Chapter 229 What can easily knock people down is not society or the workplace, but the family of origin
The wheat is hung up,
Lin Feng said to the live broadcast room:
"Brothers,
Why are children bullied?
The reason is because my parents are useless!
Remember, whenever your child is bullied, you must stand up for him.
You listen to me.
Never listen to what the school teacher says, children will make mistakes. .
We need to give our children a chance to grow themselves. .
Everything has two sides, and your child must have problems too. . .
Even though you were bullied, don't you have any responsibility? .
We can't put all the blame on others. . .
As a parent, you also have to reflect and reflect first. . .
Of course, as a school and as a class teacher, we will also criticize the child's wishes, and parents can understand and cooperate. . .
Is there anything wrong with this?
At first glance,
It seems like there's really nothing wrong with him at all.
So after hearing this sentence, many parents said okay, let's all work together.
As a result, you will find out two days later that your child has been beaten again.
Why?
Because the other party was not punished!
This thing is just like domestic violence. If there is a first time, there will be a second time, and if there is a second time, there will be a third time.
So you must let his class teacher, the parents who bully our child, and all the students in the class know one thing: they are not allowed to bully my child.
So how to do it?
The military advisor will teach you.
At this time, you must notify the head teacher immediately and tell the parent to come to school to see me.
He won't come?
I will go to the Education Bureau and bring the government leaders over. I will report the case to fight against demons and demons, and characterize school bullying. Your child will be sentenced and sent to a juvenile detention center.
Just these few words,
There must be momentum.
Don't worry about the illegal protection of minors.
With these few words, I tell you, everyone will come here.
After he comes, tell him directly,
We are prepared to resolve this issue legally.
You said that I plan to report my child's bullying as a typical example of bullying in this school to the Education Bureau and notify the media to crack down on demons.
Parents, how do you think this matter should be resolved?
I want to hear your opinion now.
The other party will definitely say, oh, they are just kids, right? Something like that.
At this time, you tell him, please face this matter squarely.
Your child has broken the law,
Moreover, the country is now looking for role models in various school districts,
If you think this is an understatement, I'll let the law tell you how harmful it is.
I tell you guys, he must be scared to death at this point.
Then you pull his parents and his children to the podium in front of the whole class and ask them to bend down and apologize,
Remember.
Bring out the momentum.
The more you do this, the less they dare to mess with you.
Don’t just fucking say oh, be civilized, love, be more understanding, tolerant, and give others more opportunities.
fart!
Good people are bullied by others, and good horses are bullied by others,
If no one dares to stand up, your child will be bullied.
You don't deserve to be a parent.
Finally,
I want to say a few words about perpetrators, bystanders, and those being bullied.
First of all, for the perpetrators, what I want to say is that you use a person's isolation to prove your gregariousness.
The insulting words you use and the fists you wave do not fully demonstrate your justice or strength,
It just shows your stupidity and rudeness,
That's all.
The abuser may be able to change his ways, but the victim may always live in the past.
So you never deserve forgiveness.
To those on the sidelines, I would like to say that silence is not neutrality, silence is a choice you make.
I don’t want to condemn your inaction here,
But at least,
Please get to know someone face to face, not from rumors.
Don't be a cruel perpetrator, nor a cold bystander.
Finally,
To the victims and you in front of the camera, I want to say that whether the world is worth it or not is irrelevant to what you and I say.
But how do you spend this trip to the human world?
We have the final say!
A person's life is not that long. When he comes to this world, he has to see the glow in the sky.
To walk hand in hand with the one you love on the street.
You come to the human world, smell the flowers in the fields, and pick up a few pieces of candy for your children on the way home.
When you come to the human world, you want to listen to the tides and waves, and go to the corner store to buy some clothes you like.
The romance of the mountains and rivers in this universe and the warmth of this world are all worthy of your perseverance.
A smile from a stranger,
A word of comfort from a friend,
A dinner for the family,
The fragrance of flowers in the morning, the setting sun in the evening, the rolled-down car windows, the refreshing feeling that hits your face.
Every moment here is worthy of our visit to this world.
Sometimes I think about it, don’t we just live for these moments throughout our lives?
So,
May you pass through mountains and rivers,
I still think this world is worth it. ”
. . . . .
On the barrage.
"Come to the human world to see the glow in the sky and smell the flowers in the fields" "The mountains and rivers in this universe are romantic, and the heaven and earth in this world are warm"
Oh my God!
“It’s so poetic and so healing!”
"The export is poetry, and his golden sentences are compiled into books. In a few years, he will be an educator of this era."
"Really, I think the military advisor is a sincere and righteous Wenquxing who comes to the world with a mission."
"Simple language, but speaks to everyone's heart."
"Look and listen to those who commit violence and those who silence."
. . . . . .
Okay,
It's getting late,
Come on, the last one.
Ding~
"Hello, Military Advisor."
Lin Feng was stunned,
It’s a woman,
The voice sounds very young.
Lin Feng: "Hello, is this sister or aunt?"
"Haha, my child is about the same age as you, you can call me aunt."
Lin Feng was confused: "Auntie, do you have any emotional problems?"
Auntie: "It's not me, it's my child."
Raymond Lam: "Children's emotional problems?"
Auntie: "Yes, yes. I mainly want to ask two questions."
Lin Feng: "Okay, tell me."
"The first question is because my son has graduated from graduate school and is now looking for a job in Shanghai, but I don't want him there. I want him to come back, but he doesn't listen."
Lin Feng didn't understand: "Why let him go back?"
"Because we are from the county town, it is difficult for him to earn a salary and buy a house in the city, so I keep asking him to come back, but he doesn't want to come back. In terms of communication between us, this is not very smooth."
Lin Feng shook his head: "Auntie, it's okay if your son doesn't go back. He has graduated from graduate school. Do you want him to go back to your small county?"
"Actually, our small county has been pretty good these past few years..."
stop!
Lin Feng interrupted: "Please stop any interference with your son. Just dance in the square and play mahjong every day. You don't need to worry about your son's affairs."
? ?
Auntie looked confused.
Lin Feng: "Because you don't have the ability, let alone the level, you can only get worse and worse."
Auntie: "But all the relatives around me give me advice."
Lin Feng smiled: "Do any of your relatives have a high school diploma?
To put it harshly,
None of your relatives are aware of it. Don't talk to your relatives about anything about your son.
Seriously, aunt,
I don't really want to have any communication with you.
Why?
All the brothers in the room know it.
I have said more than once, don't try to reason with your family of origin. Military advisors have no ability to change the minds of the previous generation. ”
Auntie: "Actually... I am quite willing to learn from you. I have watched your live broadcast for a few days."
Lin Feng was stunned, "Are you also a big fan of mine?"
"Yes!"
Lin Feng knocked on the blackboard: "In that case, Auntie, are you prepared to be scolded?"
? ?
Lin Feng fired: "You said you were willing to learn from me, but you didn't understand it either!
A parent like you,
The worst thing to say is the kind of parents who have a death instinct,
Your son has graduated from graduate school and is working in Shanghai. Whether he stays in Shanghai or not is his choice.
Working in a first-tier city, he plays a vital role in a person's development.
The thinking of people in first-tier cities, the recognition of outstanding people around them, as well as the advanced concepts and workplace environment of large enterprises and multinational companies in first-tier cities,
Even if your child works for two years, he finally decides not to work in a first-tier city,
He returned to your county, and he was also a leader in the area.
Remember,
Your son has graduated from graduate school, and his knowledge and vision have already surpassed yours.
You, a rural woman, can you still care about him?
Why don't I like to talk to you.
Because parents like you are so typical.
Just as the child was about to spread his wings and fly high, you snapped his wings and tied them up.
Then she kept saying in his ears every day, "If you can't afford a house, come back. What are you doing in the magic city? Come back,"
You are a typical example of severely restricting a child's potential and future.
When meeting a parent like you, his son should break free and stay away from you.
Because the more he contacts you,
The more inferior he is in a first-tier city, the more his development will lose momentum.
You said that as a parent, your children do not blame you for not being able to support them in life and work,
Instead, you have to suppress your children because they are not capable enough and cannot survive in a big city.
In the end, you all have to say that this is all for your own good and that we all love you.
This thing of yours is so irritating. ”
. . . . .
On the barrage.
"The military advisor is so cruel, even the old man drew his sword (covering his face and laughing)."
"Military advisor, regardless of age, as long as you dare to hit the target, he will dare to scold you (dog head)."
Hahaha.
"I think the military advisor is right. Since my child is a graduate student, his cognition must be much better than that of his parents. He is completely overwhelmed. I just know that my cognition is not as good as that of my daughter, so I don't care what choice she makes. Full support.”
"I think this mother is just afraid that her child will be too powerful and wander away, so she won't take care of her and treat her like a king."
"Is it possible that the relative is just jealous? He deliberately asked him to cut off his son's wings and lie down together in the chicken coop. The stupid mother still believes everything."
"Unless your relatives are all rich people or municipal leaders, and such relatives can provide you with a good platform to come back, if you have a group of poor relatives who want money but no money, and want power but no power, then they are not relatives, but enemies. ”
"Besides, it's really hard to hang out in a small place. The worldly ways of people are terrible. It's too tiring for ordinary people to hang around."
. . . . .
Lin Feng: "That's all I have to say. If I say it again, it will be even harder to hear. I'm afraid my aunt won't be able to bear it. Some people may think that the military advisor is venomous or disrespectful of the elders.
No way,
In my case, if you are wrong, I will definitely scold you.
If you can't accept it, you don't need to connect or ask, right?
But I hope you will think clearly. Do you want to hear flattery or the truth today?
If you want to hear the truth,
That must have stung you. ”
The aunt was silent for a while: "Let me ask the second question."
Lin Feng: "Please tell me."
"My child is looking for a job in Shanghai.
But after he graduated, he got a girlfriend,
This little girlfriend is his classmate,
I am currently studying for a Ph.D., and my parents are both university professors.
My son had a virgin girlfriend in college and he never told me about it.
He likes this girl very much. Every month, my son goes to college once, and then this girl goes to Shanghai from college.
But I find that they are becoming more and more frequent, and I am a little worried. ”
Lin Feng: "What are you worried about?"
"Because my child had to defend his job as a full-time employee last Friday, I think it was very distracting for him to talk about this girlfriend.
You see, they went to Thailand last month. After coming back, they will go to various places together every Saturday and Sunday.
Although he told me that the little girl studies very well and will be among the best in the university next year,
But I'm still a little worried.
So I went to Magic City to look for him, and as a result, this little girl also wanted to go.
I told my son on Tuesday that my mother would go to Shanghai on Wednesday. See if I can go there. My son said yes.
As a result, on Thursday, he called me and said that his little girlfriend was also going to go there for the day.
When she heard that I was going too, she collapsed.
Just say my son, you are a mama’s boy, and you got into a fight with my son.
After the quarrel, my son told me that he also felt very tired,
He took advantage of this opportunity and told his little girlfriend that let's end it. ”
Stop, stop, stop!
Lin Feng frowned upon hearing this.
Wave your hand to stop!
"Auntie, I really can't listen anymore. Just tell me what questions you want to ask me."
Auntie: "I just want you to help me figure out their problem."
Lin Feng: "What's the problem with them? I think it's you who has the problem."
? ?
Lin Feng: "Let me ask you a question. You must answer me truthfully. How is your relationship with your lover?"
"It's not bad, I don't mean it's particularly good, it means we coexist peacefully."
Lin Feng rolled his eyes: "Whoever comes after your son will be in trouble for eight fucking lifetimes.
I’ll leave it at that,
No matter whether your future daughter-in-law is this girl or not, you will not have a good relationship with your daughter-in-law.
And your daughter-in-law must be your enemy, because she took your son away.
What the hell, he was in love and didn’t tell me. . .
Why is it that he is going to become a full-time student now and this woman is still pestering him all day long? . .
Why, they just took a trip to Thailand, and now they want to visit various places every day. . .
Why do you think it's such a waste of time that you have to fly to Hangzhou to coach your son? . .
Think about it for yourself, are these what a serious mother would say? ”
Well. .
Before Lin Feng finished, he continued to fire: "You interfere with your son in every detail, which only shows that your own intimate relationship is very bad.
You just said something, let me live in peace with my husband.
What does it mean to live in peace?
To put it bluntly, you and your husband are no longer close.
You have a bad relationship with your husband.
That’s why you put all your energy into your son,
The emotional symbiosis between you and your son is so great,
You are a typical parent who firmly controls your son in the name of love.
I thought with my toes and could guess that you must be a particularly strong mother.
Of course, you are also awesome.
Just send your son to college and graduate with a master's degree.
But remember, your son will definitely not be able to deal with interpersonal problems in the workplace,
His expressive skills must be poor.
Let me tell you, your mother's knowledge is too shallow.
What the hell is it more important for my son to go to work than to find a partner?
Is this something a normal mother can say?
Your son got a doctorate, and his parents are both university professors.
In what normal family is this, the parents are not happy for their son?
When young people fall in love, you go to my place and I go to yours, flying back and forth, so that the relationship will get better and better.
What are you doing?
Seeing young couples getting along well makes you feel uncomfortable.
They even came to the microphone to ask me their questions. What problems do they have?
It's your problem, okay.
Your son said he was too tired to break up with this girl.
Do you think it was that girl who made your son tired?
It’s you, eldest sister!
You are making your son too tired! !
From the work problems at the beginning to the son’s love problems now,
I find that many parents nowadays are very stupid. They just want their children to do things according to their ideas,
As a result, the child's life will not go smoothly at work, marriage, and childbirth.
Quarrels and fights all day long,
Finally repeat your life.
Maybe even they themselves don’t know why in the end.
This is because parents want to control their children too much and want to arrange their children's lives
In fact, it is a very irrational and unsmart approach.
You do this just to solve the problem of your own sense of security,
If you don't get a sense of security from your husband, you want to get a sense of security from your son.
In fact,
You shouldn't tie up your son's life.
She should live her life as a different person from others.
He should do things that are more interesting to him, like the people he likes, do things that are more meaningful, and things that can arouse more passion. ”
The woman was silent again.
. . . . . .
On the barrage.
"I was scolded so much that my breasts were pierced."
"It's so cool hahaha."
High emotional intelligence: Emotional symbiosis.
Low EQ: Your love child.
"Really, these three sentences are inseparable from my son, my son. The plot of Lianer is too serious."
"A typical example of this is that the relationship with the husband is very bad, and all the energy is focused on the son."
"I'm very surprised. He keeps saying he's worried. What is he mainly worried about (doubt)?"
"Worried about his son growing up and having a life other than his mother."
"I'm worried that my son has a girlfriend and doesn't love his mother."
"If you don't have a husband's love, you can only get it from your son (speechless)."
. . . . .
Lin Feng: "I must wake you up by scolding you today, otherwise you will suffer a lot in the future.
Let me tell you,
If you want your son to live a good life, you must withdraw from your son's core life.
That’s not how boys grow up,
There is nothing wild or masculine about your son,
To put it bluntly, your son has not yet been weaned.
Your son should be dumped and abandoned in love relationships one after another. Your son should hit the wall again and again in society, otherwise he will never grow up.
Finally, make sure you only call your son once a week at most, without any word of guidance.
Otherwise your son will be really useless! ”
. . . . .
On the barrage.
"This girl shouldn't be too outstanding. She is a doctor and her parents are both professors. What else should she worry about?"
"She doesn't care whether her daughter-in-law is excellent or not, nor does she care about her son's feelings. She only cares about herself."
That’s so right!
"She only cares about whether she can control her son. Once she can't control her, she will go crazy."
"Indeed, it has nothing to do with whether the daughter-in-law is good or not. She just wants to live her whole life with her son."
It's terrible.
"If it were my son, I'd be afraid that my son wouldn't be worthy of such a good girlfriend, so let's have fun secretly."
"Really, if my son can find such an excellent girlfriend in the future, I will provide my daughter-in-law with him."
"If you can't handle such an outstanding girl, your whole family will be unlucky."
. . . . .
The aunt was silent for a while and said: "Actually, I have realized my problem. I have been controlling myself and not calling my son recently.
I just want to ask, you just said you can call me once a week, so on Thursday, the little girl went to Hangzhou, and my son never called me,
On Friday, he became a full-time student and had no time to defend.
I want to know at this time, for example, it’s Monday today, can I call him a week like you said?
Or should I say that I have been waiting for my son to call me and I will contact him again. ”
Lin Feng knocked on the small blackboard: "I've been talking for a long time, but it's all in vain? You didn't understand at all?
You mother seems to put all your energy into your son. This is too scary for you.
What the hell is it that I didn’t fight on Thursday, I wanted to fight on Friday but didn’t dare to fight, and I held back for another day on Saturday,
You remember the date so clearly, what do you want to do?
Little girls are not as clingy as you when it comes to love.
I'm older than you, I'll tell you again,
A boy must be mentally disconnected from his mother,
Not to be mentally controlled by mother,
Only when a child flies out alone can he become a real man. ”
. . . . .
On the barrage.
Xiao Wan: "This mother seems to have lost her love (covering her face and laughing)."
Yaoyao: "That's a very correct summary. I didn't take a fight on Thursday, I didn't take a fight on Friday, and I just waited all day on Saturday. I'm just counting the days (I'm convinced)."
July: "It's obvious that we have only been in love for a few days."
Little Cake: “I couldn’t agree more.”
Xinxin: “I don’t even fight so hard when I’m in love (picking my nose).”
Tongtong’s mother: “I’m just lost in love.”
How terrible!
Attached
[Military Advisor’s Comments: The most suffocating thing about a native family is not that your parents blindly suppress you,
But while they suffocate you, they also make you feel that they really love you in their hearts.
At this time,
You will feel a strong sense of guilt in your heart.
This feeling is like a soaked cotton jacket,
Take off the cold,
Wear it to be colder. . 】
(End of chapter)