Chapter 225 Are you my biggest fan? Then I’m going to scold you
The wheat is hung up,
Lin Feng said to the live broadcast room:
"Brothers, I tried my best.
You said you clearly knew he was not the right person,
You also know that this relationship is a bad fate,
But you still can't help but draw the moth to the flame.
The little bit of reason you have left tells you that you should let go, and your arrogant self-esteem will not allow you to belittle yourself like this,
Your soul has reminded you many times that if you continue to persist, you will only be scarred.
But what about you?
Still refusing to admit defeat,
Still with a hint of luck.
The military advisor really had no choice.
Facing a wrong love, there must be an abyss behind him,
Once you step inside, you will never recover.
You obviously understand everything, but you still rush forward with your eyes covered,
The military advisor can only give you the final horoscope: Love comes out of your own free will, and you will have no regrets after doing something wrong. ”
. . . . .
On the barrage.
"Obviously I understand everything" "Let's go forward blindfolded"
"Every time I said it, I was convinced (I was convinced)."
"Yes, it's me (crying to death)."
"My friend said that not only would I hit the wall, but I would also hit my head and bleed. Yes, I won't give up otherwise!"
"Brother, I'm one step ahead of you. I've hit the wall. I've given up. I've seen it clearly and taken it lightly."
"I just climbed up from the abyss, it cost me half my life, and I can never look back."
"I have also let go. It is not worth it to a liar. The garbage should be thrown away."
Well said!
. . . . .
“@strategist, I want to ask, are there really men who don’t cheat? Or are there men who don’t cheat?”
The previous question on the barrage received nearly a thousand likes.
Lin Feng frowned and asked: "Are there really girls who don't make money? Are there really girls who don't think boys are poor?"
On the barrage, a little fairy said: "Yes, yes, I am."
Lin Feng shrugged: "So I also think there are men who don't cheat."
There was sudden silence on the barrage.
Lin Feng: "In the eyes of some people, all men are lustful and cheat. If there is no cheating, it means there is not enough temptation or there is no chance.
Many people can't understand that some men are upright and don't like women, and even attack them for not understanding the style,
But they don’t know that these men insist on their beliefs far more than their desires,
They also have normal desires, but they will definitely stick to their moral bottom line.
Of course,
I believe that no one is born good, because human nature has bad qualities,
But remember,
There are still civilized people in this world who are restrained.
As for you?
Instead of worrying every day whether a man will cheat on you.
You might as well focus on yourself, study, read, and see the mountains, rivers, and lakes,
Go make money, go be beautiful, go get rich.
Because when you become stronger, you will find that those things that you could not get in the past will come to you.
Life is about being able to take things and let them go.
Because those things you can lose never truly belong to you.
Come on, get better,
Stop talking like a resentful woman and saying things that don't make sense. ”
. . . . .
On the barrage.
“Hahahaha, that’s a good fight, very exciting.”
"Believe that there are sincere people, there must be some. You are so sincere, how come there is no other you?"
"Well said."
"I really don't believe it, because when my exes were with me, they would look at any beautiful woman passing by."
"Then why don't you look at a handsome guy passing by?"
Well. .
"Sisters, feelings must be judged by their deeds but not by their hearts. Everyone is guilty of this."
Ordered.
"The military advisor is right. Instead of worrying about whether a man will cheat or not, it is better to develop yourself. For example, I: hang on to my predecessor, coax the current one, tease the next one, keep two, keep one, and develop three, four, five, six, seven..."< br>
Enlightenment!
Publish a book, sisters!
"You're still fucking laughing, the military advisor's face turned black (dog head)."
Hahahahaha.
. . . .
Lin Feng pointed at the screen: "You guys, is this what I mean?"
Next to him, Yu Huanshui also laughed and held his stomach.
Lin Feng glanced at the time, it was 1 o'clock.
Okay,
I won’t talk nonsense to you anymore,
The last three wheat.
Easy!
Ding~
"Hello, Military Advisor."
Another girl.
Lin Feng: "Hello, tell me about your situation."
"Military Advisor, I am divorced and have a 10-year-old boy.
When my ex-husband and I divorced, he used the reason that we couldn't communicate, and I was the one who was divorced.
Some time ago, I took my children to the mall and met him. He was with his girlfriend,
Then he also saw us. He ignored the child and walked directly over.
I was very, very angry about this, so I chased him with my child.
Then he called the child aside to talk alone, far away from me,
His girlfriend was near my side, so I walked towards his girlfriend,
He thought I was going to do something to his girlfriend, so he followed me,
Because he already said last week that he would take the children to play this week, but has he contacted me this week?
Then I asked him about the fact that he told me that he wanted to stay with the child before. I said you didn’t accompany him. Who was it that prevented you from taking care of the child?
He said no.
Then the child came over later, and he said in front of the child that I didn’t want to spend time with the child. I was tired and I wanted to rest.
I was very angry all of a sudden, so I slapped him in the face. ”
Lin Feng: "You slapped him in the mall?"
"Yes, because I was very angry at the time, because I felt that he was a father, a son, and he needed his father to accompany him more to give him more courage,
My son is currently promoted to a dan stage in Go. He has been promoted from 4th dan to 1st dan very smoothly.
You can't even fight a life-or-death battle after rising from level one,
I think it's because he doesn't dare to attack, and also because he's afraid of difficulties. ”
Stop, sister.
Lin Feng: "What exactly do you want to ask me?"
"I feel that although my marriage has failed, our love for our children has not diminished. This is what I think is the ideal state. I am connecting with you and I just want to ask you, is this my opinion correct?" < br>
Lin Feng frowned: "Sisters, is this not an emotional issue?"
Girl: "I know, but I especially like to watch the military advisor's live broadcast. I think what the military advisor says is very reasonable and makes people feel transparent, so I want the military advisor to give me some advice."
I'm still a big fan.
Lin Feng shook his head and said: "First of all, thank you for your support and trust in me. Since you want my advice, I can't fool you, right.
But what I say next may not be what you want to hear.
Are you mentally prepared for this? ”
The girl was stunned for a moment.
Nods: "Military advisor, please tell me."
Lin Feng: "I think it is right for your husband to divorce you."
? ? ?
Lin Feng: "Because women like you are really unattractive. As an ex-wife, if you see your ex-husband going to the mall with his girlfriend, and you can slap her in the face, there must be something wrong with your brain."
Well. .
. . . . .
On the barrage.
? ? ?
"What's going on, why did the military advisor scold the girl?"
"The father of the child pretended not to see the child, so he made the mistake first?"
"I don't understand!"
"I lost it. The military advisor is in trouble."
"What a bullshit anchor, you have incorrect views."
"I'm already very sad, and my words are so hurtful."
"Hot chicken anchor."
. . . . .
Lin Feng: "You may feel that you are obviously the weak one, why should I scold you?"
Girl: "Yes, why did you scold me?"
Lin Feng: "Because you deserve to be scolded."
? ? ?
Lin Feng: "You are such an adult and you don't even know what divorce means?
What is divorce?
Divorce means that this person has nothing to do with you anymore.
Do you really need me to explain this to you?
Since the child has been awarded to you.
Do you understand that it is not illegal even if he visits the child once every year or so?
To put it bluntly, divorce means that your child has no father.
He has the obligation to pay child support and has no obligation to help you take care of your children.
From now on, you have to rely on yourself to raise your children. This is called divorce, do you understand?
Come on, sister, tell me the truth, do you still regard him as your husband? ”
Girl: "No."
Lin Feng: "You can pull me down. It's a high-sounding statement. It's because they didn't say hello when they saw the child.
In fact, it's just that you feel uncomfortable seeing the newlyweds loving each other.
Also, why didn’t people say hello when they saw the child?
That must be your reason.
My ex-husband understands your character so well,
Knowing that if you stop to talk at this time, you must break up with him.
Otherwise, after you call someone to stop, why would they take the child aside and talk away from you?
Isn't that just to avoid you? I'm afraid you'll explode or you'll talk nonsense.
Then, when my ex-husband saw you walking towards his girlfriend, he immediately followed her,
Why?
It’s not because I know you too well that I’m afraid you’ll cause trouble. ”
Girl: "I didn't mean to cause trouble."
Lin Feng: "You are so stubborn? If you don't cause trouble, why are you looking for someone else's girlfriend? What do you want to tell her?
You just let it slip that you asked the child's father if someone wouldn't let you see the child?
Who do you want?
Aren't you just trying to pick someone's girlfriend?
If the child's father hadn't come over, you would have started fighting with your girlfriend in the mall.
Your ex-husband knows you too well,
So you are the one who is divorced, and you still don’t understand it.
I also like to describe these mistakes in a high-sounding way.
You say it's for the sake of your children, but in fact it's because you were divorced, and you feel angry, and you're holding it in. ”
The girl was silent.
. . . . .
On the barrage.
I lost it!
On the surface: The ex-husband is angry because he ignores his son.
In fact: I was jealous when I saw my ex-husband and his girlfriend in the early stage.
Suddenly awake. "Should I say it or not, the military advisor's ability to penetrate the essence is too strong."
“And you can judge a girl’s irritable personality by just reading a few words about her.”
“It’s so transparent.”
"This kid is terrifyingly strong (Niubi)."
"Even so, I still think what the anchor said is wrong. Even if two adults get divorced, the son is his. How can the child have no father after divorce?"
"It's not that the child doesn't have a father, it's that the woman has no right to ask her ex-husband to treat the child. The ex-husband can choose the way he thinks is right. Although he can be condemned morally, he does not have this obligation from a legal perspective."
Ordered.
. . . . .
Girl: "But is he right? Why does he say he doesn't want to take care of the child?"
Lin Feng smiled and shook his head: "Is that really what he meant?
Sister, your character is too annoying.
I can all imagine the scene at that time,
You must have been so aggressive over and over again that you forced him to say such a thing. ”
Girl: "Should I force him?"
Lin Feng: "Otherwise? Why should I divorce you? Haven't you figured it out yet?
Why did they divorce you in the first place?
It’s been made very clear,
Unable to communicate! !
Not only can he not be able to communicate with you, I can’t communicate with you, and the law can’t communicate with you either,
Because the law tells you that you are divorced,
You still have expectations for him and hope that he will give something.
I hope he will not only pay child support, but also come back to see the child every week.
Just like you told me just now, you hope that after getting married, you should have an ideal situation, that is, both father and mother will be good to their children.
It sounds like nothing is wrong.
But is this something you can decide alone?
They couldn't stand you and didn't want to live with you, so they divorced you.
He now has a girlfriend and is about to start a new family of his own,
Maybe within a year, people will have their own children.
How could he still be here playing the role of a loving couple with you, taking good care of the children together?
Sister,
Divorce has its costs.
You can't just unilaterally think how you want to live after the divorce. You have to ask other people's opinions.
It sounds cruel and even anti-human, but this is the reality.
Even for this matter, your son can complain about his father and the family.
But you are the only one who is not qualified.
Because you are legally divorced, you no longer have any relationship.
In other words, how you feel today, whether you are happy or not, has nothing to do with others.
You even rushed up and slapped someone, what did you think?
You said you were relieved,
But in reality?
Let me tell you, the relationship between the two of them will be better after you slap them.
My ex-husband is even more glad that divorcing you was the right thing to do.
My girlfriend also wants to thank you.
Are you still feeling relieved now?
Are you stupid? ”
After Lin Feng finished speaking, the girl burst into tears.
. . . . .
On the barrage.
"The relationship between the two of us will be better with your slap"
Damn it!
It’s heartbreaking to kill people!
"This is the truth, but I can better understand the difficulty of life and the anger of the mother of the child."
"Is it possible that this difficulty was caused by herself?"
"You still dare to hit people when you are separated. I don't know how much you can do when you are not separated."
"If a woman has a bad temper, she is 100% divorced. Even when Jesus came, she said it was useless. I said so (dog head)."
"But you are obviously very sad, and you still speak so hurtfully."
"Then what should we do? Hold him up? Beat him well, beat him well, beat him to the point where he screams?"
"This is the normal thinking of the little fairy."
Hahahahaha.
. . . . .
Girl: “I beat him because he would hurt the child’s heart if he said that in front of the child.”
Lin Feng: "You can pull it off. Is the child sad, or are you jealous of that woman? Do you need me to be so straightforward?
You really want to know what your son is thinking, right?
Come,
I tell you.
Your child saw his mother beating his father in public like a shrew.
shopping mall.
There were fucking people all around.
10 year old boy.
The age when skin is the thinnest and when face is most important.
In front of the public, he must feel extremely inferior in his heart.
You still have to force his father to say that he doesn't love him and doesn't want to see him.
Do you know how desperate and painful he felt at that moment?
And what's more terrifying?
When you get home, you will hold your son in your arms and say, Mommy beat your daddy all because of you today.
Because your father doesn't love you and doesn't want you anymore, your mother got angry and started fighting with your father.
Is this really the case?
Not really,
It's because you are jealous that someone else's girlfriend is young and beautiful.
In the end, he even kidnapped his son morally and blamed the incident on his son.
There are too many mothers like you.
You can never imagine how much harm you have caused to your child.
That's it.
I’m telling you about my sister,
Your son can remember it for a lifetime.
It will be the shadow of his life.
Do you know what this is called?
Psychological trauma!
Your son is already psychologically traumatized, and you are still discussing with me why he cannot advance to the next level in Go?
Just wait and see. If you don't reflect on yourself, your son will have problems in school and life. ”
The woman was completely stunned.
. . . . . .
On the barrage.
"I'm 35, and I always remember clearly that my mother was beaten in the toilet by my father. There were glass stubble all over the floor. My mother was beaten until she couldn't scream, but I pulled the glass stubble and stabbed her. It’s been a month since I put it into the sole of my foot, and it’s still bleeding. After all these years, I still remember the fear in those nights (ugh).”
"Me too. I was only a few years old when I saw my father beating my mother. I was scared to death. I felt sorry for my mother. I knelt down to my father and begged him not to hit my mother. Now that I have grown up, I am very timid and always like to please others. Always afraid of conflicts with others (crying to death)”
"Really, I am 40 years old and I still vividly remember the scene of my father and my mother."
"I grew up in an environment where domestic violence was very serious, and I spent my whole life healing my childhood."
"Children who grow up in such a family have psychological defects and are indifferent to their loved ones. They don't care about others or love others. Unfortunately, I met such a person."
sad!
. . . . . .
Maybe it was because she saw the barrage that the woman cried even harder.
Lin Feng: "Why are you crying? I saw some people on the barrage saying that I scolded you too harshly, but I tell you, I scolded you too lightly,
I won’t scold you harshly today. You can’t figure it out. What is the result of your inability to figure it out?
Your son will be useless.
After all, you have expectations in your heart when facing this man,
Is it right to still regard him as a husband?
You are incapable of living a bad life, right?
You don’t have the ability to take care of a boy, right? ”
The woman cried: "Yes, I...I'm afraid that I can't take care of him alone."
Lin Feng shook his head: "You, if you had been honest earlier, you wouldn't have been scolded."
Girl: "Actually... I also want to change. If... I don't have the heart to change, I definitely won't... I beg you to join me."
Lin Feng: "So you said you are my biggest fan, and I also have a very responsible attitude.
Why did I come up and scold you?
I am not responsible for you.
Otherwise, I can totally scold that man with you,
But is it useful?
Is that right?
Is it really someone else's fault?
They divorced you.
He also has a girlfriend now.
You are in two different worlds, you know?
People only have the obligation to pay child support.
The child is under your control, and you still need to pray that the child needs father's love for his growth.
Aren't you talking nonsense and being a hooligan?
If you really want to break it off, it will be someone else's girlfriend who breaks it off with you.
You still want to grab someone else’s girlfriend and break it off.
You should understand clearly that if you are divorced, she is not a mistress. You must have this awareness.
If I don’t scold you today, you will never understand.
Okay,
I scolded and scolded,
You also recognize the problem.
Then I will tell you about the future.
How should families who have left home educate their children?
Many people may think that children belong to two people. Although adults are divorced, they cannot deprive children of their father's and mother's love.
If both parents have this responsibility and awareness, that is the best situation.
But reality is often not as simple as you think,
First of all, the parent who takes care of the child may live with the child for a long time, and may have some conflicts and minor emotions due to the excessive discipline of the child.
At this time, if the other party intervenes and gives some sugar-coated bullets, the child's emotional balance may tilt.
If you meet someone with evil intentions again, forget it and don't enlighten your children. Instead, you will take the opportunity to plant some seeds of hatred in your children's hearts.
Then the child will become very difficult to discipline.
Secondly, since the other party left the child behind and rarely visited the child for his own freedom and happiness,
Maybe it’s been a long time, and in order to make up for my inner guilt, I came back to see my child,
His guilt was satisfied, but when he took one look and left, the child suffered.
Once separated, you still have to cry, and the emotion may last for many days.
And when the child thinks about him day and night and wants to see him, he doesn't have time.
Therefore, the parent who does not raise the child should have less contact with the child, which is more beneficial to the child's mental health.
It’s still the same premise.
If both parents have strong sense of responsibility and awareness, then just pretend I didn’t say anything. ”
. . . . .
On the barrage
"Really, I just got divorced. After my ex-wife took the child out to play twice, I clearly felt that the child could not see the kindness of the people around him, and would only remember the small favors from her mother, and then take care of the child. , the child is disobedient.”
"So I would rather my ex-wife come to pick up the children than let my ex-wife take the children out to play."
"Yes, if she has a bad personality and is immature, she will really say all kinds of bad things about you to her children, ruin your image, and make her children hate you."
"Some people don't want children and refuse custody, and then they have to set up the persona of a good mother during visits. They eat, drink and have fun when the children are little. After that, after they pat their butts and leave, you still have to take care of them. Children’s study and life, ignorant children cannot tell what is really good.”
"I'm different. I also come from a divorced family. Although I was sentenced to my father, my parents loved me very much. When I was a child, I lived with my father for two years and my mother for two years. I often changed schools, but I feel that I am no worse than other children. ”
"Man, you're lucky."
(End of chapter)