Lin Feng: "Actually, sometimes I don't want to say such vulgar words. You see, I have been gentle and polite from the beginning to now,
You are really too protective of your piece of shit husband, that’s why I said this.
We say that only by opening the wound can the pus be drained, right?
Only by opening the wound can it heal well,
You kept wrapping it there and covering the wound. You said it was healed and it was healed.
Is it really better?
Well, you won’t come to me and ask. ”
Girl: "I didn't say reconciliation. I'm very internally conflicted right now, and I don't know what to do, so I just talked to you."
Lin Feng: "Then what else can you talk about now?
If I say something bad about your husband, you start to make up for him.
I can't say a few words here, and you just keep gilding your husband.
What the hell,
Was he sanctified in the flesh? ”
Well. . .
Lin Feng: "And sister, what happened to your husband and her when I told you just now? I almost had to write pornographic articles in front of you. How can you bear this?"
Girl: "I know they have happened, but I don't know what should I do now?"
Lin Feng: "It's very simple. As for the scenes I just mentioned, you can immerse yourself in them and think about them.
It's like you are very internally conflicted right now and you want to chat with me.
It’s very possible that your crystal husband hooked up with someone again,
That woman is lying in your husband’s arms right now,
Her eyes are charming, as soft as a bone, and as soon as she lies in your husband's arms, your husband's heart will be broken.
Smell it, wow, it smells better than my wife, is softer than my wife, and is more considerate than my wife,
I don’t want to be with that yellow-faced woman for a long time. I just love you.
Don’t you dare to think about it?
Even if you don't dare to think about it, you have to think about it. When you think about despair, you let go and let go.
Think about it more. If you think you can't bear it anymore, you will really stop. ”
. . . . .
On the barrage.
"Wow, the military advisor's mouth is full of poison."
"What a sin (laughing to death)."
"What do you know? This is called detoxification therapy (dog head)!"
"Military advisors are good at persuading people (sunglasses)."
"Xiao Huang Wen has already written about Big Brother (sunglasses)."
Ha ha ha ha.
. . . . .
Girl: "But Military Advisor, I have two children now."
Lin Feng: "Don't say that, don't say it's for the sake of the child.
I just told you Lianmai before that parents are parents and children are children,
It was obvious that I was weak and did not have the confidence and courage to leave.
Now the kids are used as an excuse.
Children need to grow up in a healthy family, not a family with unloving parents.
Anyway, I’ve told you everything that should be said and shouldn’t be said,
As for how you want to spend your life?
I don't care. ”
Girl: "Actually, I discussed it with him and he said that in the future..."
stop!
Lin Feng knocked on the blackboard and interrupted: "What is negotiation? Can you understand that this is not a matter of negotiation?
To put it another way, this is my chance to give you another chance.
Sister,
You are too humble in marriage,
Really,
I can't help you with your life. ”
Girl: "Actually, I have also thought about divorce, but my financial ability is not very strong."
Lin Feng frowned and said: "Sister, in this day and age, everyone says that you are incompetent. You earn six to seven thousand yuan a month delivering food. Don't make excuses for yourself,
Your laziness will cost you,
You expect a man to support you for a lifetime, which seems to be a right you enjoy after marriage, but in fact it is a detour.
It is better to rely on yourself than to rely on others. No one can be the life-saving straw in your life. ”
Girl: "But I haven't thought about divorce yet. I don't know if I can..."
Lin Feng: "So I say you don't deserve happiness. With your attitude, you don't deserve happiness.
What I said may be a bit cold, or a bit cold-blooded,
But sister, let me tell you that in this situation, if I don’t tell you more seriously, you won’t realize the problem at all.
You are still trying to compromise and beg this man to return to you for the sake of your family or your children,
I tell you,
impossible.
Even if he comes back to you, he will never love you.
Because you are too humble, you have no charm.
Even if he doesn't divorce you, it just means: In the future, you will be a slave in this family for at least 50 years.
You are destined to be a victim in your marriage. ”
Girl: "Hey! So love brain is really scary."
Lin Feng: "Sister, you are really not a love brain. You are simply lacking in knowledge and you are stupid.
You don't understand what a principled error is at all.
In terms of relationships, taking a step back, because I love you, I can accept some of your small faults.
But after we get back together, you have to do a lot of things to make me feel safe, and you have to respect me.
Instead of admitting perfunctorily and then doing nothing.
Sister,
You are not his slave, nor his reproductive machine,
Did your parents tell you that they wanted you to marry and suffer such a miserable life? ”
The girl was silent for a while and said: "Then I have to tell my parents about this first."
Lin Feng shook his head and sighed: "You are already an adult and a mother of two children, but your life never seems to belong to you.
I can't persuade your sister,
Many miserable marriages are like this for everyone,
Talking about divorce was too costly, talking about relationships was like a joke, and in the end everyone became a fake couple.
At the same time, they can't refuse the temptation. Everyone just wants to make ends meet for the sake of life, the opinions of their families, the opinions of relatives and friends, and because the cost of divorce is too high.
Hey, forget it,
This is your life and your destiny, you decide it yourself. ”
After Lin Feng finished speaking, he kicked the girl off the mat.
. . . . . .
On the barrage.
"I don't care about this, I'm convinced!"
"The love brain that can't be woken up."
"This is not a love brain, it is a lack of brains."
"In the words of a military advisor, if a person has no bottom line and can be forgiven anything, then everything he endures is deserved."
. . . . . .
Lin Feng took a puff of cigarette to calm down.
Then he said to the live broadcast room:
"Many people may have a doubt, life has been like this, why can't we just leave?
Every family has its own scriptures that are difficult to recite.
Some people are free and easy, and some people are relatively independent, so divorce means divorce,
But some people find it difficult to leave because of their financial capacity or attachment mentality.
The child acts as a tie-in, but the family of origin does not agree.
Under all kinds of pressure, many marriages are actually inseparable.
Why did I stop persuading her when she said she wanted to go home and ask her parents?
Because sometimes it’s not so easy to go back to your natal family.
In real life, you will find that especially after your daughter gets married, if you are an only child, your parents may still care about you. But if you have brothers and sisters, your parents will help you to make do with it.
I will tell you, oh, many men are like this. When their children are so old, they would rather tear down a temple than a marriage,
They will kick you out.
Because he will think that you are eating idle food at home,
It's okay if you stay for a day or two, but if you stay for a week or a few months, you will find that they will kick you out.
Therefore, once many women get divorced, they will have a sad situation where their husband's family has no home and their mother's family will not give it back.
So,
Brothers, you must remember,
Only when you are financially independent can your soul be strong.
This is a bloody lesson and truth! ”
. . . . .
On the barrage.
"Only economic independence" "Only in order to have a strong soul"
"A military advisor is sober in the world, knows the warmth and warmth of people, and understands the cruelty of society!"
"Really, my mother said you are already a member of this family, why did you bring your hukou back? (crying to death)"
"Even if I am financially independent, this family is no longer the same family. Back then they were trying to force me to get married, saying that if I was not happy, I would leave.
Now he is equally desperate to force him to leave. The day I really push them to death, they will be happy. (Crying)"
"My mother thinks her face is more important than my life (grin)."
"My husband's family has no home, and my mother's family won't let me go back. I really cried to death."
"Water thrown out by a married daughter (dog head)."
"Dividing family property is like throwing water away, but raising children in old age means that children are equal (sunglasses)."
reality!
. . . . . .
Lin Feng: "With this Mai, I think I have a problem that I need to talk to my brothers seriously.
Why do people make mistakes?
And make mistakes over and over again.
That's because you don't have to pay for making a mistake.
When a person has to pay the price for the mistakes he has made, he will weigh it.
What's the trade-off?
The trade-off is what will I gain by doing this? What do I have to lose?
When I lose more than I gain, I won't do it.
So I always say in the live broadcast room that when there is a principled mistake in a relationship,
The other party must know the price.
Then here,
Let me emphasize it again,
If during the relationship, the other party makes a principled mistake, then there is no need to give a chance, just pass.
Because you don't need to gamble.
Why do you want to gamble your whole life?
However, if you have already entered into marriage, you can give it a chance,
But there must be rules and regulations as a constraint.
When it comes to marriage, you have nothing to do. Everyone doesn’t want to get to the last step when they get married, right brothers?
Then you have to see if it can be repaired. If it still doesn't work, then leave.
But if you make a principled mistake during your relationship, I personally suggest breaking it off immediately
There is no need to bet on your future and tomorrow.
When you get married and have children, aren't you in it for the rest of your life?
Many people will think, why, then who doesn’t make mistakes?
Then this is the price of your mistake.
When you make a principled mistake yourself, why don't you think about the situation you may face.
So you have to bear it.
If there is no need to pay for doing wrong things, then everyone in this world can do wrong things. ”
. . . . . .
On the barrage.
"Every discovery before marriage is treated as a happy event (dog head)."
"Well, I have a happy event. Fortunately, we only lasted a few months (refill)."
"I understand too late. I am married and have a three-year-old child. I am internally consumed every night, suffering and struggling (crying to death)."
"A practical word for everyone, it is better to leave regrets in the relationship than to leave hidden dangers in the marriage."
"A wise man, wisdom (thumbs up)."
"I used to think that love was quite simple. If you like me, I like you, we'll be together. But now I find it very difficult. Everyone is weighing the pros and cons and testing each other."
Yes, it's too complicated.
. . . . . .
Lin Feng: "Some sisters always say that I actually want a divorce, but for the sake of my children, I can't bear it.
Some people say that once a child gets divorced, he or she will not have a father, and the child will not have a complete family.
For these friends,
I want to ask, what does it mean for a child to have no father?
I must correct you. A child is said to have no father only if its father dies.
You are just divorced, but the father of the child is still the father of the child. This is an unbroken blood relationship.
It’s just that the child’s father no longer lives with his mother.
Fundamentally, you have misunderstood the definition of divorce.
Divorce means that you don't have a husband, not that your children don't have a father. You must be clear about this.
If you are divorced, who stipulates that the contact time between this man and his children must be reduced?
Who stipulates that this man’s care for his children must be reduced?
On the contrary, after divorce, both parties often take more care and love for the children based on their guilt for the children.
It's just that you don't want to get divorced. Don't use your children as a shield.
What a child needs is two real parents, not a fake couple. ”
. . . . . .
On the barrage.
"Divorce is because you no longer have a husband" "It's not that the child has no father"
"Enlightenment, sudden enlightenment."
Awesome!
"Bullshit, how many families have been killed by you chicken soup for the soul? I was hesitating whether to divorce, but you said that I would definitely divorce, but do you know how traumatized the children will be after divorce?
Even if both parties love their children after the divorce, who will make up for their own harm?
No matter which house a child goes to, it is not his or her own. He feels most at home only when he goes to his grandparents' home. ”
"Instead of letting your children grow up in an unhappy family, it is better to pay more attention to them after divorce. I think my children would rather you divorce than have you nagging them in their ears every day. It's because of you that I didn't get along with your father." The psychological trauma of divorce is huge.”
"Haha, there weren't many divorced people in the past who just made do, and I didn't see any bad children. Haven't they all grown up? On the contrary, the divorce rate is so high now."
"When you say grown up, do you mean still alive? Do you really care about your child? Have you ever asked your child what he thinks? Is it possible that he also wants you to divorce?"
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"This is how I grew up. I am indifferent, selfish, and don't value family ties..."
"Poisonous chicken soup, reported."
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[Commentary from the military advisor: Unhealthy family relationships.
If the child identifies with the mother’s anger towards the father,
Then the children will try to get involved in their parents' marriage, such as hoping that their parents will divorce or helping their mother accuse their father.
But if the child sees his father again, he will also suffer,
He will feel guilty again,
You will be tortured back and forth like this.
When he grows up, he will not know how to be himself in other interpersonal relationships.
What I want to say is:
Your parents' hardship has nothing to do with you.
Your parents' suffering has nothing to do with you.
It has nothing to do with you, which means that these are not caused by you.
You don’t need to rush to solve these problems, and you don’t need to feel guilty, self-blame, or self-kidnapped for these things.
My parents had a rough and tortuous life and suffered a lot, all of which were caused by their countless choices.
Don't do it because they said: It's all for you. 】(End of this chapter)