Chapter 212 My Internet Mom
On the barrage.
"Summary: Spiritual sustenance can be anything, but it cannot be people."
"It can be trust or sustenance in people, but try not to take it as everything, although I also envy the kind of love that relies on each other and complements each other (ugh)."
"There is no one in this world who has someone to rely on. Don't rely too much on others for everything. Everyone has their own difficulties. If you really need to rely on them, it shouldn't be too much or too deep."
Very well said!
"God helps those who help themselves. This sentence reminded me thousands of times (crying to death)."
"Truth!"
"No, it's a buffet. Is it delicious? How much does it cost per person (dog head)?"
You kid can't get enough of oil and salt!
Hahahahaha.
. . . . .
The girl started crying.
Lin Feng shook his head and said: "Forget it, tell me where you met."
"At that time, I had a quarrel with my dad, and then I went to work. This person was my boss at the time."
Lin Feng: "How old is he?"
"12 years older than me."
Lin Feng smiled.
Code!
So classic!
Even the fucking textbooks are not as classic as you.
You are 17 and he is 30.
A complete emotional deception!
Married for three years.
You are now 20 and the other person is 33.
You haven't received your marriage certificate yet?
Girl: “Yes, I didn’t get the certificate.”
What the hell are we talking about?
Lin Feng: "Even if Tathagata Buddha comes, he can't save you, sister!"
The girl was silent again.
Lin Feng: "If you don't have children, it would be a good thing not to get a marriage certificate. Stop your losses and run away.
The key is that you still have a child, and your interests are not protected by law,
Sister,
You've played this card badly! ”
Girls cry.
"@军师, there are many people on the Internet now who encourage girls to have children without getting a certificate, and they list many advantages."
There is someone @林峰 on the public screen.
Lin Feng took a look and sneered: "What are the advantages?"
"Does it mean that regardless of whether he has obtained a certificate or not, as long as a child is born, the man has the obligation to raise him?
And even if you get divorced in the end, it doesn’t count as a second marriage?
If I get a marriage certificate, I will be tied to death, right? ”
"Yes, that's right!"
Lin Feng smiled: "Then let me ask you a question, do you have a car? Do you have a house? Do you have a job?"
The other person was stunned for a moment.
Lin Feng was a little angry and said: "Sister, not all chicken soup can be drunk. You must have the ability to judge things independently. The situation you mentioned does exist, and for some groups, the advantages do outweigh the disadvantages.
But do you know what group that is?
Any group of women who agree to get married without a certificate must be those who are financially independent, independent in thought, and even have an advantage over men in material terms.
They have the money and ability to afford the real costs of childbirth and childcare.
At the same time, their hearts are strong enough,
I don’t have much expectations or fantasies about men emotionally either.
People are confident!
What do you have?
I have to work but I don’t have a job, I have to have income but I don’t have an income, I have to have a heart but I don’t have a heart, and even after divorce I always say I can’t let go of my children.
For a person like you, if you don't even have a marriage certificate, you are really useless. ”
. . . . .
On the barrage.
"Summary: What are you not sure about?"
Damn it!
"It hurts my heart!"
"Really, I have a car and a house, support from my only daughter's parents, hosted a banquet, and didn't get a certificate. From my point of view, a certificate can't bind anyone. If he wants to leave, he can leave. Are there no other men in the world? ”
"Okay, I'm the only daughter in the family and I bought a house myself. I really don't want to get married and be destitute. It's worth squandering it all by myself for the rest of my life. I don't need to leave it to anyone."
"Yes, financially independent girls are actually more afraid of others plotting against them."
"I also saw a similar video and almost believed it. The military advisor really hit the nail on the head. Listening to his lectures always makes people sober up."
"So girls who are not financially independent and mentally weak must not learn. Otherwise, if you come back at a disadvantage, the military advisor will scold you (dog head)."
Hahahahaha.
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Lin Feng: "What is your husband's attitude now?"
Girl: "That's what I want to ask, is that he found a girl, and then the girl's boyfriend came to me and sent me all the evidence, as well as the sex record."
Lin Feng: "That girl's boyfriend came to see you?"
"Yes, he sent me all the evidence, including the voice recording. Now that the facts are in front of him, he has to admit it. But there are some things he still doesn't admit. ”
Lin Feng: "What things?"
"Just transfer money, red envelopes and the like."
Lin Feng: "Don't worry about this, because there is no need to worry about it. You two didn't get a marriage certificate. No matter how much he spent on others, it has nothing to do with you and you can't get it back."
Girl: "...Oh."
Lin Feng: "Is there anything else?"
"Yes, it's just for fun. He said he only met the girl once last year, but the boy said they met often."
Lin Feng: "Is there any need to think about this? Your husband must have lied. It's not my sister. I don't care about this mess. Just tell me after the matter was revealed, did he realize his mistake?"
Girl: "He can't feel the mistake."
Lin Feng: "Is it just a perfunctory attitude?"
"That's right."
Lin Feng laughed angrily.
He turned to look at Yu Huanshui and asked, "Brother Shui, do you have any good suggestions?"
Yu Huanshui looked melancholy, sighed and shook his head.
Lin Feng said helplessly: "Sister, you started a marriage by mistake when you were 17 years old, and now you have to bear the consequences."
Very cruel!
But this is reality.
"I would like to emphasize here again that girls whose native families are not well-off must not pray for a marriage to save themselves.
You must become stronger before you can advance and retreat freely.
I said it a bit harshly,
If you exchange a bowl of rice for a bowl of food through marriage, it is really miserable.
There are hundreds of people who pinch your feet once.
No one can achieve a lifetime of effortless happiness by avoiding growth.
I said before that if your father doesn't love you and your mother doesn't love you, then you have to raise yourself again.
How to raise it?
It is to become independent first, cut off all toxic relationships, and then wash, cook, clean like a child, and slowly start to raise yourself.
Treat yourself like a child.
Read children's picture books with yourself.
Play games with yourself,
Buy a bike and come back for a ride.
Take yourself on a hike outdoors.
Look at yourself and say to yourself, baby, look at that number, it’s so green and the sky is so blue.
Buy yourself a ball and play on the grass.
Read a book with yourself and cook three meals a day with yourself.
Play with yourself on the swing.
Encourage yourself from the bottom of your heart and praise yourself.
Said baby this is really great.
Buy yourself an ice cream treat as a reward.
Autosuggestion.
Raise yourself as a child again.
Replace the bad pattern your parents used to raise you.
Because we have always longed for care and encouragement in our hearts, but we have never received it from our parents, and everyone is in short supply.
But from now on, stay with yourself, and when you have enough energy in your heart, you will find that not only can you love others, but you can also be loved.
This is the ability you really have.
Instead of screaming there every day, who will help me, who will save me.
Like a little bird waiting to be fed.
So is the person you attract at this time really coming to save you?
wrong.
It's here to eat you.
When you know how to get along with yourself, you will see the wounds on others, and it turns out that everyone is equally weak.
Then you won't be harsh on others. Because you are tolerant of yourself, you will not be harsh on others.
Your relationships will also become more comfortable as you learn to nurture yourself.
Because you can understand the language behind other people's actions.
So learn to raise yourself first. ”
. . . . . .
On the barrage.
"Raise yourself again" "Replace the bad childhood memories"
Oh my God!
"I feel like crying when I hear this."
"I am both an adult and a child."
"Because the child in many people's hearts has not grown up yet, and they are helpless and cowardly (crying)."
"When I heard 'baby', my eyes started to get sore."
"Suddenly I discovered that apart from others, I have never loved myself (crying to death)."
"It's not too late. The child in you didn't grow up in childhood. It stays there waiting for you to pay attention to him and comfort him."
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I’m crying!
"The military advisor is really my Internet mother."
"Why not dad?"
"Because my dad is still here and my mom is gone (dog head)."
You,
"Military Advisor: Thank you (smile)."
Hahahahaha.
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Lin Feng: "Let me ask again, did he pay any cost when he married you?"
"He didn't, because he just started a business outside."
Lin Feng: "There are no three golds or anything?"
"No."
Lin Feng: "So do you have a house now?"
"There was a house that was being renovated, and things were already developing in a good direction. Then this happened. Military Advisor, I want to know what he was thinking right now?"
Lin Feng: "What else can you think about? I just want to put you at home to ensure that the red flag does not fall down and the colorful flags flutter outside to achieve the male sense of accomplishment between two women.
Let me tell you, he has no sense of loyalty to your love or your marriage. He only wants to use you to give him children and give him a wife, because your cost is the lowest and the price-performance ratio is the highest. ”
Girl: "So he has no feelings for me at all?"
Lin Feng: "This feeling does not affect him from continuing to look for other people outside."
"He told me that he didn't like that woman, so he broke up with her."
Lin Feng: "If you break it off, the other person's boyfriend will not come to find you."
"But he said he only met once, so the evidence is nothing."
Lin Feng: "If this is really the case, the other person's boyfriend will not come to find you."
"But..."
Lin Feng frowned: "Stop butting, I'll get tired of being stupid if you don't butt anymore."
The girl was silent.
Lin Feng shook his head and said: "Sister, I can't give you any advice about your marriage,
This is the wrong order of your life,
It is the price you pay for the wrong things you did when you were young and ignorant. ”
Girl: "Yes, I understand."
Lin Feng: "I suggest you consult a lawyer to see how to protect your rights in this situation."
Girl: "I have already consulted, but there is no way."
Lin Feng was helpless: "Yes, because you didn't get the certificate.
The key fact is that marriage, if it were in the past, because people in mountainous areas and rural areas did not have the awareness to obtain a certificate,
The previous de facto marriage still had some effect.
But now, de facto marriage is no longer protected
He is only responsible for his children,
No responsibility to you! ”
The girl was silent again.
Obviously what Lin Feng said was the same as what she heard from the lawyer.
Lin Feng: "Sister, to be honest, I actually have a lot of bad things to teach you, but after thinking about it, it's not necessary.
You are only 20 years old,
There is no need to waste a good life on people like this.
No matter what you decide later.
Either leave him or continue to endure it.
That's all your own choice.
I won't comment.
I have only one suggestion for you, find a job and make yourself financially independent first. ”
Girl: "Okay! I'll go find a job tomorrow!"
Lin Feng sighed softly: "It's not too late if you can listen to advice, come on, sister."
The wheat is hung up,
Lin Feng said to the live broadcast room:
"This sister represents a type of person.
Rural families,
Lack of fatherly love,
Growing up being scolded and controlled,
A typical child growing up in an environment lacking love.
My father has not cared for me since I was a child, and my mother has not loved me.
When you meet a man and say something nice, for example, come with me and I will take care of you for the rest of your life. They don’t understand you but I do. I’ll buy you a ticket and you come to me.
These words may make a normal person roll their eyes,
But it is a very beautiful love story for people who are extremely short of love.
It makes people angry and helpless.
I know there are many people in the room who may not understand, and that's because you are living a happy life.
For a child who grew up in an environment lacking love, I was particularly eager to receive recognition and praise when I was a child.
But I didn’t get any,
Do you think I don’t want it if I can’t get it?
No,
This will become the greatest desire.
When I was a kid, I didn’t get a single point. When I grow up, I want to get every ten points back.
So who do I ask?
I want it from anyone who gives it to me.
Everyone will be my creditor.
My parents owed me something when I was a child, and now the whole world owes me,
Suddenly one day I meet a scumbag. A scumbag is particularly easy to give emotional value to, because he knows you want it, so he will care about you lightly.
I was like a moth to the flame,
The so-called killing disk, pua, even a blind person can see it.
But she pounced on it like a moth to a flame,
Why?
So lacking in love.
What right do others have to say something about me, and what right do parents have to say something about me?
You haven't given it to me since I was a child, and now there is a person who regards me as the most important thing in my life, but you tell me that he is here to lie to me, and I don't want to believe it.
So the moth flew towards the flame.
So these people, if you really want to give birth to a child, please take some responsibility, okay?
Depend on! ”
. . . . .
On the barrage.
"I almost left with someone like this five years ago. At that time, I had extremely low self-esteem and no one liked me. Fortunately, I came out on my own."
"Me too, because I feel that I am not worthy, so I am very touched that someone wants me. God knows that I was willing to have sex with that man with bad intentions just because the hotel can take a hot bath (crying to death)."
"Suddenly I understand that they say that your daughter should be rich, otherwise you will consider it a gift if others treat you better."
"The most important thing about enrichment is spiritual enrichment, giving her an independent personality and self-esteem. In fact, in the final analysis, it is still love!"
Ordered!
"Really, you will find that some little princesses raised by families who are not short of money are just like yellow hair."
"Mostly love!"
"And love never flows to those who lack love (laughing to death)."
"Damn it! There's no solution!"
"There is a solution. The military advisor has left it to us. We need to raise ourselves and fill ourselves with energy."
Got it!
"The baby is great, I watched Douyin for another day (applause)."
"Sisters, it's not okay to be doting (dog head)."
ah?
Hahahahaha.
Attached
[Military Advisor’s remarks: You have lacked love and had low self-esteem since childhood, and you also long to be loved.
When you feel wronged, you don’t have a father to stand up for you,
There is no mother to guide you carefully,
No one supports you.
You, these people, are like weeds, strong enough to make yourself a safe haven, hard and hot.
So much so that if someone from the outside reaches out to you casually, you won’t be able to tell whether it’s a human or a ghost. 】
(End of chapter)