Chapter 138 The ceiling of human love
Lin Feng: "Sister, have you ever noticed that you are always particularly insecure in the emotional world?
Then you will pay too much attention to the other person's actions,
And you will often doubt your own worth and your partner's motives,
At the same time, you will be a little less confident,
There is always a feeling that you can't do anything well, and the other person is your salvation in life and can help you accomplish many things,
Another thing, do you often have some possessiveness and inexplicable desire to control?
I often get angry and quarrel with each other over little things. ”
Girl: "Yes, I can."
Lin Feng: "Here, let me ask again, when you get along with the other person, will you become addicted to intimate contact?
For example, you will regard the other person's holding your hand, hugging you, and other intimate behaviors as a sign that you care about her and love you.
The more of this proactive intimacy he gives you, the more at ease you will feel. ”
Girl: "Yes, I do."
. . . . .
On the barrage.
It's over.
I ate a melon in the middle of the night and was diagnosed.
"Don't mention me in every sentence, but talk about me in every sentence."
"Just like that, I was diagnosed in Douyin."
"Hahahaha, I am the same."
"It turned out to be anxious attachment. I thought I was cheap (laughing and crying)."
"Actually, it means the same thing (dog head)."
Damn it!
Ruthless~
Hahahahaha.
. . . . . .
Lin Feng: "Miss, these are typical attachment-type anxiety traits. You are not confident about yourself,
And now the other party has obviously cooled down your emotions. It's very simple, the other party is tired of playing with you. ”
Girl: "Ah? Is he tired of it?"
Lin Feng: "Sister, with your personality, you regard the other person as the whole world in your relationship. This kind of thinking is extremely easy to make others feel bored.
Because you give too much and you devote all of yourself to the other person, it will make the other person feel like they are eating nothing.
But because of your good appearance and personal aura as a painter, you have the ability to attract others in the early stage.
But once you fall in love, you will immediately enter the anxious attachment personality, and it is very strong,
With a personality like yours, every relationship will not go smoothly. ”
. . . . .
On the barrage.
"I have an anxious attachment personality, and then I fell in love with an avoidant attachment personality, and I almost killed myself."
"The avoidant tells you that you will drive him crazy too."
"Yes, both of them went crazy in the end."
"Why do avoidant types go crazy? Isn't avoidant type cold violence?"
"Because the anxious type is the ultimate hot violence, the collision of hot and cold will drive anyone crazy."
Hahahahahahahahaha crazy.
What a mess this world is!
. . . . .
Lin Feng: "I would also like to refer to your family of origin here. Is the love your parents give you stable? What is your family atmosphere like?"
The girl was silent for a moment and said: "I come from a divorced family and I started working very early."
Lin Feng sighed softly: "So we say that the formation of anxious attachment personality is most likely caused by the insufficient care and instability of one's native family.
Love comes and goes, which can cause one to feel anxious and attached. ”
. . . . .
On the barrage.
"I was raised by my mother since I was a child. My father is missing. I am very anxious. Once the other party does not reply to my messages or responds more slowly or becomes more indifferent, my sky will fall. It's really a disaster. It was a hearty performance.”
"Really empathized."
"Anxious attachment forces the person who loves you away, which is called cheating (laughing to death)." "No, the sense of security of anxious attachment is a bottomless pit. He is so crazy that he must control everything about the other person to confirm that someone really loves him."< br>
"At the same time, they clearly lack love, but they are willing to give their sincerity first, and are 100% sincere. Although their behavior may be a bit crazy, in this era of fast food love, aren't such people worthy of being cherished?"
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"Oh my god, I almost cried when I said it."
. . . . . .
Lin Feng: "Miss, you have to pay attention to your own personal character cultivation. Only in this way can you ensure that you can be comfortable in every subsequent relationship,
Otherwise, it will still be easy for you to become attached again and entrust yourself to the other person,
This means you give the other party the right to stab you.
This is also the reason why you have an inexplicable ambiguity with someone who is 30 years older than you.
Because you are missing inside.
You have to get busy!
You are only in your 20s, and your painting life has just begun. ”
Girl: "Can we still reconcile?"
Lin Feng: "I can only say that if your next focus is still on the other person, you will not be cherished,
And I’m tired of you now,
If the other party meets a new person at this time, you will definitely be released. ”
Girl: “If I say I’m tired of it, is there any help?”
Lin Feng: "A person who is tired of someone will only regain his attraction to you if you leave first.
My advice to you is to travel more, collect more scenery, and paint more. ”
Girl: "But I like that kind of one-on-one love. I am only good to you, and you are only good to me. A very devoted love."
Lin Feng: "Sister, to put it nicely, you love passionately, but to put it harshly, this is a deformed love that satisfies self-security."
"Yes, maybe you love sincerely, but don't forget that falling in love is an experience between two people. It's not enough for you to be passionate.
Also see if the other person can accept your kind of love.
If he can't accept it, then from his perspective, it's not love, it's a shackles, a bondage.
So I often tell my brothers,
It is not enough for us to just love someone, we must first find the right person.
If he is right.
He will definitely understand your love, but also your anxiety and sadness. ”
. . . . .
On the barrage.
"He will definitely understand your love" "He will understand your anxiety and sadness better"
"Oh my God, I really want to cry."
"What the military advisor said is great."
"I'm a boy, and I really don't want to be anxious anymore (crying). Even though I know the other person loves me, I still can't help but seek approval. In fact, I really don't want anything. I just want her to love me (crying, crying) )"
"The clown's brother."
"I would like to ask if this anxious attachment type is always jealous?"
"Definitely, I'm worried after all."
"No, I want to ask, do you get jealous even in normal social situations?"
"Yes, I am worried after all."
Well. . .
She was confused.
Hahahahahaha.
. . . .
Attached
[Commentary from the military advisor: Attachment-type anxious personality is the ceiling of human love and will never lose the ability to love.
Love is like light to them, and they are the ones who chase the light.
‘I’ was born for love, pure and true! 】
(End of chapter)