Lin Feng: "Really brothers,
the military advisor was also framed by a villain,
and was forced to go to Liangshan helplessly.
Otherwise you think I am willing to be a teacher Are you a running dog?
Life is forcing me, brothers,
For example, when class was about to start, I crumpled up a ball of paper and threw it into the trash can at the back.
There happened to be someone sitting next to the trash can.
I didn’t even throw it to him. , just flew over his head and threw it into the trash can.
He just glared at me and said he was going to beat me. He said he was looking for his brother, and said his brother was hanging out with so and so. Now, who is the boss? Don’t leave after school.
There is no way, brother,
In those days, if you wanted to avoid being beaten, you had to be a teacher and be a bitch.
At that time, our class teacher was still the head teacher of the grade. He was very famous in our school, and the school bully would lower his head and leave when he saw it.
Don’t you all want to beat me up? Then I would run to the office after class every day and report to the head teacher in my ear.
Both of them would hate it with their teeth, but they wouldn’t. They were afraid that I would report them, so even though more people wanted to beat me up, no one really dared to do it.
Of course I will live a good life,
You can be isolated as long as you don't bully me, right?
So at that time who was in love and who was doing what, I reported it to the teacher immediately.
I was the intelligence center of our class teacher. "
...
On the barrage.
"Seeing that you are unhappy, ask my brother to beat you, and don't leave after school." They pushed him to the ground and beat him up. After school, a bunch of them blocked him in the toilet and beat him up (covering his face).”
“I was often bullied by such people in junior high school, and later on. I put a stick in my schoolbag every day (haha)"
"There were so many yellow hairs at that time, hahaha"
"It is better to be isolated than to be bullied. OK.”
"Although this is true, for children, most of them are at the time when they want to be with others, so..."
"Remember what the military counselor said, we go to school to learn knowledge, not I’m going to make friends, who will I know and fall in love with in a few years?”
“Besides, who said I was isolated?
Pointed.
“The situation is open, no more anxiety.”
. . . . . .
Lin Feng: "That's what it means, sister, do you still have any questions?"
Girl: "Military advisor, I have a soft personality, maybe because of my family, because my mother is very The strong one,
I have been working for two years, and I still have to hand over all my monthly wages to my mother.”
Lin Feng: “Does your mother give you living expenses?”
Girl: "Give me money. In fact, my mother saves our money. Part of it is used to build a house in our hometown. When we need to do something, we tell him and he will take out the other part." "
Lin Feng: "Your mother saved it for you and gave it to you when you use it. It's not like you keep it for yourself."
Girl: "But this year. I changed my job, and my salary was not as high as my previous job, and I also paid less. Her attitude was, don’t go out to work, just go home and help.
Because my family There is a small factory there and there is a shortage of people.
She asked me to go back and help, but I didn’t want to, so I didn’t know how to deal with this matter with her.”
Lin Feng shook his head and said: "This is the girl who grew up under the pressure of a strong mother. She is an adult and working, but she has no opinion in her heart.
Sister,
you have to stand up. Ah.
Your personality is not independent.”
Girl: “But. I don’t like to argue with her since I was a child.”
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Lin Feng rolled his eyes: "Why did you quarrel with your mother? I asked you to express your thoughts bravely.
How simple a question like this is,
If you don't want to go back, just do it He said to his mother:
I am working outside, and although it is harder, I can at least get some salary a month.
If I can help at home, can my mother get a salary? br>
If Mom says she can get a salary, and the salary is relatively high, then it doesn't hurt to go back.
If my mother doesn’t pay her salary and the money has to be handed over to her every month, that’s not okay.
Why not?
I’m not asking you to argue with her.
Just say that I can't put a burden on the family, and I don't want you to have to work so hard, right?
The family is obviously not doing very well, and I think you are quite tired, Mom. I want to help share a little bit of the burden at home.
Isn’t it beautiful to say this?
I expressed your thoughts without contradicting my mother, right? "
Girl: "But we have no way to communicate now. Her attitude is very tough. I feel like if she is not satisfied even a little bit, she will be very fierce and scold her very fiercely. , and the whole person's mood is very unstable. ”
Your mother is sick, sister.
Lin Feng knocked on the small blackboard and said: "Come on, sister, I usually don't teach you this trick as a military counselor. Seeing that you are also destined, I will leave it to you today.
Remember, her instability is her fault.
She is unstable, just be stable.
If she scolds you, cry.
Cry and blame yourself: Mom, I didn’t do it. Yes, it’s because I didn’t make enough money outside and didn’t share it with you.
Mom, I know you are very tired, I am so useless.
Hey,
Old sister,
just cry and that’s it.
Mom, I know it’s hard for you. You raised me so much, but I didn’t contribute much to the family.
Do you understand or not? Just cry.
Take this opportunity and dump all the rubbish from work outside to her.
Mom, there are a bunch of idiots in my workplace who isolate me every day and say bad things about me behind my back.
Mom, I feel so useless, and I don’t get along well in interpersonal relationships.
As time passes,
If you believe me, she won't call you.
Why?
Because I can’t call you back anyway, so just tell me a few words and you’ll cry. After you finish crying, you can take out the garbage from your work.
I’m tired of living with that damn dad of yours every day, and I have to listen to you cry and complain. She can’t stand it.
Sister,
Do you know what this is called?
This is the emotional trash can in the emotional world.
Now if you apply it to your relationship with your mother, you will treat her as your trash can. As long as she is unstable, you will cry and you will take out the trash.
Mom, I was scolded by my boss again today. He called me a pig. "
Girl: "But I feel like if I say this, my mother will ask me to go back. ”
You thing,
you must not understand!
Lin Feng knocked on the blackboard: "Come on, sister, let me give you an example. Do you have a friend around you who likes to complain to you?
For example, you quarrel with your boyfriend every day. , Or complaining about the company leaders every day?
Of course.
In reality, there are too many such people.
When he complains to you at the beginning, we must be thinking of Buddha, giving you all kinds of comfort and persuasion, and all kinds of help to find solutions.
But you will find that there is a kind of person who is just complaining, complaining for the sake of complaining, and no matter what method you say, others will not listen or refer to it at all.
What is this called?
This means that people regard you as an emotional trash can.
After a long time, do you still listen to him?
Listen to this.
If you see one on your walk, take a detour.
Put it on your mother, isn’t your mother unstable?
Don’t you think you earn less?
When she scolds you, you cry.
Just blame yourself, mom, I’m useless, I deserve to die, I can’t make money, I can’t help mom share the pressure, woo woo.
Your mother will be absolutely stunned when she hears this.
Originally, there were a lot of things I wanted to scold you for, but in the end, you scolded yourself first.
She was like punching cotton.
I even want to comfort you.
At this time, you take the opportunity to complain to her about your troubles at work. You say this colleague isolates me, that colleague isolates me, and the boss doesn’t like me either.
They all said I was stupid.
Your mother will definitely comfort you at this time. If your daughter doesn’t cry, my daughter is the best and the best. If you are not happy outside, just go home and my mother will support you.
Remember,
Our main theme is to stick to criticism but never change.
The more your mother comforts you, the more you cry, and the more you say that you are useless and will not go back.
I sighed when I couldn’t cry, and it made me feel uncomfortable, annoyed, and painful, and I couldn’t sleep.
The one who is suffering at this time is your mother.
She will think that you don’t listen to what I tell you, and you don’t come back even when I tell you, so you look like you are useless,
As time passed, she couldn't stand it anymore.
Can you understand? "
...
On the barrage.
"I told you but I didn’t listen" "I called you and you didn’t come back" "You just didn’t hit the mark. It looks like it’s dead”
"Summary: Treat your mother as a trash can (dog head)."
Hahahaha.
“There are so many strange ways in this smart guy’s head (laughing to death).
“He is so smart, I have never seen such a smart person before (haha). "
"There is nothing that a military advisor does not know, and he can give a solution to everything. ”
"As soon as he rolled his eyes, I felt like he was holding back his ultimate move (sunglasses)."
Hahahahaha.
. . . . . .
Girl: "But I feel like these things are not very useful just to put them on her."
Fuck you. .
Lin Feng: "You feel useless. If you feel useful, you won't be isolated when you go to school, and you won't be tied up by your family when you go out to work."
The girl suddenly fell silent.
Lin Feng said slowly: "But there is one thing worth encouraging. You have learned the essence."
? ? ?
The girl looked confused.
Lin Feng smiled and said: "You didn't sleep at night, and you came up to complain to me. I said a lot, but you said these words that are useless to my mother.
Sister,
You have achieved enlightenment.”
Uh. .
Lin Feng: "Remember, what I teach you is evil magic, which can wear away a person's character."
Girl: "Then what if she said harsh words to me and told me not to come back for the rest of my life?"
Lin Feng: "Same sister, no matter what your mother says, you always look useless. .
If she doesn’t let you go back, you cry: Mom, no, what if you abandon me? I have no friends outside.
Woohoo, I'm so pitiful.
Mom, don’t abandon me, wuwu.
What is this called?
In ancient times, it was called doing the opposite.
Now that’s called reverse pua! ”
Well. .
. . . . . .
On the barrage.
"Go in the opposite direction" = "Reverse pua"
"The road is simple, hahaha."
"I have used this trick before. I treated my mother like a trash can. My mother collapsed at that time and suffered from insomnia for several days. In the end, she ignored me when she went on vacation (face covering)."
"I didn't understand before, but now that my mother is looking for me, I complain about everything and everyone around me. She is even afraid of me (hahaha)."
"Oh shit, I really understand. Just use magic to defeat magic. If he complains to you, if he tells you that life is miserable, you will say that your life is more miserable, and that you are worse, and we will compete with each other to see whose life is more miserable."
“It turns out that I have been doing reverse PUA, and I didn’t even know it (laughing to death).”
“I really admire the wisdom of the military advisor.”
. . . . . . .
Lin Feng: "Sister, please remember, there is no way that your mother will not let you go home.
Putting aside the relationship between flesh and blood, let’s talk about reality.
As long as you do well outside and have your own money, then you are valuable.
No one will resist a daughter with money and status coming home.
Moreover, your mother is interested in your money, and you know this better than anyone else. "
The girl nodded: "Yes. "
Lin Feng: "So remember, no matter what she says to you, you will cry because I am useless and I can't help my mother.
I just can’t stand up, I just can’t support Adou.
Let me tell you, this is wearing down her Taoist heart.
What I teach you today are all evil arts, and they are all things that have immediate results.
You must think it through.
Because you have a soft temper, you have been isolated since you were a child, and you were imprisoned when you grew up. If I don't care about you, your future fate may be very miserable.
So I will make an exception and teach you sorcery.
Can you understand?
If you can't teach this, no one can save you. "
Girl: "I understand the military advisor. I just recorded the screen. I will watch it over and over again and learn over and over again." "
"Okay, let's go down. ”
The microphone was turned off,
Lin Feng said to the live broadcast room:
"Brothers, remember,
The best response to refusing to consume is to consume the other person.
When you encounter strong parents.
We are the ones who don't live up to expectations anyway. It looks like
I can’t even stand up,
I can’t help him up either.
You scold me and I cry.
Just keep denying yourself.
In fact, many strong parents in life have one behavior, which is to use their children as an outlet for their emotions.
In fact, they don’t need any advice from their children, because as parents, they generally don’t think their children’s advice is right,
I just treat you as a trash can and want to complain.
Now that you have finished complaining, you will feel better and I will feel uncomfortable. My life and work mood will not be good.
What to do?
Very simple.
You treat me as an emotional trash can, and I treat you as an emotional trash can.
Let’s see who can consume more than whom. "
...
On the barrage.
"The best way to respond to consumption is to consume others"
"Reject the spirit Internal friction, if something happens, you will go crazy (dog head). ”
Ha ha ha ha.
"I understand, but I may not be able to do it when facing my family."
"It means I am not forcing myself to do anything, but I still want to save face. I am different now, Borrow money to get married, borrow money to have a baby, and no one will ask for it immediately. Some people will just cry and complain, and then borrow money (dog head)."
High!
“I used your tricks to the extreme, and they all said I was crazy (sunglasses).”
"No matter what they say, just cry and that's it (raise eyebrows)."
Hahahahaha. (End of this chapter)