threw away the pen in his hand: "What the hell are we talking about after the case is solved?"
Well. . .
. . . . . .
On the barrage.
"Soul Mate"
"Let me knock, the rich lady is really awesome."
"The case is solved hahaha."
"What is a soul mate?"
"There's someone here."
Low EQ: Someone is there
High emotional intelligence: soul mate
Enlightenment.
"If a woman dares to go out of her way at a wedding, her husband must be a loyal and kind-hearted person, because if her husband is a villain or a gangster, she will not dare to mess around, so those who get hurt are usually loyal and kind-hearted people."
"Yes, I am the loyal person. I dare not do anything. In the end, she said that I forced her to do it (crying to death)."
"Hey! When you love, you take off one piece at a time, and when you don't love, I stab you with one knife. When you love, I want to be together every day. When you don't love, I move you here and there. When you love, I think about poetry and the distance. , when you don’t love, you are a corpse and the police.”
fear! !
"Fortunately, although my wife is stupid, she is as loyal as a dog or horse (sunglasses)."
"Three things,
My girlfriend seems stupid but not stupid,
But sensual dogs and horses,
Everyone knows,
And I pretended to be deaf and dumb,
I hope she has no regrets,
I should keep things in mind,
One thing, two things, three things,
This is already a thing of the past.
"Good poem (cow)!"
"It's just my personal experience."
Hahahahaha.
. . . . . .
Girl: "No, it's just a spiritual partner. It's not what everyone thinks."
Lin Feng shook his head and said: "Sisters, when we talk about spiritual partners, even if this person is of the same sex, he will be the culprit that causes your emotional estrangement."
Girl: "Why?"
Lin Feng: "For example, if you and I get married, and face the difficulties of life, at this time, you have a very good...
In this way,
We don't care about his gender.
Let’s just say bestie.
We chat with your besties every day, and you will complain to your besties about the unsatisfactory life,
That best friend will only say some opinions from my perspective,
This view will only reinforce my original view,
At this time, you will find that the more you look at your other half, the more unpleasant and uncomfortable you look at them.
This is the risk of spiritual companionship. Girl: "I don't deny the risks you mentioned. It might really happen, but I just feel that I'm under a lot of pressure. When I bear these things every day, I wonder if we can each consume ourselves." something. ”
Lin Feng: "Look, the risk has appeared. The reason why you and your husband don't want to talk to each other is because you have found a new person to talk to. Sister, if this continues, something will happen to you."
The girl was dissatisfied: "Then I want to ask you, do soul partners have to be husband and wife?"
Lin Feng: "Not necessarily."
"That's it."
Lin Feng: "Sister, do you really want me to say something so unpleasant?"
"Say!"
Women are physically confident and confident.
Lin Feng: "First of all, your spiritual partner is most likely to be of the opposite sex."
Girl: "So what, nothing happened anyway."
Lin Feng: "Okay, even if nothing happens to you, and even if you really have no other ideas, I believe you.
Why?
Because I believe that some girls can really simply enjoy spiritual communication.
But as a man, the military advisor
I can tell you very responsibly,
There is no man in this world who simply chats with you.
A man's spiritual communication with you has only one purpose, which is to have physical communication with you.
Don't rush to refute,
Please look at the big screen. ”
. . . . .
On the barrage.
"Why did this guy reveal our secret again (anger)?"
"I have personally experienced it, and it is so true. As long as a man can chat with a woman, he just wants to get that woman, so I never chat with a man now."
"How about calling it a male animal."
"The True Colors of a Hero (Dog Head)."
"Haha, it's so true."
"This is something engraved in DNA. Regardless of our business, girls' DNA also writes how to attract men (sunglasses)."
DNA: I won’t take the blame.
Hahahahaha.
. . . . . .
Girl: "He is different!"
Lin Feng smiled: "What a classic quotation!"
"You..."
Lin Feng: "Sister, what I just said may be too absolute. After all, the world's population is so large, there are always some exceptions,
But if I say that the two of us can become soul mates, we must have a mutual affection for each other. Do you deny this? ”
The girl suddenly fell silent.
This seems really irrefutable.
If a person doesn't like you, why would he want to spend time with you?
Lin Feng smiled and continued: "Most of the time, you are unconscious about mutual affection, so when neither of you realize this, you are indeed each other's spiritual partners, very simple. < br>
And when one of you realizes this, the relationship between you can no longer be pure,
At this time, it is not a spiritual partner, but an ambiguous relationship. ”
Well. . .
. . . . .
On the barrage.
Appearance: Spiritual companion.
Essence: ambiguous relationship.
"Hahahaha, the military advisor is good or bad (laughing to death)."
"Expose this matter directly."
Military Advisor: Are you still pretending? I'll cut off your fucking escape right away.
Girl: Thank you for helping me.
"It's okay now, I can't pretend to be confused anymore."
Hahahahaha.
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Lin Feng: "Nothing happened now, just because the opportunity has not yet appeared, or maybe you two have good character and are abiding by your duties.
But sisters,
When you continuously release to the other party how incompetent your husband is, you are equivalent to constantly releasing ambiguous signals to the other party.
Once there is a big quarrel between you and your husband,
This branch of red apricot of yours didn't come out of the wall, you just fucking ran across the wall! ”
Well. . .
Girl: "So your answer is that soul mates can only be husband and wife?"
Lin Feng: "You don't have to be a couple, but it will affect the centripetal force between you and your husband. The final result is that you and your husband are in the same bed but have different dreams."
The girl was silent again.
Lin Feng: "Sister, you are more than ten years older than me. In fact, you have many emotional problems, but you look like a child,
Maybe it’s because of the 10-year age difference,
In addition, the other party has protected you very well in the past 15 years of marriage,
It’s only because you are 40 years old and still retain this innocence and childish thoughts.
But I am not your husband,
You paid money to come to me to get even wheat. I must make you realize this reality.
We say that in a relationship, if there is no communication and only silence, it means that it is not far from the end.
When you love someone, doesn't it mean that after a busy day, you will put down your phone, take the initiative to chat with you, and share with you what you see and hear every day?
Even if there is nothing important, I will talk to you. It may be nutritious nonsense, but the content is not important. What is important is the emotion behind the words.
What do you mean by a man loving a woman?
Let’s take an example: a man who loves you is actually very sleepy even after working for a day.
But as long as he can detect any movement from you,
Even if he is half asleep, he will show concern for you.
On the contrary, a man who does not have you in his heart will not care about your feelings at all,
Even if he hears any noise, he will pretend not to hear it and just sleep,
If you make too much noise and disturb him,
He may even get angry and blame you for disturbing him, without caring about your feelings at all.
Think about it, has the other party taken care of you like this in the past 15 years?
How do you treat others now?
You said you were tired from work and didn’t want to talk, so you asked him to mind his own business,
But do you really don’t want to talk?
You just told others what you said and had nothing to say to them.
So what's the difference between your behavior and that man who pretends to sleep and not bother you? ”
The girl was silent for a while and said: "This... I really haven't thought about it before. I agree with your statement."
Lin Feng clapped his hands: "What I'm talking about is that that man protected you too well in the past. Now he has fallen. You have to shoulder the heavy responsibility of the family, but your shoulders are too young and your heart is not mature enough. < br>
A few words of comfort from others will make you feel like you have found your soul mate.
Actually.
The person who has stood up for you for 15 years is the one who loves you the most and understands you best! ”
Girl: "Then what should I do? I really don't dislike him, it's just that when I go to work and go home every day, my energy has really been used up, and I am also very hard."
The woman suddenly burst into tears at the end.
Lin Feng smiled heartily.
This is probably the state of people who are truly surrounded by love.
She is 41 years old and has an annual income of 200, but she lives like a little girl.
Lin Feng: "It's actually very simple. Slow down the pace of life and stop the pace of work and career.
I told my husband that I still have savings at home and I am not in a hurry to go to work.
The two of you go on vacation together and find the happiness in life.
Sister, remember,
I started a family with this man. I am the wife and he is the husband. We are just grasshoppers on the same rope.
It cannot be said that there is no problem between two people when he is strong. When he is weak, I start to collapse.
At this time, you must encourage the other party and give a positive emotional output.
Remember,
This is the responsibility that every wife and husband should fulfill in a marriage.
In the same way,
If one day your work and income are no longer good, and your career also experiences this gap,
Then what you need must be the affirmation and recognition given to you by the other party.
Rather than him telling you something about his own problems and digesting them himself.
Is it right? ”
The girl nodded: "You are right."
Lin Feng: "The last and most important point is the issue of soul mate.
sisters,
I know you may be confused in this environment.
You need an emotional outlet.
But you remember,
When you have a psychological partner as your new window, your husband’s small window must be downwards,
He not only surrendered,
And in contrast, there will definitely be a strong contrast.
This will definitely affect your marriage.
So what if I want to talk too?
Looking for your husband.
Next time your husband expresses these emotions to you, you can tell him directly,
Husband, I am also very tired.
I also have many grievances.
Then pour all your negative energy on him.
I believe he will feel sorry for you and will handle it better than you.
After all, he can take care of a 41-year-old aunt like a child. I absolutely believe in his ability. ”
Pfft~
The girl burst into tears and laughed.
"Who is your aunt? Call me sister."
Lin Feng and Yu Huanshui looked at each other and smiled.
"Okay, okay, sister."
"Thank you, Military Advisor, I really gained a lot from this Lianmai."
Lin Feng: "It's my honor to be able to help you. Okay, go down and live a good life."
Uh-huh.
Attached
[Military Advisor’s Remarks: If you ask me what miracles there are in the world?
It must be trying to understand someone and share the joys and sorrows with them.
It’s hard to do, but it will be wonderful. 】
(End of chapter)