Chapter 230 When people reach middle age, life is no longer about galloping, but about climbing mountains with heavy loads
The aunt was silent for a while: "Then what should I do? Military advisor, please teach me."
Lin Feng smiled and said: "Although I know you won't change, since you asked, I will tell you,
Go ahead and do whatever you just did,
Go square dancing,
Go and style your hair,
Find something else to do,
Take your eyes off your son.
Stop counting the days,
There was no fight on Thursday and no fight on Sunday.
Your son is now an independent adult.
You like to take care of others so much, so take more care of yourself in the future.
Why can't you have a nice beauty, a nice hair, and make a date with your best friend?
The most important thing is to go to bed early at night and turn off the lights at 10:00. Do you understand?
Which old lady stays up late like you?
Why is your body so good?
It's almost two o'clock in the evening and I'm awake, wondering how to control my son.
Do you think you are free? ”
Auntie: "Okay, I will reflect on it myself."
Don't think about it anymore.
It’s almost dawn when I think about it again.
"Go to bed quickly."
"Oh."
. . . . .
On the barrage.
"She can make me stand upside down to wash my hair (smile)."
"Since she took the initiative to ask questions, I think she should be somewhat aware of her own problems."
"But I think she just wanted others to condemn her son."
"Yes, she asked the question because she wanted to hear the military advisor praise her for doing something right. A strong person will not think that there is something wrong with him. She will find reasons for herself in every possible way."
"Really, my mother studies yoga every day, but her temper is still as bad as ever, and she doesn't know what to meditate on."
"Some people feel that they are wrong, but are unwilling to let go, so they want to find someone to tell them what they want to hear."
"Is it possible that his son is about to block her and she has to face her mistakes?"
Hope so.
. . . . .
After sending his aunt off, Lin Feng shook his head and said to the live broadcast room:
"Brothers,
If your parents are also the same kind of mothers who are short-tempered and controlling, but love you very much.
So what can you do to maintain filial piety without feeling uncomfortable?
It's hard!
It's really hard.
Most mothers actually have that kind of strong love from the heart for their children, but this kind of love is actually a kind of control,
Because this kind of love makes parents feel strongly that their children must listen to me,
But when the child grows up to be an independent person, you must work hard to perform a cutting action,
You have to keep telling your parents that I have grown up,
We now have to communicate in an adult way,
If you and your parents don't reach a tacit understanding on this matter, the pain will always be there.
What your parents don't realize is that you have grown up and we have more respect for you now.
Then his love will become a mutual harm between you two.
At this moment, you cannot be filial and live yourself at the same time.
The only thing that can be done,
You just have to learn to face your parents’ disappointment.
Many times, if we don't follow our parents' plans, our parents will think that we are ignorant, disobedient, unfilial, and ungrateful.
Once we relent, we go back to being controlled.
Therefore, we must learn to face the disappointment of our parents, and we must understand that our parents' lives are their parents' lives, and they also need to experience this kind of disappointment to grow.
We can clearly show our parents that we love them, but this love must not be based on compromising all of their needs.
Just like we cannot spoil our children, we cannot spoil our parents either.
Remember that your family of origin will influence you for the rest of your life, but don't let it determine your life.
Leave,
Independent,
Go back and check it out occasionally.
These are the last three suggestions given to you by the military advisor.
Okay,
Brothers, that’s it for today’s live broadcast.
See you tomorrow!
After exiting the live broadcast room, Lin Feng stretched out on his chair and let out a long breath.
This stuff consumes too much energy and emotions.
"I've said so much again, let's drink some water!"
Yu Huanshui handed over a cup of hot tea.
Lin Feng shook his head: "I won't drink anymore, because I'm afraid I won't be able to sleep at night."
Yu Huanshui nodded, then looked at Lin Feng and said seriously: "I have decided, I am willing to be your assistant."
Lin Feng stood up and patted his shoulder with a smile: "Okay, you have worked hard today. Go back to bed and we will talk about the rest tomorrow."
"Okay, you go to bed early too."
After watching Yu Huanshui go out, Lin Feng hurriedly washed up and dove into bed.
Then she had a strange dream,
Returning to childhood in my dream,
The picture is as clear as memory.
Old Road,
Old house,
Laoshuigou,
Old fields,
There is also a creek.
Occasionally, there were a few barking dogs and roosters crowing on the road in the yard.
The cows raised by the grandfather next door made the bells on my neck ring crisply.
At this moment, my father was holding a big broom and sweeping away the fallen leaves and dust in the yard.
My mother was cooking a particularly fragrant meal in the kitchen, and the aroma from the pot floated in through the window.
Their parents made breakfast. After eating, they picked up their hoes and went to the fields to hoe.
There is still water from the well and ice-cold watermelons in the yard.
Xiao Linfeng woke up from his sleep,
Sleepy-eyed,
As cheerful as a little animal, you ran out and told them that you had a long, long dream.
At that time, he discovered that his parents still looked like they were when they were young, without the white hair on their temples that had been stained by years, and everything was the same as before.
Later the scene changed,
Xiao Linfeng has grown up a bit.
It was the summer vacation of the third grade,
Xiao Linfeng is sitting at the table doing his summer homework, and the courtyard in his dream is still real,
The family dog is sleeping in a corner of the yard,
Xiao Linfeng looked out the window through the curtains, imagining the days when he would grow up and not have to do homework,
While doing my homework, I sucked on the bean paste popsicle,
The droplets of water from the popsicle wet the homework book,
The mother walked in and found that she was laughing, cursing and blaming herself. . .
Later, when he was in junior high school, his father bought him his first bicycle.
It was one afternoon in middle school. The classmates in the aisle were having a fight. Xiao Linfeng, who was shining in the sun, couldn't see clearly.
After school, Xiao Lin Fengdu and his friends in the village played and rode bicycles on the way to school.
My parents have already prepared dinner at home.
I don’t know who said something in the dream: ride slower, the world I grew up in is not a happy one. . .
Later, Xiao Linfeng woke up from the high school classroom table,
The table is filled with various exercise books and simulation questions,
The wind blew the classroom curtains, the setting sun shone crookedly in, and Jacky Cheung's tape was secretly playing on the walkman. . .
Then came college, work, marriage, and having children. . .
This dream is very long,
There are real memories of the past, and there are also futures that I imagined when I was young.
The scenes in the dream keep changing, and so do the people,
What hasn’t changed is that my parents are always by my side. . .
When I opened my eyes again, the sunlight outside the window was already shining in.
Lin Feng rubbed his hair and slowly sat up from the bed.
Recalling the scene in his dream, Lin Feng suddenly thought about the last two wheats connected last night.
The father of a daughter and the mother of a son.
Are you being too harsh in what you say?
A mother may be strong, weak, or unreasonable. . .
But no matter how long you have been together, it is normal for him to not understand you,
Because he has lived in his own circle his whole life, he has never had the opportunity to see the world you have seen, let alone experience the life you have experienced.
You dislike your mother's nagging, but you don't remember that he was once a girl who looked yellow in the mirror.
So while we demand independence of personality, can we also be a little more patient with our mothers?
A father may be ordinary, reticent, or unkind. . .
That's because when he opened his eyes, he was surrounded by people who relied on him, but there was no one he could rely on.
You hate your father's mediocrity, but you don't know that he was once a young man with a dream.
So when we ask our father to be strong, can we also care more about our father? . After thinking for a moment, Lin Feng felt a little regretful about the last two Mai last night, and felt a little guilty in his heart.
. . . .
Get up and wash up, it's almost noon.
When we arrived at Yu Huanshui's house, this guy was coming back from outside.
Lin Feng was stunned: "Getting up so early?"
Yu Huanshui smiled and said: "Go out and do something."
Lin Feng nodded, "Let's go, go out to eat today, don't cook."
"Okay!"
. . . . .
Boom boom boom~
Driving a Porsche, Yu Huanshui also experienced the thrill of blowing up the street.
This is called male romance.
Attention,
It’s not the street that I’m blowing up,
It’s your heart that’s going to explode!
"Okay, Brother Shui, it's almost done. Let's find a place to eat."
"What do you want to eat?"
"I can do it, you decide."
“There is a Sichuan restaurant that cooks very authentic Sichuan food. Why don’t you try it?”
"Yes!"
"Let's go!"
. . . . . .
Twenty minutes later, the two sat down in a private room of the restaurant.
Yu Huanshui: "Boss, try their Kung Pao Chicken, their signature dish."
Lin Feng took a bite, it was indeed good.
"But can you please change your title? I feel uncomfortable when the boss calls me every time."
Yu Huanshui shook his head with a firm look on his face.
Got it,
Whatever you want.
"But Brother Shui is in a good mood today!"
Yu Huanshui said with a smile: "It's not thanks to the boss that I go to the company at ten o'clock in the morning,
The manager just glared at me, and I slapped my resignation report directly in his face,
Shout loudly,
I'm not going to fucking do this anymore! !
At that time, everyone in the company was stupid.
Ha ha ha ha. .
Damn,
What a pleasure! ”
Lin Feng was stunned.
It turned out that this guy had gone to the company to resign early.
I was also amused.
"You won't do this to me in the future, right?"
Yu Huanshui's smile faltered and he quickly assured: "Impossible, absolutely impossible. Don't worry, boss, I will follow you wholeheartedly from now on."
"I'm just teasing you."
Lin Feng picked up the tea cup.
"There will be a live broadcast tonight, so let's have tea instead of wine to celebrate our future revolutionary friendship."
"Okay, here's to the revolutionary friendship in the future."
Finish the cup of tea.
Yu Huanshui asked curiously: "Boss, why do you want to do a live broadcast?"
Lin Feng took a bite of the dish and said, "What else can I do for a living?"
Yu Huanshui curled his lips, obviously not believing it.
With a wave of his hand, he is the owner of 7 million. How can he be short of this little money?
From Yu Huanshui's perspective, Lin Feng is a person with great feelings and love.
With the other person's good looks and wealth, he can definitely become a dandy who plays songs every night.
But he does charity and public welfare, and broadcasts live broadcasts to help people solve their doubts.
This is completely unlike what a rich second generation should look like.
Lin Feng: "Stop guessing about me, tell me about you."
Yu Huanshui: "What did you say about me?"
Lin Feng: "The work problem is solved, what about the others?"
Yu Huanshui smiled bitterly: "What else is there? My brothers stabbed me in the back, my wife put a hat on me, and the child is not my own.
The mother who loves me the most passed away many years ago, and the only person who still has some connection with me is my father.
And this daddy wants to suck my blood all the time. "
Speaking of this, Lin Feng raised his head and looked at Lin Feng.
"Boss,
I thank you,
Really, from the heart,
Not because of the 500,000 you gave me, but because of the live broadcast last night,
You let me know the pain of my original family.
Let him know the source of his breakdown in many cases.
I have to make a break!
From now on, I will not live for others, but only for myself. ”
Speaking of which, the pent-up emotions exploded.
Yu Huanshui burst into tears.
Why!
Why is it so difficult!
I have tried very hard to do everything well.
In the end, they all turned away from me.
Real boss,
I won’t lie to you,
If you hadn't helped me when I was at my most difficult, I might have been in the morgue of the hospital right now.
I'm thinking
Will even one person shed tears for me?
I can't fucking figure it out! ! ”
Lin Feng stood up and patted Yu Huanshui on the shoulder.
“Cry if you want to.
There is no man these days who doesn't cry or break down.
What do you think our men’s happiness index is?
To put it bluntly,
There are only three things: wife and children on the hot bed.
But if you want to have a wife and children, how many fucking things do you have to own?
First you have to have time, then you have to have a career, and most importantly you have to have fucking money.
In addition, you need to have a circle of particularly awesome friends around you.
Then when facing your parents, make sure that your parents don't look for trouble with you or your wife.
When facing your wife, make sure that your wife does not seek trouble with you or your parents.
When dealing with children, make sure that the children do not find trouble with the teacher or other students.
Also, when faced with comparisons and complaints from mother-in-law and father-in-law, you should not be shy.
In addition to these, men also have to face their own careers and their own social relationships,
Also think about how I can improve myself.
This society puts too many things on men.
You said there is no quiet time in this world, only the damn years make people grow old.
You said that when we men open our eyes every day, we are surrounded by people who rely on us, but there is no one we can rely on,
The elders above must be filial, the juniors below must be educated,
The family's expenses all depend on the money earned by the man alone.
After all,
It's because the people around you don't know how much firepower there is. They are all making demands and asking for things from men.
Everyone only cares about how much he earns, but no one cares about whether he is tired or not.
Do you think we men are really afraid of a hard life?
Are you really afraid of being tired from work?
No!
What are we afraid of?
What I'm afraid of is that after I give everything I have, no one will understand.
So,
If a man is forced to die today, his parents will account for 50% and his wife will account for 30%.
The reality is so cruel. ”
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[Commentary from the military advisor: Men after middle age often feel lonely.
Because when he opened his eyes, he was surrounded by people who relied on him, but there was no one he could rely on.
But what can be done?
I can only take out my heart in the dead of night, mend it myself, and then sleep.
Wake up the next day, do whatever you need to do, and move on despite the collapse. . . 】
(End of chapter)