Chapter 238 The boat has passed the Ten Thousand Mountains! !
Lin Feng:
“I saw many brothers asking on the barrage, how to win back your ex?
You guys,
If you don’t cherish your time together,
After losing it, I started frantically looking for replacement again.
Let me tell you,
In reality, 80% of breakups are irreversible. If your partner likes someone else, it is 100% irreversible.
If you still want to lose your dignity by writing essays or crying and begging, then I advise you to give up, it is even more impossible.
Remember,
If you can't forget her, you have to endure it. If you feel uncomfortable, you have to endure it. You can cry, but there is no shame in it.
If you want to return to a lost relationship, at least one party needs to make changes, that is, the one who suffers will change.
And the iron-clad law in this world is that you can never change others.
If you want to change others, you have to change yourself, change yourself, and focus on yourself. ”
. . . . .
On the barrage.
"I was seamlessly connected, and I couldn't figure it out (crying to death)."
"Like you, we were very much in love together. Just a few days after we broke up, she was with someone else. It was so fast. I felt like I no longer recognized her. How could this happen?"
"As time went by, I figured it out."
"Keep some dignity for yourself."
"She didn't fall in love with anyone else, it's just that her parents didn't agree."
"My love is still not firm."
"Brother, is it possible that the woman's husband doesn't agree? (dog head)"
You,
Hahahahaha.
. . . . . . .
Lin Feng:
"And can you really make a change?
Brothers,
Regarding this question, you must first clarify one thing: regaining your ex is completely different from pursuing a new goal.
I really want to compare,
It is more difficult to win back your ex than to pursue a girl again.
Why?
Because you already have a certain understanding with your ex.
What kind of person are you?
What are your shortcomings?
Your ex knows all about it.
So at this time, if you show your perfect side, the other party will not believe it.
They will think that you are just pretending and that you will never change.
I feel that if I get back together with you, you will still be the same as before and make the same mistakes again.
If brothers really feel that the other person is a good girl, it was you who failed her in your last relationship.
Then you want to save it at this time.
You must pay attention when changing yourself and showing yourself.
First, don’t deceive yourself
We just broke up a few days ago. What did you say? I have really changed. I am different from before.
Stop talking about her,
Ask yourself this, do you believe it?
Who can make such earth-shaking changes in such a short period of time?
Impossible brothers.
I believe you realize the importance of change, but there is really much more you need to do.
Second, when you are in the process of change, you can lay the groundwork as you go. Don’t think about showing the results to the other party all at once. This is not realistic at all.
But in this process, you can present some small progress you make so that the other party can see it.
You let him discover that you are determined to change and that you have signs of change.
This will greatly increase your ex's willingness to observe you and increase your chance of getting back together.
Third, don’t be too glassy,
Because everything you do may be denied by your ex,
But you don’t have to be afraid,
As long as you insist on doing the right thing, the other party will see it,
It's just that when you were together, people had given you countless opportunities, but you didn't cherish them.
In other words, you were just good for three or five days, and you did it again.
You are like the boy who cried wolf again.
So despite your current change, your ex still denies you with suspicion, which is normal.
You just have to keep doing your thing.
Finally, don’t be impatient.
It means that when your ex shows signs of looking back, you are anxious to get back together,
If you propose reconciliation at this time, there is a high probability that you will be rejected.
And even if the other party agrees.
Are you really ready?
After three or five days together, your true colors will be revealed, and then you will really have no chance at all.
So you need to build your relationship to the level of good friends first, then reduce the frequency of taking the initiative and wait for her to come to you,
Then, you just need to respond enthusiastically,
But after replying, if she doesn't come to you, you shouldn't go to her either.
In this way, the other party will feel that as long as I look for you every time, I can at least get an equal amount of emotional value,
Reject invalid chat,
At the same time, your social circle has to be constantly displayed.
Show yourself a new look and a new life.
So I tell the dog lickers, when is the most attractive time for a licking dog?
That must be when you don't lick. ”
. . . . .
On the barrage.
"The licking dog provides emotional value, and the licked one relies on the emotional value. The licking dog accepts it as soon as it wants, leaving the licked dog worrying about gain and loss (dog head)."
"I know why I am happy, because I always half-lick (sunglasses)."
"When you don't want to lick and turn around, you can instantly go from low to high and make the other person suffer."
"Hahaha, indeed, the initiative lies with you."
"A sober licker is not a licker. He is a provider of emotional value, a controller of emotions, and a wise man who can get love at the lowest cost."
Licking the door forever! !
. . . . .
"Anchor, please introduce yourself."
There are many similar barrages.
Lin Feng smiled and said: "There are many new friends here today, and they may not know me very well,
That's OK,
Let me introduce myself. ”
Lin Feng cleared his throat and prepared to speak,
Suddenly paused,
He looked down at the computer desk drawer.
Then he took out a yellowed notebook.
This was discovered by Lin Feng after traveling for a week.
It records the original owner’s five years of live streaming experience.
Shaking the notebook in his hand, Lin Feng smiled and said to the live broadcast room:
"Everyone, please ignore that the notebook I am using is called postpartum care for sows,
Because there is really no other book,
But it also brings together my journey along the way and what I want to say to everyone.
2016,
I am a sophomore in college,
That year, Alipay was on the Spring Festival Gala, people across the country collected five blessings, Trump became the president of the United States, and Wang Jianlin set a small goal of 100 million.
DiCaprio finally realized his dream and won an Oscar. Of course, this year also happened a node that changed the destiny of my life. The mobile live broadcast industry exploded, and more than 200 mobile live broadcast apps were launched overnight.
My family is not rich, and my parents sent me to university with their hard work.
I am studying broadcasting and hosting at Dongshan Art College.
At that time, I thought my future would be in a studio full of spotlights, cameras, and teleprompters.
The future must also be about suits and leather shoes, with bright lights.
On March 24th, my fellow student shared his live broadcast link in Moments,
Out of curiosity, I clicked into the live broadcast room and downloaded the AP that started my live broadcast journey the earliest,
Maybe it was luck, but a lot of people entered my first live broadcast. They asked about my age, my school, my major, and everything about me.
I pretended to be joking and responded to every comment seriously.
I am 18 years old this year, I major in loudspeaker broadcasting from Cuntou, I am your sweetheart and so on.
It seems that behind every ID there is a vivid face, which fascinates me in front of me.
I enjoy this feeling of being surrounded by people. Maybe I was born to do live broadcasts,
My first live broadcast income was 80 yuan.
At that time, I was thinking, if I earn 80 a day, I would earn 2,400 a month, and I wouldn’t have to ask my parents for living expenses.
My family's financial situation was not particularly good at that time. My parents opened a steamed bun shop next to the garbage recycling station.
Because the rent was cheap, my father’s feet would get a lot of cracks every winter, and so would his hands.
Because my mother stayed up late all year long to work, she could fall asleep while riding a tricycle while delivering steamed buns.
But none of this can stop them from doting on me,
I have a low self-esteem and a very sensitive character, so I started the live broadcast again the next day, and I couldn’t control it from then on.
Maybe I caught the trend, I felt like a fish in water, and my income also increased.
Half a year later, I gave 100,000 yuan to my family. My mother was frightened and forced me to surrender.
At that time, no one knew that I was doing live broadcasts. After several live broadcasts, I gradually felt that live broadcasts and my major had a lot in common.
So I put what I learned from school into practice in my live broadcast.
I come from a major, and the art of language sets me apart from other anchors.
From being a chat anchor in the early days, to visiting outdoor stores, taking risks, and even playing games with Mai,
During this time, I began to crazily absorb everything on TV and the Internet that could be used in the live broadcast room,
I began to analyze the audience, start planning content, and start precise positioning. I was immersed in the joy of live broadcast, which made my life in the next two years of college extremely fulfilling.
I participated in many competitions and won many awards, and everything went smoothly.
It's luck and hard work.
Two years later, my live streaming reached its peak, and I topped the platform in terms of both popularity and income.
Slowly, I was overwhelmed by applause, surrounded by flowers, and confused by the income.
With the popularity of the live broadcast industry, all kinds of people have started live broadcast,
Everyone made crazy complaints about online anchors, and I also had many labels on me, such as Internet beggar, pretty boy, etc.
After graduation, all my classmates entered the radio station, and my parents asked me to go home and take the civil service exam.
The live streaming industry is not a particularly popular job at the moment, but these doubts did not make me give up.
What really made me give up was exhaustion, the fact that my real life was a mess.
I had no friends, no life, no holidays, and my parents left me forever in a car accident two months later.
I was devastated and quit the Internet for three months.
When I came back, everything had changed.
Because fans change so quickly.
At that time, I was worried about gains and losses. I became afraid of losing and felt that all the flowers and applause were virtual, but there was nothing I could do.
I faced new faces one after another, gradually becoming familiar with me, and then suddenly disappearing.
I still have to put away all my emotions and perform a funny performance the moment I turn on the live broadcast,
Because I know deep down that I want to continue to please my new fans.
From this moment on, I was cast in the seeds of retreat and avoidance.
In the second half of the year, by chance, someone saw my resume and I was connected to Kyoto.
Two months later, I appeared on television as an entertainer.
I have released a single, guest-starred in movies and TV series, appeared in variety shows, and been on Weibo’s hot searches twice.
I got to know the most popular female host at the time, Cai Moukun, who was a mess in the idol practice of making fire in the same year, and many actors and actresses.
After the show aired, I started frantically searching for my name and my fans in the comments,
Although there are only a few,
When I was recording the show that day, the director asked me to start the live broadcast,
I searched frantically for my fans through the barrage, but no one knew me before the show was broadcast,
The director team doesn’t know me, the camera crew doesn’t know me, and all the artists don’t know me. Only my live fans know me,
They regard me as the brightest heart.
At that time, the live broadcast was still in the recording stage, and I saw someone on the public screen saying that you had lost a lot of weight,
Words that care about me,
Many are familiar with my ID,
At that moment, I burst into tears and broke into tears. No one could understand, only I understood.
They are the ones who let me know that I am also a person with fans, and they are the ones who gave me the achievements I have now.
Later, after the recording was over and the show started airing, I frantically searched for my fans through the barrage. Although there were very few of them, they were like a bright light shining brightly.
After the show was broadcast, I started my career as an artist with a heart to prove myself, but life was not smooth sailing.
Ups and downs are the real topic of growth.
My economic company is about to close down due to funding problems, and the accompanying problems are also coming one after another. My team has been disbanded on the spot, and I have no money for my labor.
In the great Kyoto where everyone is rich and wealthy, I don’t even have a place to stay.
My body changed and I became depressed.
That year I returned to my hometown, and I wanted to return to live broadcasting as before. At that time, people were out of touch, and the changes in the Internet made me plummet.
It doesn't matter, start over.
Not everyone can be the sun, so if I am a star, can I also emit faint light?
That year, the old platform contract expired, and I came to Douyin at the end of the year.
It's a pity that it has always been tepid.
The whole life anchor is my first label.
For the next two years, I did two live broadcasts every day, rain or shine.
Although I didn’t have many fans, I started to live a crazy life, I started to perform crazy, and I started to crazily learn all the ways that I wouldn’t usually have,
I started getting wildly amused.
I have a good mentality, but the limitations of entertainment anchors make me feel the gap again.
My mentality was being pushed to the ground and rubbed crazily by one outstanding anchor after another. . . ”
The note ends here.
Lin Feng closed his notebook and continued: "But it doesn't matter, I keep reflecting and polishing myself.
In June, I started to switch careers to content and started emotional counseling.
From then on, no one asked about the hard work for five years, and the whole world knew it for free.
The popularity of the live broadcast room began to gradually increase, from dozens, hundreds, thousands, 10,000, 20,000, 30,000, and now to 50,000+ today.
Some people say I am lucky,
Only I know that I am not lucky.
The popularity of Emotional Lianmai comes from my years of accumulation.
It is to make up for the regrets of the past, and to teach everyone what I did not say at the beginning,
It is the principle of getting their emotional support from their parents.
It is also a requirement for one’s own correct values.
To this day,
I want to say something to myself: The boat has passed the Ten Thousand Mountains! ! ”
(I will be very busy on a business trip this week, so the updates are unstable. Sorry, brothers, I will make it up next week)
(End of chapter)