Chapter 211 Cinderella can’t meet the prince
On the barrage.
"The 18-year-old male watched it with gusto (dog head)."
"The 15-year-old male high school student watched (Sunglasses) carefully."
“I don’t know how to do the main thing, but I love watching it (haha).”
"You don't have to do it, I'm fucking doing it right now. I'm hiding in the bathroom at my mother-in-law's house and crying."
"There is a picture (laughing to death)."
"Hahaha you are so awesome."
"I'm already at the scene too. My girlfriend's mother is playing mahjong and hasn't come back yet. She's studying online."
"Hahaha, hurry up and learn from me, brother, and don't make the family atmosphere awkward later."
"I'm going too, let's see how to find a topic."
"Let's learn, let's learn, we must fight a well-prepared battle."
"My brain said: I remember, let's go!"
"Zui: After we go, hello uncle and aunt, I am your boyfriend."
"You know how to talk (dog head)."
Hahahahaha.
. . . . . .
Lin Feng glanced at the barrage: "I see that many brothers are at this point and are very nervous.
Don't be nervous, brothers.
Isn't this thing just about meeting a parent?
Besides,
We are not alone.
Don’t you still have a partner?
At this time, the girlfriend also needs to play her full role.
Only the two of you working together can make this happen with less effort.
What do girls do?
Very simple.
First of all, you have to inform your parents in advance about your boyfriend's taste. For example, some boys can't eat spicy food. If the girl's family is heavy on spicy food, will you eat it or not when your uncle and aunt bring you food?
Not eating means not giving face.
After eating, my face turned red from the spicy food and I was looking for water to drink. I had no image at all and I had lost face.
Therefore, when a boy goes to a girl's house for the first time, the girl must inform her parents in advance about her boyfriend's taste.
The second thing is to tell your parents, relatives and friends in advance about your husband's family situation and his personal situation. Then don't ask questions.
The third thing is to tell your parents what your boyfriend’s parents or grandparents like at home and prepare gifts for him to take back when the time comes.
This is a return gift.
The fourth one is, if your boyfriend is from other places, for example, one is from the south and the other is from the north,
You must translate by his side,
Because some of the native dialects may not be understood, but having you next to him will make the boy feel at ease, and he will be more willing to please your parents for you.
Fifth, if a boy is being made difficult by his parents, or if there are questions like whether he has bought a house or a car, or how much his savings is, you must defend him.
Don't make him feel so embarrassed.
After all, when I came to your home for the first time, I felt very strange and nervous,
If you just meet your parents to confirm your relationship status and are not in a hurry to get married, you can talk about this kind of thing slowly in the future. ”
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On the barrage.
"I'm so embarrassed, I almost forgot that I still have a girlfriend!"
"The military advisor is good at this point."
“Everyone on the Internet is teaching boys how to do it. This is the first time I see someone teaching girls how to do it. I’m so impressed!”
"Boy: Dear, what should I pay attention to when I go to your house for the first time?"
"Girl: Just don't say yes when I call you daddy."
Poof~
Ha ha ha ha.
"Hmph, why should I help him cheat? It depends on my personal ability. My parents have to check it (slightly)."
"Yes, yes, although I love my boyfriend very much, I am not sure whether I should marry him, so I have to ask my parents to check. If he learns to cheat, then my parents are not sure what is wrong with him (grin) ).”
"Sisters, don't help your parents cheat. Your parents will know who they are at a glance."
"Haha, you can tell if your marriage is happy or not when you meet your parents. Why are your parents so awesome (laughing)."
"I just laughed so hard. Isn't this what the man's parents taught him? Why should he ask his girlfriend to help him cheat (yuck~)."
"So I think you don't have a boyfriend, and your emotional intelligence is so low when you talk online (grin)."
"Attention, gentlemen, boys should be careful when going to a girl's house: I will get in the car when my father-in-law opens the door. I will not be polite when I open the door at home. I will not drink when my father-in-law toasts me. I will turn the table when my father-in-law picks up the dishes."
"You ask me why? My rules are the rules!"
Hahahahaha.
. . . . .
A war of words is about to begin.
Lin Feng shook his head angrily: "You little fairies, you don't understand the ways of the world,
If you care about him now, when you go to live with his parents in the future, won't he take care of you even more?
This stuff is all mutual,
If you don't guarantee your boyfriend's dignity, then your parents will embarrass you later. Do you think your boyfriend should defend you?
But now that we have said that.
I think it is necessary to educate our brothers.
When it comes to meeting the parents, many people subconsciously think it’s the girl’s parents checking up on the boy.
But essentially it's mutual.
You examine whether I am suitable for your daughter, and I will also examine whether your family is suitable for me.
Right, brothers?
Being together is a matter for both parties.
Why single-item assessment?
Many boys here ignore this.
How to investigate specifically?
First, look at the way the other parent gets along.
There are three common modes of getting along in marriage: getting along as equals, strong men and weak women, and strong women and weak men.
These three modes of getting along will most likely determine your future wife's expectations for your future marriage.
If the woman grows up in a family where women are strong and men are weak,
Your daughter-in-law most likely hopes to have greater decision-making power and influence in the family.
Secondly, when looking at home decoration and various supplies, should we focus on form or use?
If you are an economical man, you are a pragmatist, and your wife is someone who cares very much about this external form,
Then the possibility of conflicts in many details in your family will increase in the future.
The third is to look at the details of living habits. For example, after entering the house, are you required to place the slippers in a very orderly manner, or even with the toes facing outwards?
In many homes, there may be sofa covers.
The sofa cover will wrinkle after you sit on it. At this time, you will find that your future mother-in-law or your future wife will subconsciously straighten the sofa cover after you leave.
Let me tell you, if you are not a particularly self-disciplined person, or even a little mysophobic, then you and your girlfriend will have a lot of conflicts in many living habits in the future.
For another example, after getting up in the morning, you must first open the quilt to let out the smell, and then fold it into a certain shape,
You have to be able to accept it,
Of course it’s no problem,
But if you think it’s unnecessary to spend so much time on these things, then let me tell you,
After you get married, you will have constant conflicts over these details.
Even for example, after cleaning up the kitchen, the rags used to wipe the basin and the rags used to wash the dishes must be placed on different hooks, and the positions must be fixed,
Oh my god
You have to know that you love the other person very much now, and that's okay.
But in your future marriage, you have to think about whether you can abide by the normative requirements of this family.
Don't underestimate it.
You may think it is all trivial matters now, but people who have experienced it will tell you that these trivial matters are enough to keep you arguing for a lifetime. ”
. . . . . .
On the barrage.
"Really, people who have been here tell you that you must pay more attention to your mother-in-law when you go to your girlfriend's house for the first time, because your wife will behave exactly like your mother-in-law in the future (crying to death)."
"It's true, she and her mother blocked me (dog head) together."
"Clear at a glance (sunglasses)."
Ha ha ha ha.
"They are not exactly the same. She will use facts to refute that she is different from her mother (smile)."
"She is so determined to refuse to admit defeat and has to fight over right and wrong. Look at who she looks like (dog head)."
"Her mother: What a coincidence, I also wanted to prove that I was different from your grandma (sunglasses)."
"A family of stubborn donkeys (grin)."
Ha ha ha ha.
"I lost my Maybach keys and 10 million bank deposits in the past. Can I just sleep on the sofa (dog head)?"
"Yes, I will marry you (sunglasses) with her mother."
"The mother-in-law tied her hair up (slightly)."
Hello friends from island countries (smile).
Hahahahaha.
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Lin Feng: "Also, it depends on the parents' attitude towards their daughters.
There are two typical types. One is a girl who is doted on by thousands of people. No matter what the girl says, the parents of the girl will obey.
Then you have to be mentally prepared. The wife you marry in the future will be like marrying a Princess and the Pea and going home.
If you marry a Princess and the Pea, then you should remember that in the future, your mother-in-law and father-in-law will have a relatively high degree of interference in your life as a couple.
Because they are worried.
Another situation is to observe whether the other parent treats their daughter as an independent person?
What is an independent person? There are just different opinions.
We will communicate honestly with each other,
Then,
You're not doing it right, I'd say.
You can also say that I did something wrong, and I can accept it.
If you bring such a wife back home, your family will be lucky!
Okay, brothers,
Observe these points,
In fact, you probably have a judgment in your mind,
The first is whether the behavior pattern of the girl you deeply love will match yours after she gets married in the future.
Secondly, you have already made a basic judgment on how your future family will get along with your mother-in-law's family and whether they can get along smoothly. ”
. . . . .
On the barrage.
"Summary: When buying a house, look at the beams, and when marrying a wife, look at the mother-in-law."
"The saying here is that to buy a cow, you have to buy a cow, and to get a wife, you have to look at the mother-in-law (laughing to death)."
"I have a deep understanding that both parents are lazy, and it is basically impossible for their children to be diligent."
"Not absolute, but there is a shadow."
"It's too late to know (woo woo woo)."
"You should also look for old sows when buying pigs. The old saying is true (dog head)."
You,
Hahahahaha.
. . . . . .
Okay,
Next one.
Ding~
"Hello, Military Advisor!"
It's a girl.
Lin Feng: "Hello, tell me about your situation."
"Military advisor, I found out that my husband has been with another woman for two years. I only found out recently."
Lin Feng: "How many years have you been married?"
"Been married for three years."
Married for three years and cheated on me for two years.
grass!
Lin Feng: "How old are you this year?"
"I am 21 this year."
? ? ?
Lin Feng frowned: "You got married when you were 18?"
"Yes!"
Lin Feng: "Sister, do you have any physical defects?"
"No!"
Lin Feng: "Then isn't it great for you? Your family wants you to marry someone else at the age of 18."
The girl was silent for a while and said: "Maybe it's my own fault."
Lin Feng put down his hand and turned the pen, and said a little irritably: "What's your reason? Tell me, I'm really curious."
Girl: "Because my family is not very good. My father went to the hospital when I was very young. Then my childhood did not have the kind of father's love, nor the mother's love."
Lin Feng: "Did you grow up in the village?"
"Yes."
Lin Feng shook his head, knowing it was like this.
The girl continued: "So I have always wanted to escape from this family, and then I thought this person was pretty good."
Lin Feng said angrily: "Sister, it's okay if you want to escape from your original family, but you can't place all your hopes on another person. You have to become independent first!
Not just you,
And the family members in the room, please listen.
Children from bad families, especially girls.
Because women are indeed weaker than men in terms of strength and ability to protect themselves.
Therefore, girls whose native families are not well-off must understand something.
The parents who gave birth to you can not love you,
How dare you expect a stranger who has no blood relationship with you to love you for a lifetime?
Do you know how long a lifetime is?
People’s hearts can change!
So remember, there is no one else you can rely on in this world except yourself.
The military advisor is not here to teach you indifference today.
But let you become independent first, at least when others hurt us, we won't have no way out.
To put it bluntly, you got married when you were 17.
Do you know what love is?
Do you know what marriage is?
Do you understand what responsibility and family are? ”
The girl was silent.
. . . . . .
On the barrage.
"Both your parents don't love you" "Do you expect strangers who are not related by blood to love you forever"
Oh my God,
I woke up all of a sudden.
"It's too late to know."
"I chose to get married just to break away from my original family. Now I am living in extreme pain every day."
"But I didn't understand it four years ago, and no one told me this. My cognitive level is limited, and I made the wrong choice (crying to death)."
"It's true. If I could have heard this 10 years ago, it would have made these years miserable (hey)."
"It's really blood and tears. You must listen to your military advisor and save your life!"
"The military advisor broke the solidification of my thinking."
Very well said.
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Lin Feng: "Brothers, remember, if your family of origin is not good, your parents do not love your father and your mother does not love you,
The first thing you have to do is to find a quiet environment and nurture yourself again.
If you want to escape the suffering of your original family through marriage or another person, you will most likely end up falling into another suffering.
Because your current weak state will only attract some injured male animals.
Don't imagine that Cinderella will meet the prince.
Do you think that princes are stupid, leaving a well-matched and well-matched daughter to look for you instead of looking for her?
Why?
Are you beautiful?
Or do you have a good personality?
First of all, your family of origin is not good, and the circle and environment you live in are most likely at the bottom.
Who do you want to meet at the bottom?
It must be someone with similar energy to you.
Remember, two equally weak people are definitely not hugging each other for warmth
But ask for each other.
This is human nature.
Stop it!
I am also right in the bar!
When you are weak, the most important thing to do is to grow up.
But many little girls are willing to choose to marry a boy and choose to escape through marriage.
Why?
Is it true love?
no.
Just because of this shortcut.
Because growing up is painful.
So they would rather choose to rely on others and take a shortcut.
But what you don’t know is that this road may seem like a shortcut, but it’s often full of thorns.
Some of you may ask, won’t you encounter bad marriages if you become independent?
meeting!
Still will!
But what's the only difference?
It is the latter who has the ability to save himself!
I have the ability to work and live independently. Even if I encounter a bad marriage, I can escape unscathed.
But you don’t have the ability to be independent. You were already very weak by your parents and you have never really lived by yourself. So you are very passive, you know?
The military advisor is not an alarmist.
This sister got married at the age of 17.
I can even make a bold guess now,
You must have children,
Moreover, the status after marriage is to stay at home and take care of the children full-time,
You don't have a job of your own,
I don’t have my own circle of friends either.
Sister,
Just tell me whether what I said is right or not. ”
Girl: "...Yes!"
Lin Feng threw the pen away angrily: "Why do I know, brothers? It's not that I can count, it's because this is so damn classic.
Married for three years,
Been out for two years.
If the man hadn't eaten her to death, would he dare to be so arrogant?
If she didn't have a job and the ability to think independently, wouldn't she have found out that her husband was pregnant for two years? ! ”
(End of chapter)