Chapter 218: Brother, your flowering period is too short
Lin Feng: "I'm just trying to comfort you and give you some advice, but you told me that your wife is in the live broadcast room, where are you messing with me?"
Boy: "No, I don't know. She just sent me a message saying she saw me."
Raymond Lam: "Aren't you playing me?"
Boy: "Really not."
Lin Feng: "What do you mean now?"
Boy: "Military advisor, my wife has something to say to you when she goes to the microphone. So, just talk to her. I'll go down first."
Where the hell are you running?
Come back to me.
Dududu~
The boy really ran away.
At the same time, a girl's avatar asked for a link.
The corner of Lin Feng's mouth twitched as he mentally greeted the boy's family.
Then he put on a smiling face: "Hello, sister-in-law!"
"Woo woo woo..."
As soon as she got on the mic, the girl started crying.
Lin Feng quickly comforted: "Don't, sister, if you have any grievances, just say it. Don't cry. I just heard what your husband said. If you have any grievances, tell me."
"No, strategist, I'm not crying, I'm laughing, woo woo woo."
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Lin Feng: "No, sister, why are you laughing at this?"
Girl: "The child has just fallen asleep. I'm afraid of waking him up, so I'm holding back my laughter."
"You're so stupid..."
Lin Feng shook his head, he was also amused and didn't know whether to laugh or cry.
He said to the screen: "Brother, you are such a coward. Your wife is so cheerful. She is so frightened by you that she has no future."
The girl laughed for a while before calming down.
Lin Feng: "Sister, I have a question that I am curious about, and I would like to ask you first."
"Yeah."
Lin Feng: "Does your wedding gift really cost 1.2 million?"
Girl: "Well, here we are, they are all 1.2 million, 1.68 million, and 2 million."
Lin Feng suddenly said: "This thing is too scary. Do you have a dowry for the woman over there?"
The girl sighed: "Such a strategist. If a rich man marries a rich man here, he will give a lot of gifts in return."
Lin Feng: "I just heard that it seems to be like this over there. Marriage seems to be a matter of making money, and the dowry is higher than the bride price."
"That's right."
Lin Feng: "Then why are you zero?"
Girl: "Because he has money to marry his daughter, but if he doesn't have money, he sells his daughter, because he has to marry his daughter off, and then he can get the money to marry his son again."
Lin Feng frowned: "Then do you have a younger brother?"
Girl: "No, I have an older brother."
Lin Feng: "No, so this money is not used by your parents as a guarantee for you, but is used for your brother?"
"That's right."
Lin Feng slapped the small blackboard: "Then you thing, aren't you sacrificing your own happiness and marriage to fulfill your brother? This concept is wrong, it is a bad habit."< br>
Girl: “It’s a bad habit, but there’s nothing we can do about it.”
Lin Feng: "You can refuse."
Girl: "I can't refuse."
Lin Feng: "Then why can't you refuse? Just say that I don't need to spend the 700,000 on my husband and I. I will use it on my children."
Girl: "You bad military advisor, you can't get married if you don't give your parents money."
Lin Feng: "If you don't give me money, your parents won't let you marry?"
"That's right."
Lin Feng was angry: "Damn it, you really sold your daughter!!"
I began to think that the parents took the bride price to keep it for their daughter, and then give it to you when you buy a car or a house in the future.
The purpose of co-writing is to find a wife for my son! !
They just don’t think about it, will this daughter live well when she marries into the man’s family?
Don't you want to be looked down upon by others? !
. . . . . .
On the barrage.
"I just came across a video two days ago. My daughter is getting married in the front and my son is wearing a Mercedes Benz (dog head) in the back."
“It’s as if I can’t afford to live in this kind of family.”
"I really look down on these kind of parents. They are thinking about the girl's bride price. Can I make a fortune with that little gift?"
"My friend's mother-in-law is a big talker, and she didn't bring her back because she has two unmarried sons (rolling eyes)"
"But some parents think that their daughter's bride price is for her parents. Not only is it natural that their daughter's bride price should be given to her parents, but they also feel that it is natural for their daughter-in-law's bride price to be withheld by her in-laws. Maybe it's their values. They naturally feel that Daughters are the ones who should be sacrificed.”
"But girls like this are really pitiful. Both sides are not human."
"I said my mother was partial. My mother said who kept me from having that life. If I were a son, he would also give me money (crying to death)."
"I used to think it was news, until it happened to me this year. It really refreshed my outlook. I gave the gift I gave to his son to marry him (I was convinced)."
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Girl: "I have two sisters above me who are the same. It's not just me, but we are all like that, not our whole family.
He couldn't afford 1.2 million at that time. What my parents didn't agree with was that I broke up with my family and insisted on marrying him. ”
Lin Feng: "Sister, I heard that you have indeed made a lot of efforts for him. In order to marry him, you have become separated from your family,
But having said that, your husband also spent a lot of money in order to marry you, and you have to understand this.
If anything goes wrong in your life, talk to him about it. Don't always argue with him. Use him as a vent for your emotions. He is very depressed and in pain. ”
Girl: "I am also very depressed and in pain, and he is not the only one."
Lin Feng: "Yes, sister, you two are in pain, so you have to tell each other and support each other and move forward together,
That doesn't mean you are in pain and I am in pain too. If two people are angry with each other and make their lives worse and worse, this is not a good marriage.
You have to be considerate of him and he will be considerate of you, and the pain will be reduced. Do you understand what I mean?
You two have feelings. If you can break up with your parents for him, it shows that your love is true.
Now I still have a baby. The baby is seven months old and is very healthy and cute. Logically speaking, he should live a happier life than anyone else.
Maybe I am not living a particularly wealthy life, but I am still safe if I am a little rich.
So the suggestion I just gave you is that during the communication process with him, for example, if you have any needs, just give him instructions directly and let him do it.
Don't rebuke, don't talk about it.
This is also the thinking gap between boys and girls. ”
Girl: "But he will do it again next time."
Lin Feng: "Then you can teach me more. Whose habit is not formed? How can you remember it for the rest of your life if you say it once? Sister, let me ask you about the boy or girl you have now?"
"Girls."
Lin Feng: "Okay, then let me tell you, you now have an extra son."
"Are you talking about him?"
Lin Feng: "Yes."
Girl: “But it is said on the Internet that those who are willing don’t need to make friends, but those who are careless cannot be taught.”
fart!
Lin Feng said directly: "Don't listen to those poisonous chicken soups. Why do you mean that those who are interested don't have to pay?
Let me give you the simplest example. I saw a post before. A mother said that I was burned by oil while cooking. Her daughter was very calm next to her.
Then the mother asked her baby, why don't you care about mother?
My daughter said, Mom, you have to be brave.
At that moment, the mother realized that those were the words she usually said to her daughter.
So from then on, whenever her daughter stumbled or got hurt, she would immediately care about her daughter.
Later, one time she just dropped a bowl in the kitchen. When her daughter heard the sound, she immediately ran over and asked her mother if she was hurt.
Do you know what this means?
A child is a blank sheet of paper, and all his behaviors and habits are reflections of his parents.
How to love someone?
How do you specifically hurt someone?
No one teaches this in our country.
Parents don’t teach, schools don’t teach, and teachers don’t teach.
Do you expect him to be self-taught?
Someone may have asked, why do girls do this when no one teaches them?
Physiological differences aside,
That's because boys and girls have different access to their families of origin.
In our country, boys generally grow up being pampered in the family. It’s important to raise children to protect them from old age, so they must be pampered.
What are the characteristics of children who grow up in a doting environment?
Selfish, self-centered, poor in hands-on skills, and incapable of caring about others.
Girls are often required to do housework, care for others, and receive less love from an early age, so girls will think about these issues at a very young age.
What’s more, even if no one teaches girls how to love.
But what is the overall social environment of our country? You can see strong men and weak women everywhere, and you can see men dominating outside and women dominating inside.
What should a woman do in the family?
These are influencing girls in a subtle way.
Therefore, both in terms of practical ability and thinking, he is more mature than boys of the same age.
I have seen an experiment in a psychology book before,
A wife always complained that her husband was particularly cold and indifferent to others, so she asked a well-known local expert for help.
After the expert had a conversation with his husband, he discovered that there was something wrong with his husband’s family of origin.
What's the problem?
My husband’s mother’s grandmother passed away when she was very young. Her mother belongs to a single-parent family.
His mother's father wasn't very family-oriented either.
At that time, experts conducted an experiment,
He found two women, one in her 50s and the other in her 70s,
A 50-year-old plays a mother.
A woman in her 70s plays a grandmother.
The expert asked the mother to turn around and say something to grandma. After saying that sentence, my son burst into tears.
Do you know what to say?
His mother said to her grandmother: Because I didn’t get your love since I was a child, I didn’t learn how to be a mother from you, so that to this day I can’t love myself well, and I can’t love my son well either.
Just after saying these words, my son burst into tears beside me.
In the end, the husband said to his wife: It turns out that my mother doesn’t know how to love me, so I don’t know how to love my wife either.
Sister, can you understand me?
It's not that her husband doesn't love her, it's that he doesn't know how to love her.
Because no one taught him how to feel sorry for a girl and how to love a girl.
Growing up, there were no models or demonstrations in his world.
He didn't get these things in his native family, nor in school, nor even in his friends and social work,
Why did you call him?
Stop telling me why other boys do this?
Because of the same question, I ask you, why are other girls gentler than you?
Why do other girls have the patience to teach their husbands over and over again?
Because everyone’s original family is different and the environment they grew up in is different,
You are not me,
You don’t understand me,
You can't accuse me from your standpoint,
That's a hooligan act!
Since this is your husband and he doesn’t know how to love, please be patient and teach him,
If you've taught her a hundred or two hundred times and he still can't do it, and you say he doesn't love you, OK, I admit it.
But if you expect him to learn this thing after only one session, it’s impossible, sister. ”
. . . . . .
On the barrage.
"Really, I only discovered after observing that my sons really imitate the way I deal with interpersonal relationships. For example, if he messes with me, I scold him to get out, and if his brother messes with him, he also scolds him to get out, with exactly the same tone. , I don’t dare to do this now.”
"When I yelled at my baby, I remembered my mother's face yelling at me when I was a child (horror)."
"My eldest daughter will also scold his sister in the same tone that I usually scold him. Even if I hit him, he will imitate me and hit his sister (ugh)."
"A child is a mirror of an adult."
"So how to teach your children to love is very simple, just show them how much you love them. For example, when eating, don't just bring food to your children, but give more food to your lover and say that your husband has worked hard at work.
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When your husband gets off work, you should go over, give him a hug and a kiss, and tell him that he misses you and are you hungry?
You will find that your children will actually do the same thing as you.
This is what teaches him the ability to love others.
On the contrary,
If you don’t love your husband or wife,
No matter how much you love your child, he will never learn how to love others,
Because from his perspective, all he can see is that all good things are flowing towards him.
Then what he has learned is to demand, be self-centered, and feel that everyone must serve him and take care of his emotions. ”
Ordered.
"No wonder when my daughter was less than two years old, she was looking for band-aids to put on me. It turned out that she was learning from me (happy)."
"It means you are a good mother (thumbs up)."
"How to love someone correctly, I learned it from the Internet (ridiculous)."
"Similarly, I now watch Military Advisor's live broadcast every day, not to eat melons, but really to learn how to love others (crying to death)."
"Don't cry, sisters, as the military advisor said, it's not bad to support yourself when you become an adult."
right!
Come on together.
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Lin Feng: "Really sister, look at you in the live broadcast room, he ran away quickly,
Isn't this the same as a son meeting his mother?
Sister, remember, it’s not just him, boys of our generation are generally in this situation, and their minds are not particularly mature.
He needs a good wife to slowly cultivate some of his habits and teach him the ability to love others.
Your child is now 7 months old, and you don’t want him to see only your accusations and suppression of his father in the future.
Otherwise, when he grows up, he will not be able to learn to love others.
This is another reincarnation. ”
Hearing this, the girl immediately swallowed whatever she wanted to say.
yes!
Just thinking about it is terrifying.
Lin Feng: "I'll leave this topic for you to think about after you get down. Now I want to ask another question."
Girl: "What's the problem?"
Lin Feng: "The child is seven months old. You... ahem, can we have a married life now?"
girl:. . .
Lin Feng: "Don't get me wrong, I'm not sure about this because I haven't experienced this either."
Girl: "Yes...it's okay."
Girls are a little shy.
Lin Feng: "So do you still have a married life now?"
Hee hee hee.
Lin Feng: "Don't laugh, sister, be serious."
Girl: "He...can't do it."
What the hell?
Lin Feng: "He can't do it?"
"No, sister,
No kidding,
Let's be serious.
Because this matter is a way to warm up feelings, I have to understand it before I can give you suggestions. ”
The girl whispered: "Just for a while... It's still a long time."
Lin Feng: "That won't work. I think you have to find a way to restore this thing next."
Don't laugh, this is your priority right now.
Why don't you understand, or complain, these are not important.
Because you have love.
But the life of husband and wife must be the most important thing at the moment.
Well. .
Girl: “But he works the night shift and his working hours are the same as yours.”
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Lin Feng: "What do you mean? Don't talk nonsense, sister, I'm very good."
Of course,
You said that working the night shift is really hard to make up for.
I. . I have a buddy who often works the night shift.
The mind is full of energy but the energy is insufficient.
Later I went to see a Chinese medicine doctor, who said that you were indeed weak.
My buddy said what should I do? Please give me some Chinese medicine quickly.
The doctor shook his head at him,
When he shook his head, my brother's heart dropped.
I have bad thoughts. Isn't it curable and hopeless?
The doctor told him, if I replenish it for you, it will flow out, because this Yang Qi thing, he really needs to see the sun.
If you can't make up for this routine, he will have to adjust his routine.
Sister,
Why do I talk about married life?
I think this is very important in the marriage relationship. Relying on this thing can heat up your relationship,
Let you both feel that the other person loves you when doing this,
This is why we say fights at the head of the bed and fights at the end of the bed.
This represents the passion in marriage, and you guys have to work hard on it.
Sister, let me ask again, is he very bad? ”
Hahahahaha.
Lin Feng: "Don't laugh, be serious."
Girl: "Just...isn't it impossible? I didn't say it was impossible."
Lin Feng nodded: "That's just mediocre performance."
Girl: "We can't hurt other people's self-esteem."
Lin Feng slapped the table: "That's it, that's really bad."
Ha ha ha ha. .
The girl laughed again.
Lin Feng: "Sister, the problem is now clear. What you are facing is postpartum depression, and your husband is facing a physical deficiency..."
Poof~
Ha ha ha ha.
Lin Feng: "Stop laughing and be serious, so the problem you have now is that both of you are sick, not that your relationship has really broken down.
Sister, you need to face up to your depression during this stage of breastfeeding,
It is recommended that you find some activities that can divert your attention, such as playing games, watching live broadcasts, and watching TV dramas, to balance this inner feeling of yours.
Then there is your husband. He has to work hard, keep fit, and see Chinese medicine.
You said that a man is 28 years old, which is his golden age, and it is not possible at this time. Brother, your flowering period is too short. ”
Poof~
Hahahahaha.
The girl laughed again.
Lin Feng looked at the camera: "Brother, how long has it been since I heard your wife smile so happily?"
The other side of the lens.
The man stared at the live broadcast room on his mobile phone and silently wiped the tears from his eyes.
Said to himself: "Thank you, military advisor, I understand."
The next second,
The car starts.
go home!
(End of chapter)